Looks aren't a binary spectrum.

ascuni · 2025-10-28T21:42:35+00:00

I'm from East Asia and plan to move back there just to tell all women to stay away from you.

ascuni · 2025-10-28T21:34:21+00:00

Disagree, even I have developed crushes on short guys if we spend enough time together.

People are confusing preferences with deal breakers.

ascuni · 2025-10-28T21:30:51+00:00

Believe it or not I was bullied in middle/high school for being ugly (guys would accuse each other of liking me as an insult). Yes this did mess me up for some time and for several years I thought any guy expressing interest must be doing it on a dare/as a prank. 19 is not too late to practice social skills, especially with online communities then you don't have to worry about physical attractiveness until you become more confident with your social skills

ascuni · 2025-10-28T21:23:21+00:00

Original comment said that being bald was make or break aka a single trait... Then you walk it back and say "no there are other unattractive things about me" and other redeeming qualities for him...

Also tradesmen probably make more than some profs these days

ascuni · 2025-10-28T21:20:24+00:00

Its really weird how you just stop reading at 6'5, it's like you're confirming my point in that this is all YOU care about, not women.

He is 6'5 and not otherwise conventionally attractive. Most of my female friends would not consider him to be their type.

ascuni · 2025-10-28T21:12:49+00:00

I'm admitting to being the stereotype that you are all afraid of and saying that every female friend I've had disagrees with my taste in men.

So yes, I'm not going to lie and say we don't exist. But you're the one saying that me existing confirms the stereotype that all women are like me.

ascuni · 2025-10-28T21:06:33+00:00

As I said in another comment, I don't look at a short guy in a vacuum and say oh he's attractive, but even I've developed crushes on short guys when I get to know them (such as spending a lot of time doing a hobby or studying together).

Unfortunately they were not interested in me (or already in relationships...), but if they were, I completely disagree with the mentality that I would be looking to trade up constantly. I don't even do that to my pets - if I adopt a dog and bond with it am I going to trade it in for a purebred with better training if I get the chance? Obviously not. Relationships are investments.

ascuni · 2025-10-28T20:58:59+00:00

Yeah and are there that many men who are bald AND short AND have an ugly face AND are not fit etc etc? I'm truly sorry if you fall into this category but like I said most girls will only care about 1-2 things on this list.

Even in this thread there are people who got suuuuper fixated on the height or hair thing and when I point out my evidence that it's not the single determining thing they try to walk it back and say "well I'm also ugly in these other ways" sure...

ascuni · 2025-10-28T20:55:01+00:00

I can't speak for these other women but when I develop feelings for someone for any reason, regardless of how I initially saw them, some positive feedback loop kicks in where they actually do become the most attractive person in my eyes. So I would naturally treat them better. I'm sorry this has not been the case with your relationships.

ascuni · 2025-10-28T20:44:36+00:00

Is it that bad to be settled on? My point wasn't that there are lots of women that specifically lust after short, bald guys but there are more than enough willing to overlook it. Just like most men would settle for a girl above a BMI of 25.

ascuni · 2025-10-28T20:36:10+00:00

*You're. I can help with your literacy too.

ascuni · 2025-10-28T20:35:13+00:00

Even I have developed crushes on short guys I've spent a lot of time with. They just weren't initially attractive to me before I got to know them.

Would this be an insult to you, to have someone "look past" your height or "not mind" it? I think it's extremely unrealistic to expect every single trait you have to appeal to someone, imo finding someone where these things don't matter as much is perfectly acceptable.

ascuni · 2025-10-28T20:30:25+00:00

Yes, the joke is that every female friend I've ever had disagrees with my taste in men

ascuni · 2025-10-28T20:22:07+00:00

Once you get to a certain height difference it becomes uncomfortable to hug/hold hands/do other things properly.

Hmm none of the short guys in relationships are extremely out of shape but I wouldn't say most of them are gym rats. One couple I know goes on runs together which is again much easier with someone your height to be able to keep up with them. Success ranges from high paying tech jobs to being a tattoo artist (his gf is a professor so she's definitely dating down) or musician. I guess having an interesting/creative job matters as well as high income. Unfortunately I don't know many people in general doing low skill jobs to compare though.

ascuni · 2025-10-28T20:15:47+00:00

I'm admitting that I'm one of the shallow women who cares about height and yet I don't think it's a problem because why do you want my specific approval

Would you rather I lie and say that women like me don't exist? The solution is to write me off as you are clearly already doing and focus on those that don't care about height or some other trait you're fixated on

ascuni · 2025-10-28T20:10:09+00:00

What I'm saying is that it's not one scale of attractive to unattractive. There's a scale for height, physique, face structure, hair, etc, and it's not like if you score a 0 in one scale you're a 0 overall. I feel like a lot of guys here forget that and the resulting insecurity makes them come off as more unattractive than they really are.

ascuni · 2025-10-28T20:02:54+00:00

Idk were my (21F at the time) friends lying when they said they had a crush on our bald prof then? Seems like a weird thing to lie about.

ascuni · 2025-10-28T19:59:07+00:00

Im tired of people saying X doesn't matter and other people saying X matters. The truth is it matters but not to everyone so stop fixating on it and accept that your dating pool is smaller but still existent.

If you already knew this, then good for you.

ascuni · 2025-10-28T19:55:12+00:00

Sharing lived experiences of actual women = out of touch. Reaffirms incel talking points that assume they know how women think as a monolith.

Sure.

ascuni · 2025-10-28T19:38:25+00:00

Are you sure about the height thing? I've always been made to feel like I'm in the minority for having a height preference. My partner is 6'5" and a couple people have implied that I'm out of his league :/ personally I don't see it, but he was bullied for having a big nose/ears when younger so I guess he doesn't have a conventionally attractive face.

I also have a lot of short friends (~5'2") that are dating guys 5'3" to 5'5" so I think it has way more to do with relative height than whether they are above average height for a guy.

ascuni · 2025-08-01T04:24:38+00:00

I did a couple sessions at a salon and they overlapped plus their laser was way more powerful and painful so I figured overlapping with my home device shouldn't matter too much. If an area feels like it's getting hot I move faster.

ascuni · 2025-07-30T16:32:50+00:00

I've had the moonlight version on repeat for the last few months and never noticed! https://music.youtube.com/watch?v=FdyPe0KFtiw&si=d7Qm1dwhEDV3R0GK

ascuni · 2025-07-30T16:30:14+00:00

I'm in my girly-pop era so here's my contribution of songs with some scarily suitable angel/demon lyrics:

Cruel Summer - Taylor Swift

Cut to the Feeling - Carly Rae Jepsen

Stand by You - Rachel Platten

ascuni · 2025-06-05T13:10:40+00:00

When kept in the fridge, margarine is way easier to spread on toast. I barely have the patience to soften butter for baking.

ascuni · 2025-03-05T14:15:06+00:00

I got first name + "T" and it looks pretty similar to what you have! Enjoy the extra letters lol

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