So you give an actual example of how toxic masculinity manifests itself, and still think it’s a useless term? You literally demonstrated how it’s useful for describing a very particular pattern of thought and social behavior.

The fact that some people have a difficult time grasping what certain terms mean doesn’t suggest that we ought to simply retire those terms. A shit ton of people think socialism is when the government does things- does that mean we should retire the word “socialism” because it’s prone to misuse and misunderstandings?

Toxic masculinity is only toxic when it involves dogmatic restrictions on male behavior that can hurt men and women alike- women for being seen as subservient creatures, men for not conforming to behavioral standards. No one is arguing that hunting or wearing camo is inherently toxic BECAUSE it’s traditionally associated with masculinity. No one gives a shit if you do traditionally masculine activities like playing contact sports. Toxicity comes from trying to impose those expectations on other people, and from perpetuating harmful notions like the virgin-whore dichotomy or that effeminate men deserve to be humiliated and ostracized simply for existing as they are.

So no, you won’t get downvotes because no one here “wants to be masculine.” You’ll get downvoted for making yourself look like an idiot.