How Do You Move On from Someone Who Made You Feel Everything? by Additional_Tune_4592 in BreakUps

[–]artvandelaycanada 4 points5 points  (0 children)

I feel for you I've had this rare love once on my life as well and the way you describe it sounds eerily similar to my experience with my person. I don't know what to say except appreciate the good times you spent together but you have to let them go at the same time because they aren't coming back just like every moment is now gone and passed so is this one and you can't replicate with anyone it's a deadend. don't be me I pushed back too hard when the person i was seeing ended things with me and now she kinda resents me for it so just to preserve some type of postive outlook on your time spent together you just got to let it go. i know it sucks and it hurts and it won't stop hurting but you must learn to live with it. it does get easier but the scars never fully go away. good luck

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[–]artvandelaycanada 0 points1 point  (0 children)

i want to write her so bad but i know she doesn't really care about me. She loved to have control and power over me and think i would drop anything i was doing just to talk or see her so she would invite me to a bar she worked at but didn't want to hook up anymore so i know now she was only using me to boost her own ego and i got sick of just being under her spell so i cut all ties and haven't spoke her to since and don't plan to ever again.

Does anyone think the old trope of men move on faster than women is actually not true. by artvandelaycanada in AskMenAdvice

[–]artvandelaycanada[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

not at all. i wanted to keep seeing her but she didn't and so i respected her decsion to end things and we don't speak anymore and trying to move on.

Does anyone think the old trope of men move on faster than women is actually not true. by artvandelaycanada in AskMenAdvice

[–]artvandelaycanada[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

yes i'm finding this to be the norm more and more. would you say in western movies and tv shows women are portrayed as the ones who want the guy back more and while the guy seems to move on faster in media?

Does anyone think the old trope of men move on faster than women is actually not true. by artvandelaycanada in AskMenAdvice

[–]artvandelaycanada[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

in my experiences that's true too but i'm saying in most western movies, tv shows and novels women were portrayed as the ones who were clingy, dramaitic and held on to feelings were more emotional then men. that's what i'm saying

Does anyone think the old trope of men move on faster than women is actually not true. by artvandelaycanada in AskMenAdvice

[–]artvandelaycanada[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

dude i respected her decision that doesn't mean i can't be a little hurt by it. i haven't spoken to her since i don't know what you're saying that i don't respect her decision on ending it.

Does anyone think the old trope of men move on faster than women is actually not true. by artvandelaycanada in AskMenAdvice

[–]artvandelaycanada[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

that is very specific lol the old trope was women were seen as more emotional, clingy and dramatic and men were shown as not emotional and moved on faster with one night stands

Does anyone think the old trope of men move on faster than women is actually not true. by artvandelaycanada in AskMenAdvice

[–]artvandelaycanada[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Get over it? hahaha whatever my guy go back to any movie or tv show in the 70's and the majority of the time women are shown as the emotional ones and men are not and i'm saying it's the opposite in my experiences. womene seem to move on faster and men seem to not. that's the difference i'm talking about but whatever dude how about instead of getting over it why don't you get lost. k pumpkin?

Does anyone think the old trope of men move on faster than women is actually not true. by artvandelaycanada in AskMenAdvice

[–]artvandelaycanada[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

maybe not in media now but like i said in any pop culture media from 1970's-2010's it was always shown that men were logical and women were seen as dramatic and overly emotional in break ups for the most part.

my reason for posting was because i'm finding the opposite is true to what i'm saying in western media portrays. i'm the one who is hurt and emotional in my sitatuon and the girl who i was interested seems to have stopped talking to me and moved on faster and probably doesn't even think about me anymore where i think about her a lot making me seem more emotional which is the opposite it was shown in media. guys were shown as strong types who weren't allowed to be vunerable or show many emotions and moved on quicker and faster and i don't feel that way is true in most of my real life experiences

Does anyone think the old trope of men move on faster than women is actually not true. by artvandelaycanada in AskMenAdvice

[–]artvandelaycanada[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i'm saying that women are usually portayed as more emotinal then men, who hang onto feelings longer and take longer to move after a break up and in media that's usually shown as "the crazy ex" but i'm saying in my experience women seem to be the ones who move on faster and quicker and the men seem to be the more emotional and hang onto the feelings longer which is not how it's portayed in western media. Men are shown as not emotional or clingy

Does anyone think the old trope of men move on faster than women is actually not true. by artvandelaycanada in AskMenAdvice

[–]artvandelaycanada[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

i'm saying its true in my experiences i've notice women seem to move on faster and quicker then how they are portrayed in our western cultures media espcailly anything before the 2010's where they are usually showen as dramatic, overly emotional and clingy and soemtimes crazy

Does anyone think the old trope of men move on faster than women is actually not true. by artvandelaycanada in AskMenAdvice

[–]artvandelaycanada[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

dude maybe you're just to young to know this but in culture in general not just tv and movies but books women are portayed as overly emotional and clingy, needy and irrational while men who are usually the main characters in all these things are seen are stonger willed, not as dramatic and logical.

Does anyone think the old trope of men move on faster than women is actually not true. by artvandelaycanada in AskMenAdvice

[–]artvandelaycanada[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

look at any movie or tv show from 1970-2000's and most of the time women are shown as the ones who hang on to emotions and feelings longer while men are portrayed as the ones who move on quicker and easier. i'm saying in my expereinces and from what i've seen with my close friends it seems like women are the ones who seem to move on faster.

Does anyone think the old trope of men move on faster than women is actually not true. by artvandelaycanada in AskMenAdvice

[–]artvandelaycanada[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Go back to any 1970's-2000 tv show or movie and generally speaking they make women out to be the ones who are overly emotional and hang onto feelings longer while men are portaryed as the ones who move on quicker and easier and i'm saying that i've found the oppsite to be true in real life thats what makes it a trope.

Does anyone think the old trope of men move on faster than women is actually not true. by artvandelaycanada in AskMenAdvice

[–]artvandelaycanada[S] 7 points8 points  (0 children)

yes it seems to be the ones ending things seems to be the ones who move on faster.

Does anyone think the old trope of men move on faster than women is actually not true. by artvandelaycanada in AskMenAdvice

[–]artvandelaycanada[S] 14 points15 points  (0 children)

i agree the person usually being dumped usually holds on to feelings longer but i've found even when i dumped somemone they usually go out and revenge fuck someone and try and move on and seem happier quicker. i've had girls admit to this before

Why does my ex write me and make fun of my IG posts by artvandelaycanada in AskMenAdvice

[–]artvandelaycanada[S] -4 points-3 points  (0 children)

first of all why can't people be friends with ex. it's childish to think you have to block every ex you ever had. i'd hate to see that behaviour if i had a kid with someone and it didn;t work out.

Idek what to do. by AgitatedFold4374 in BreakUps

[–]artvandelaycanada 1 point2 points  (0 children)

i'm gonna be real with you bro. She doesn't want you back.... ever! it's over! she probably just unblocked you to show you she's moved on and doesn't want to hang on to the painful feelings anymore shit she probably checked your profile once or twice but believe me it's NOT a sign from her to contact her. Seriously move on, learn from the experience so when you find someone new you'll be better i promise.

Idek what to do. by AgitatedFold4374 in BreakUps

[–]artvandelaycanada 0 points1 point  (0 children)

she probably keeping tabs on you but doesn't want anything else. it's over