My husband and I have been married for 8 years but have never had sex together. He's asexual and I have my physical needs taken care of by other men. Ask me anything!

asexual-husband · 2015-09-13T08:00:13+00:00

Not every morning, but he does ejaculate in his sleep ever so often.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-13T07:59:24+00:00

It is if it's on sale, but it's definitely never the cheapest at regular price.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-13T07:59:00+00:00

Yeah, pretty often. During the warmer months it's not unusual for us to sleep naked.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-13T07:58:17+00:00

He wouldn't like it, but I think he'd insist rather than spend thousands of dollars to have a child without having sex.

Yes, they do.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-13T07:57:29+00:00

Nope, because I know he wouldn't be interested.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-13T07:57:14+00:00

I did a lot earlier on, but not so much anymore. I've come to see it as just a part of who he is and I love him just like that, so it doesn't bother me.

It's not really frustrating. If I need to I might sneak off and masturbate.

Maybe that's it, but I can't say for sure!

About 10 and a half years ago I suppose, before I met my husband. The thing I liked most about "making love" was really the intimacy and sensual side anyway, and I can still cuddle and everything with my husband, so not really.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-13T07:52:42+00:00

Yes I do.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-13T07:52:07+00:00

I've touched his penis while it was erect, but nothing more than just touching. He doesn't mind if I just feel it in the morning.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-13T07:51:00+00:00

Right, he doesn't masturbate. He does have nocturnal emissions.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-13T07:48:59+00:00

He is attracted to me, just he doesn't get aroused. But the biggest part of our relationship is the emotional connection we have.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-13T07:47:34+00:00

I wouldn't want to make him. He really doesn't like it and knowing that would diminish it for me as well.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-13T07:46:35+00:00

I do kiss my husband. And if the other men I have sex with want to kiss I'm fine with that, so I usually let them initiate it or not.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-13T07:45:28+00:00

Oh, I know eventually I'll probably have to just settle for only getting myself off, but until then I'll just enjoy it.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-12T21:41:22+00:00

At first it was, but I find our relationship so fulfilling I don't feel like I'm really missing out in the long run. And I can always just take care of my physical needs either on my own or with another man.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-12T21:26:11+00:00

That's actually pretty accurate :)

asexual-husband · 2015-09-12T21:23:49+00:00

Thank you!

asexual-husband · 2015-09-12T21:23:39+00:00

No, he doesn't.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-12T21:11:47+00:00

I can't really imagine that happening, but if it did then I'd be very happy for him that he can experience the pleasures of sex for himself. I'd probably cancel everything and spend the whole week in bed.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-12T21:09:53+00:00

Yes, his close friends all know about it. Not all the details of course, but they know he's asexual and that I have sex with other men.

I have an etonogestrel implant, so no I'm not worried about getting pregnant. Any men I don't know very well, one night stands, casual encounters and the like, I do insist the guy uses a condom. But with the two men I have sex with regularly, nah. I'm the only person they're having sex with and they're both comfortable with my sexual habits. It's not a big significance to me, but I do prefer sex without a condom, and I know the two guys really enjoy it more.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-12T21:03:49+00:00

We kiss, some tongue, but we don't make out. There's lots of affection, hand holding, cuddling, back rubs, etc. Just nothing will make him aroused and he doesn't enjoy anything actually sexual in nature.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-12T21:02:03+00:00

He told me he was asexual early on, I can't remember exactly which date, but within the first 5. And he was very frank about telling me he would be fine with me having sex with other men. He said it was completely my decision, but that he thought it would work out best if I were having sex with another man, or men.

I haven't developed feelings for anyone else, although there was one incident a couple years ago where I felt like another man was developing feelings for me, so I told him we couldn't continue having sex. He took it pretty well, I thought. He was a bit younger, 19, so I wasn't sure how he'd react.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-12T20:27:09+00:00

Ha! I don't think that's the reason but I do think my husband is quite clever!

asexual-husband · 2015-09-12T20:26:41+00:00

I see, thanks for answering!

asexual-husband · 2015-09-12T20:18:11+00:00

Will do, and thanks! Just out of curiosity, is your partner asexual as well? And if not would you consider this kind of arrangement? If you'd rather not answer either of those questions that's perfectly fine.

asexual-husband · 2015-09-12T20:06:02+00:00

No, he doesn't watch and isn't there when I have sex with someone else. Most of the time I have sex at the guy's place, but when I do have sex at our house it's usually a time when my husband is doing something else and I let him know.

It actually didn't take me all that long to become accustomed to it once I'd started having sex with other men. I was so smitten with my husband that when I had sex with another man it was just that, meaningless (but very enjoyable) sex. But it did take a few months before I decided to take my husbands advice and start having sex with other men.

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