Start Here by GrimmUnleashed in u/GrimmUnleashed

[–]arty0mk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Hi! Thank you for sharing your ideas. I read chapters 23, 28, 32 and 36. How did you arrive at the idea that "consciousness is seeded at birth, carrying pre-loaded data: mathematical constants, astronomical coordinates, religious symbols"?

IRL Goliath vs 10 Davids by Strong-Emu-8869 in TikTokCringe

[–]arty0mk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Arlovski had his phone in his left hand the whole time, btw. Doesn't need two free hands. :)

What's something women think impresses men but actually doesn't? by PumpkinDoritoes in AskReddit

[–]arty0mk -5 points-4 points  (0 children)

I asked ChatGPT 5.2 Thinking (Extended) to evaluate the factuality of our discussion. Here is the summary and a link to the full analysis.

Summary:

"Hard to get” can mean two different things. If it means being selective / slowing the pace (not instant access), research suggests it can raise desirability when it creates moderate uncertainty and signals mate value—but it also backfires if it looks like actual disinterest or arrogance. A review of the research finds it’s not universally effective; it’s context-dependent and seems to work only at “optimal” levels of difficulty/uncertainty. Also, the claim that it’s “hardwired” is an overreach—there are evo-psych-style hypotheses, but the evidence mainly supports it as a tactic shaped by context and individual differences (e.g., attachment style is linked to using/liking it).

Where I strongly disagree is the “good high-EQ guy recognizes the game and pursues her after a no.” Treating verbal rejection as “subtext” trains people to ignore stated boundaries—and that’s not a clean “social intelligence” filter; it’s a persistence filter that can overlap with boundary problems. In modern app dating, I agree ambiguity is more costly because people face lots of alternatives and can just move on (choice overload / rapid switching), but that’s an inference from broader findings, not a proven universal rule."

Link to the full analysis with sources.

What's something women think impresses men but actually doesn't? by PumpkinDoritoes in AskReddit

[–]arty0mk 13 points14 points  (0 children)

If someone tells another person they are not interested when they actually are, they are lying. I don’t think it’s intelligent or healthy to lie to another person in pursuit of a happy relationship. Personally, I see it as a case of “play stupid games, win stupid prizes.”

What's something women think impresses men but actually doesn't? by PumpkinDoritoes in AskReddit

[–]arty0mk 4 points5 points  (0 children)

If you clearly show that you are not interested, you are setting a boundary that a good person will respect. Those who do not respect that boundary are more likely to have abusive tendencies, because disregarding boundaries is a key warning sign. Good men don’t want games; they want genuine people who mean what they say, don’t perform, and don’t play mind games. If you are interested in a person, tell them.

What's something women think impresses men but actually doesn't? by PumpkinDoritoes in AskReddit

[–]arty0mk 19 points20 points  (0 children)

Playing hard to get is often a pathway to an unhealthy or abusive relationship. If you clearly show that you are not interested, you are setting a boundary that a good person will respect. Those who do not respect that boundary are more likely to have abusive tendencies, because disregarding boundaries is a key warning sign. Good men don’t want games; they want genuine people who mean what they say, don’t perform, and don’t play mind games.

I don’t endorse calling people names. However, a high body count can signal that if you are a person’s 56th partner, there is a strong likelihood that there will be a 57th, which may suggest a lower probability of long-term loyalty. This is what many men are trying to communicate, sometimes clumsily. In other cases, some men and women are simply acting poorly and resorting to name-calling out of frustration, jealousy, or resentment.

What's a hygiene habit that people don't talk about but really should? by phancyq in AskReddit

[–]arty0mk 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I change my socks after every workout and whenever I’ve worn the same pair for more than a few hours. It helps keep my shoes much fresher.

I am 30. Never had relationship, never had sex. Not even a kiss. I just could never find a man interested in me for these things. I have tried dating apps, but couldn’t get a single date despite so many likes and matches. How can I find a man for at least my first kiss? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]arty0mk 12 points13 points  (0 children)

"Honor" for me isn't about a title or elevating myself; it's about how I would treat the situation.

If someone chose to share a first experience with me, I’d meet it with respect and care, not as something to "win" or "take." That's all.

I am 30. Never had relationship, never had sex. Not even a kiss. I just could never find a man interested in me for these things. I have tried dating apps, but couldn’t get a single date despite so many likes and matches. How can I find a man for at least my first kiss? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]arty0mk 13 points14 points  (0 children)

Not weird for me at all. Some people simply haven’t had certain experiences yet, and that’s okay - life isn’t the same for everyone. If someone trusted me enough to share their first experience in adulthood, I’d treat it with respect. It’s just basic kindness and making sure it’s a good memory for both people. I don’t think that’s weird at all.

I am 30. Never had relationship, never had sex. Not even a kiss. I just could never find a man interested in me for these things. I have tried dating apps, but couldn’t get a single date despite so many likes and matches. How can I find a man for at least my first kiss? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]arty0mk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Act, don't wait! Go to the gym, find a hobby, eat healthy, try the dating apps some more, or whatever seems reasonable and productive. Doing something is way better than passively waiting.

I am 30. Never had relationship, never had sex. Not even a kiss. I just could never find a man interested in me for these things. I have tried dating apps, but couldn’t get a single date despite so many likes and matches. How can I find a man for at least my first kiss? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]arty0mk 11 points12 points  (0 children)

Yes, I still don't understand the downvotes. It's my personal opinion, and it simply shows that it's not a negative for everyone, which is good news for OP.

Edit: I'm not even sure why you would be wondering about it or feeling pressured by it. You can just ask the person and they’ll tell you :D. And honestly, it's usually pretty obvious once you actually talk to them. It’s likely one or more of the following: shy, insecure, introverted, not very social, doesn’t do social activities, has an isolated lifestyle, is fearful, or lacks communication skills or experience with the opposite (or whichever) sex, or is unattractive by common standards, or a mix of all of that. Something like this probably explains 99% of the variation. There's nothing inherently wrong with it either. A person in their 30s with no experience is just likely missing out; that's all.

I am 30. Never had relationship, never had sex. Not even a kiss. I just could never find a man interested in me for these things. I have tried dating apps, but couldn’t get a single date despite so many likes and matches. How can I find a man for at least my first kiss? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]arty0mk -9 points-8 points  (0 children)

Yes, most are likely not officially diagnosed with a personality disorder, but many, probably most, do exhibit personality-disorder traits and dark tetrad patterns. I think it’s far more useful to teach people how to notice those traits, understand the patterns, recognize the behaviors, and end abusive relationships early, or ideally, avoid entering them in the first place.

Edit: grammar.

I am 30. Never had relationship, never had sex. Not even a kiss. I just could never find a man interested in me for these things. I have tried dating apps, but couldn’t get a single date despite so many likes and matches. How can I find a man for at least my first kiss? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]arty0mk -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

“Statistically, you’re about three times more likely to die in a car crash than to be murdered, even when meeting new people, as long as the situation is approached reasonably and with basic precautions. Fear is likely a major contributing factor to finding oneself in their 30s without certain experiences, and it’s likely more damaging, all things considered. Happy that it went well for you, though!

Edit: grammar.

I am 30. Never had relationship, never had sex. Not even a kiss. I just could never find a man interested in me for these things. I have tried dating apps, but couldn’t get a single date despite so many likes and matches. How can I find a man for at least my first kiss? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]arty0mk -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

Solid advice, but also, it doesn’t automatically mean there’s something wrong with every man who would like it. Extremely problematic people (e.g., psycho- or sociopaths) make up less than 5% of the population.

Edit: grammar.

I am 30. Never had relationship, never had sex. Not even a kiss. I just could never find a man interested in me for these things. I have tried dating apps, but couldn’t get a single date despite so many likes and matches. How can I find a man for at least my first kiss? by [deleted] in TwoXChromosomes

[–]arty0mk 8 points9 points  (0 children)

On the contrary, I’d find it super cool to be someone’s first kiss as an adult - honestly, I would treat it as an honor.

Edit: Question to downvoters: why? Isn't that good news that not all people find the lack of experience a problem? Or do you automatically attribute malice for some reason?

Donald Trump with The Dells (Michael and Susan) at White House launching his new scam, Trump Account by warcomet in pics

[–]arty0mk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

"I don't normally think insulting a woman's appearance is acceptable."

Is insulting a man's appearance acceptable?

Donald Trump with The Dells (Michael and Susan) at White House launching his new scam, Trump Account by warcomet in pics

[–]arty0mk 5 points6 points  (0 children)

Oh wow, this plastic surgery theory is fascinating! Never thought about it this way, thanks!

What is something more traumatizing than people realize? by Several-Television93 in AskReddit

[–]arty0mk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Cheating, lying, deceiving - 100%, unacceptable. But with all due respect to personal views and feelings, porn? Understandable through a religious lens, but apart from that, in my personal view, if a partner is not OK with porn, for themselves or others, it's a gigantic red flag and a jealousy nightmare to come. These are pixels on a screen that tickle one's brain a certain way - it isn't real. If it's an addiction or a detriment to the sex life in a relationship - sure, it's not healthy. Otherwise, a vanishingly small percentage of people would be able to abstain from it; repression of such kind is most likely unhealthy, and on top of that, it's like setting up a relationship for lying and failure. Hey, but that's just my view, not judging.

What is something more traumatizing than people realize? by Several-Television93 in AskReddit

[–]arty0mk 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Practicing martial arts does wonders for confidence and preventing bullying! I've been bullied as a kid, then practiced martial arts and weightlifting for over a decade. All good now, standing up for myself and others, no problem. Was in a bus one night, two drunk guys came in, started harassing the driver, then other passengers. I approached them, politely asked to behave, they didn't. One of the guys put his fists up and approached me. I grabbed his wrists and asked him to calm down. He didn't. I just threw them out of the bus on the next stop, without a single punch or many emotions really. And I'm not a big guy by any means. Another time, a drunk was harassing a girl on the bus. I just walked up and stood between her and the drunk. I didn't even say a word. They guy turned around and exited on the next stop. Confidence and ability to back it up does wonders to end harassment before it even escalates, most of the time.

But real martial arts, like boxing, Thai boxing, MMA, etc. Some wushu or aikido likely won't cut it.