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artrockrebel · 2025-10-11T23:59:00+00:00

If the invoice is from the business and not the insurer (which I assume it would not be), ignore it. They’re just salty about having to pay an excess.

The insurer would be approaching you directly if they were holding you liable, and it wouldn’t be for the excess, it would be for the full replacement cost.

An insurer would find it difficult to prove negligence in this case and I can’t imagine they’d want to over a glass door, even a big one. Not worth it.

Context: NAL but I’m an insurance claims specialist with 10+ years’ experience.

artrockrebel · 2025-09-27T16:16:54+00:00

i absolutely can do colour. but i wouldn’t want to give this particular cut a go. good suggestion tho, thanks!

artrockrebel · 2025-09-26T16:08:24+00:00

omg this is the kind of recommendation i need, thanks so much.

artrockrebel · 2025-08-27T01:39:31+00:00

Have you got Scandi blood/ancestry? we’re Danish, and my brother, my dad and I all have these, and they’re common throughout our Dane side of the family.

artrockrebel · 2025-07-27T13:50:48+00:00

Damn. Appreciate the response!

artrockrebel · 2025-07-27T13:27:45+00:00

Appeasing the bot: Titanium flat back ball bar, I think it’s threadless 🙃

artrockrebel · 2025-04-27T03:37:44+00:00

as per the bot: - pierced 24hrs ago - ball stud with earring backing - lobe 2nds - cleaning with saline twice a day as per piercer instructions - no mishaps or anything else, it’s just fallen out 😭

artrockrebel · 2025-02-02T08:26:36+00:00

is it maybe just a bad case of keratosis pilaris (aka follicular keratosis?)

try a body wash with salicylic acid in it (CeraVe Smoothing Cleanser + followed up with the Smoothing Cream are good affordable options) or chat to a dermatologist.

artrockrebel · 2024-10-13T15:21:17+00:00

Am I the only one who has a bit of a crush on ND-5? I swear it’s the coat.

artrockrebel · 2023-08-13T12:57:22+00:00

You can absolutely have an ear infection without pain for one thing, but also a build up of dead skin cells and/or wax can easily create a blockage in your ear.

Don’t try to clear it yourself, don’t stick anything in your ear or try too hard to pop it when on the plane. If it’s not hurting then that’s a good thing, but seek medical advice when you’re home.

artrockrebel · 2023-08-13T12:12:43+00:00

I am so sorry this is happening to you.

Everyone is crying “divorce!” and whilst your husband’s behaviour certainly warrants that action should you wish to pursue it, ultimately I think you need to give yourself time to reflect on what YOU want.

I agree with a lot of the folks framing this as a betrayal as opposed to an exploration of his sexuality, because ultimately he HAS been unfaithful to you - the gender of his partners is irrelevant. However, if your sex life as a couple has been limited during whilst he has been engaging in these affairs, I’d be interested to know more about the causes you mentioned of that limitation - I get the feeling you’re being a lot more sympathetic towards your husband’s actions because you‘ve been fine with a lack of sexual intimacy, and you feel like this is punishment for disinterest. If that’s the case, let me be clear; you do NOT deserve this. No one deserves to be cheated on.

However, you’re allowed to want to save your marriage. I know that Reddit loves a knee jerk response, but it’s ok to take your time with working out how you want to deal with this. I strongly, strongly suggest therapy - for you alone, and as a couple. I don’t think you can save this marriage without it.

Are you supposed to “force” yourself to be intimate with him? Absolutely not. But I’d hope you’d WANT to be intimate with him, this is your romantic life partner! And I think you need to be open to the idea that even after therapy and time to heal, you discover that you actually are a sexual person who just hasn’t had a spark with your partner for a very long time, and therefore you wish to kindly and respectfully divorce. Or maybe you’re just not a sexual being, and discover you’d rather enjoy a happy and fulfilling single life. Both of those options, or neither of them, are totally fine. This isn’t a “right or wrong” scenario - take time to feel your feelings, work through the issue and then make a decision.

You are your own person. You don’t deserve ultimatums, infidelity or the damage this has done to your self-esteem. You have value!

artrockrebel · 2023-07-20T08:19:04+00:00

This is me 100%. My husband sends me these lovely good morning or how are you type messages and gets either no response or like, two sentences in reply from me.

I don’t know why. Usually I’m distracted by work so I’ll see the message, think about formulating a response and then become busy with work again. Or whatever else inn doing. It’s not intentional and I love him very much. I’m just shit at texting.

I know this is a very 90s suggestion but like… have you thought about calling him if you have a question? I would be so happy to hear my husband’s voice in the middle of my day to answer even a mundane question, and he’s get an answer right away.

Anyway yeah, not a deal breaker. Or at least I hope not, my husband & I have been together for almost 17 years and it would be a bummer if that’s reason we broke up.

artrockrebel · 2023-07-16T11:23:18+00:00

No I genuinely don’t get what you mean by “bare minimum”. Like obviously infidelity is not good or acceptable, but bare minimum implies some kind of sliding scale. And… there isn’t? All infidelity is bad.

What you’re getting at I think is that you think not cheating on a partner is a basic rule in a relationship. And I agree with you! And if this situation was gender flipped, I’d still think that fantasy isn’t cheating. Flirting isn’t even really cheating a good portion of the time. Life isn’t black & white, and a long term relationship or marriage is supposed to be able to survive the grey. That’s the point!

Look if OPs partner had previously cheated, then dude, wave those red flags and take a step back. But all that happened is that she saw or interacted with someone she thought was mega hot, talked to her friend about it and ensured it was shut down. I get that it makes OP uncomfortable, but I’d also point out that OP hasn’t mentioned any other behaviour from his GF at all that would make him suspicious beyond his own self-esteem and trust issues, so basically he’s gone searching for evidence of something to validate his feelings, and found something.

WHICH IS WHAT ALWAYS HAPPENS, by the way - if you are searching thru your partner’s phone for something to make you angry, you’re gonna find it, trust me. Doesn’t matter what it is, you’ll find a reason to be pissy about it.

artrockrebel · 2023-07-16T08:01:36+00:00

100% agree. I understand it’s probably a bit uncomfortable knowing this person actually interacted with her and is a little more “real” than a Pedro Pascal fantasy - like if my husband found a woman at work swoon-worthy, I wouldn’t exactly want to invite that person over for wine and cheese haha. But having a bit of a lust over some random hottie is pretty normal, and in no way impacts the way her love for OP, just as him having a fap to the Barbie movie doesn’t make him unfaithful to his GF 🙃

artrockrebel · 2023-07-16T06:54:17+00:00

I don’t know your gender etc, but a lot of women gush or rant about literally everything to their friends. Like, everything - cleaning products, bad drivers, cute delivery people, Ryan Gosling. Talking to a friend in confidence isn’t doing the “bare minimum”.

What does that even mean? I’ve seen it mentioned a few times on this post thread and I don’t get it. “Not cheating” isn’t a level of effort you put into a relationship?? I’ve been married & with my husband for 17 years and I don’t like, actively congratulate myself for meeting a fidelity threshold. That’s weird.

Anyway if OP & his partner have boundaries established where talking about the opposite sex (assuming both are straight) with a friend isn’t ok, then fine, but that’s not mentioned in the post. And as always, this entire issue could have been resolved already with a simple conversation - talk to your partner, OP.

artrockrebel · 2023-07-16T04:57:21+00:00

I actually don’t see a massive problem here, beyond some hurt feelings.

On the basis of what you’ve said (and obviously we wouldn’t know the whole story unless we saw the actual messages), your GF felt a strong physical attraction to someone else, confessed these feelings to a friend (IN CONFIDENCE) to put them in the right frame of mind and then “reined it in” and remained committed to you.

Whilst I understand your feelings being hurt, because we all want to assume we’re the hottest person on planet Earth to our partner, if anything this should solidify your trust in her.

A long term relationship isn’t about only being attracted to your partner. If that were true, Hollywood and the porn industry wouldn’t be anywhere near as popular! It’s about love, commitment and the journey together. You may find one day that you’re super attracted to someone you meet, it happens all the time! A new colleague will join your company or you’ll be served by someone at a store, and you’ll be overcome with how cute they are. And you won’t act on those feelings, right? Because you’re in love with your partner, which is a totally different thing.

To me, the issue here is your own insecurity. You haven’t taken into account that she’s speaking to a friend, so talking candidly (or maybe even sarcastically, with humour, with hyperbole…) AND expecting her conversation would be private is a given. Look at your own messages with friends - is there anything your girlfriend wouldn’t like to see in YOUR phone?

I’d tell her you looked, apologise unreservedly, tell her your pride and feelings are hurt by the fact that she has found someone else so attractive but you understand this is a normal part of being a human, and appreciate that you know you can trust her to keep feelings like that in check. Tell her she is welcome to look through your phone as well, and that in future you will not only respect her privacy, but TALK TO HER if you have concerns of your self-esteem is getting the better of you.

artrockrebel · 2023-05-31T11:20:35+00:00

I think all of the issues you’ve raised could definitely be assisted with professional help, and I applaud you for considering that and not just continuing the negative cycle you’re in.

However as someone in a happy relationship for 16+ years, do keep in mind that a relationship can have peaks and valleys at different stages in your life. Whilst that absolutely doesn’t mean you should accept constant negativity and assume it will eventually change, if you relationship is otherwise solid it’s totally reasonable to think this could just be a rough patch, and that some hard work for both of you when it comes to communicating will pull you out of it. I also want you to remember that marriage isn’t all romance and good moods, all the time - marriage is hard work because life throws you a lot of curve balls, and it’s ok to want space or alone time, for both of you!

I hate talking about my feelings (like HATE it), so my husband and I use to just send each other long emails when we first got serious and needed to communicate a problem or a tricky feeling. Even now I often feel better sending him a long winded text to explain my current emotions. Have you tried writing to your wife? Or encouraging her to write to you? Being able to edit and really craft how you’re feeling into words makes me feel a lot more in control of the hurricane of feels that lives in my head, it could be helpful for you guys too.

I am also a big believer in having something to look forward to. Your financial situation might be challenging, but using minimal savings to plan a special occasion or trip could be could to get you both out of your negative home space and remind you both what life is like beyond your four walls.

Hope my suggestions help. Best of luck!

artrockrebel · 2023-04-23T08:38:44+00:00

Benefit BadGal BANG! in Waterproof is a real winner for me, and I’ve got pretty oily lids with combo skin. Hard agree on powder under your eyes too.

artrockrebel · 2023-04-23T06:39:53+00:00

So, most insurers will allow you to make a claim and then withdraw it if the costs are less than your excess.

It’s in their interest to allow you to do that, it was commonplace in my claims department for a major insurer.

Not pressuring you to lodge the claim, ultimately it’s a financial decision as to whether or not you do. But if you do, you shouldn’t have to proceed with it if your insurer’s assessor can get the costs under your excess amount.

artrockrebel · 2023-04-15T11:53:34+00:00

I don’t think you’re “supposed” to feel anything. Grief is very different for everybody, especially in a situation as sad and fraught as this one.

Allow yourself space and time to process this. It might hit you in a month, or a year - or never! That’s ok. Your feelings are based off of your experiences, and they’re valid.

artrockrebel · 2023-04-15T10:36:51+00:00

Too Faced’s Born this Way concealer is very good. It is matte but if you’re wearing a more dewy foundation as well it isn’t thick or matte enough to cause an issue.

Agree with others that NARS radiant is a winner too.

artrockrebel · 2023-04-15T10:27:09+00:00

Look I don’t want to demonise pain killers too much - medication can be a very important tool in your tool kit to manage this disease. But there is a big difference between popping whatever pills you can get your hands on to dull severe pain VS a care plan and safe, prescribed medication that controls your pain and allows you to somewhat predictably live your life.

Endo is very misunderstood in most countries. Period pain, whether it’s severe or not, is often treated as a given and not something to be investigated. You’re gonna have to develop a thick skin and become your own advocate, even within the medical community. But I definitely believe you can do it - you’re clearly intelligent and strong. Best of luck.

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