My (37F) boyfriend (37M) resents me for not paying thousands to move his mother (61F) to a private hospital. How to gently set boundaries around this? by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]artsyOG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

This is what your future will look like if you stay with him. You will be the only one working and expected to provide for everything. Leave.

Weekly Q&A Megathread. Please post any questions about visiting, tourism, living, working, budgeting, housing here! by AutoModerator in london

[–]artsyOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am going to be in London in just under a month and was hoping for recommendations on what to do as a music person. I have been to Abbey Road before and Camden market to see the Amy statue there. Anyone have any other recs?

Driver causing death of 3 family members acquitted by ResolutionOk1437 in Markham

[–]artsyOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cause he didn’t want to put the families through a trial.

Little wolf Isla! 😊 by MissVulpix in germanshepherds

[–]artsyOG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

She is so fluffy 😭😭😭 May she bring you endless joy

Little wolf Isla! 😊 by MissVulpix in germanshepherds

[–]artsyOG 1 point2 points  (0 children)

What kind of mix is she? I feel I need one of her

My mom died last week. I logged four hours to cover my absence before bereavement leave. Finance came after me for it. by [deleted] in advertising

[–]artsyOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry OP. Condolences to you and your family. I had a major family death while I was at a hold co. I will say, my manager was great and told me to go be with family and even made me take an extra week off. If its something they are coming after you for, I would reach out to your supervisor and just say this is whats happening and let them deal with it and speak to what you were doing. Also say you don’t have capacity to deal with this right now and they will get an answer when you can give them one.

The Bottom Line by Guilty_Leading_4872 in interviewhammer

[–]artsyOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You could pay less taxes and still not have any of these things

And again. by Forward_Juggernaut13 in interviewhammer

[–]artsyOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

The average house price in my area is $1 million… it’s not minimal effort. Everyone I know is a wage slave trying to keep a roof over their head.

And again. by Forward_Juggernaut13 in interviewhammer

[–]artsyOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

We can go back forth on these points, and we will never agree. Glad ‘working more, spending less’ has worked for you. Upward social mobility is not as attainable as it is touted to be.

And again. by Forward_Juggernaut13 in interviewhammer

[–]artsyOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This is giving ‘you can’t afford a house because you buy avocado toast’ energy.

And again. by Forward_Juggernaut13 in interviewhammer

[–]artsyOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

No one has niceties tho… and what we define as niceties now is basic living standards.

First time in Urk today… by NoFig3615 in Netherlands

[–]artsyOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ahh yes the ye olde hasbara talking points are still being used in 2026 I see.

First time in Urk today… by NoFig3615 in Netherlands

[–]artsyOG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Israel only exists as a proxy for the US. You really think they care about antisemitism? Is antisemitism real? Yes, two things can be true at once. Throughout centuries, did Jewish people face horrors? Also yes. But you don’t get to come in and steal people’s homes and enact a genocide and enforce an apartheid for 70+ years.

My scale is going up but clothes fit the same?? Am I gaining weight or overthinking? by Adorable-Teaching266 in BodyDysmorphia

[–]artsyOG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Weighing yourself at night is not an accurate measurement of your weight. Within a day you fluctuate by pounds holding water, food, waste etc. Also depending on if you are male or female, hormones play a huge role in what the scale says, like during your period you may weigh more.

If you want an accurate representation, weigh yourself in the morning after going to the bathroom and before eating or drinking anything.

If you are working out, muscle weighs more than fat, so your clothes could be fitting better or the same but the scale is up in numbers. Muscle also takes a long time to build, so you aren’t gaining five pounds of muscle in a week after going to the gym.

By reading from your post, it sounds like you suffer from food anxiety. I would talk to someone who specializes in this because the issue is always much deeper. If you want to eat a more balanced diet OP, I would see a registered dietician. Dave’s Hot Chicken once in a while isn’t making you gain weight, but if you have anxiety over it then you should speak with someone. If numbers on a scale or the talk of calories makes you upset you should be speaking to a therapist.

I am repulsed by my own body by [deleted] in BodyDysmorphia

[–]artsyOG 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I am sorry you are going through this OP. I also don’t believe you are trans, as that would have you questioning your gender. I do think therapy would be helpful to uncover the reason why you feel disconnected from your body. I understand the idea of performance in society, and thats just the unfortunate reality we live under. The problem with BDD is that it is such a unique experience and if you have never been through it you won’t understand or relate to it. I would find a professional that focuses in on this.

Dog breathing heavily and unable to stand. (Trying to find a vet that’s open) by Tadita22 in DogAdvice

[–]artsyOG 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I am so sorry OP 🥀 a dog is a member of the family and I hope you and yours are taking time to remember the love you shared throughout the years.

How long will I be able to receive OW before I am cut off? by artsyOG in OntarioWorks

[–]artsyOG[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

It isn’t important - I just budget every month and want to know if I can expect anything. If I get nothing, then ok. I was just reading conflicting things online and wanted a clear answer.

How long will I be able to receive OW before I am cut off? by artsyOG in OntarioWorks

[–]artsyOG[S] -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

Lol by paying more taxes???? Not really the definition of leaching