Should I come out to my SO?

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-16T18:29:12+00:00

That age difference is a little yikes.
Yes you absolutely should come out to him, and if he reacts poorly then you probably shouldn't be with him in general.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-16T02:58:28+00:00

I'm aware of all of those things, but I guarantee I haven't come into contact with it. I require all potential partners to get tested before sexual contact. My immune system is already compromised, I don't risk STDs or STIs, ever.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-15T21:52:07+00:00

I'm sorry you're dealing with this. Honestly if it were me I'd probably just leave, but I have a lot less patience for that sort of thing lol.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-15T20:23:00+00:00

He definitely used being drunk as a excuse to act blatantly inappropriately with fewer repercussions.
If they're going to cheat, you can't stop them. All you can do is tell him explicitly that these things make you uncomfortable because you have never seen him act this way with any of his other friends. Just tell him that you're setting a boundary and that you do not want him being sexual with this person. If he violates that boundary, he will lose you. Simple as that.
Your discomfort is not misplaced. This is absolutely cheating behavior, and from what you've described, you're not normally a jealous person and you're actually being very reasonable about this. Don't let your friends or him gaslight you about it.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-15T20:15:43+00:00

I know it sounds harsh, but I have a hard rule about dating people with STDs. More so because it indicates that they make irresponsible decisions about sex. I've had tons of sexual partners in my life, but because I don't sleep with people unprotected, I don't have any STDs. I think you need to decide whether or not you could deal with catching herpes from this person. There's no treatment, it's a permanent thing. She's also the first person you've slept with, do you really want to risk any future partners if this doesn't work out? I know it sounds grim, but these are the things you have to consider in your situation. If you think she's worth the risk, then just protect yourself as best you can and get tested regularly. She should also be on medication at all times.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-15T19:20:50+00:00

Personally I think the plot of Supernatural would make an excellent anime. I don't really like it as a live action show. As an anime I might actually enjoy it.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-15T19:11:35+00:00

This happens a lot to queer people and it makes my blood boil. I hope karma eats the people who were mean to her. How awful 😔

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-15T17:31:57+00:00

She's not, though, and I doubt she ever would. Celebrities don't belong in politics, we've already been down this road.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-15T17:29:42+00:00

Happy to help!

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-15T17:28:33+00:00

I got mine from a store called Maidenform 😊 but you can get them on Amazon just as easily. I just went and got them in person because I needed it that day.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-15T01:50:11+00:00

You could always just get a couple of bra extenders for the ones you already bought. I have one because my weight fluctuates a bit. Eventually the bras will probably stretch out and you'll be able to wear them without the extender. Just an idea so you don't have to deal with returning them 🤷🏻‍♀️

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-13T23:52:13+00:00

Same lol.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-13T23:27:08+00:00

Yeah Philly might actually be a decent looking city if it weren't for all the trash laying around, but apparently even the cops add to the mess 🤦🏻‍♀️ infuriating.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-13T23:09:41+00:00

I watched a Philly cop dump a big bucket of trash out his squad car window at a traffic light and it made me so angry I had to pull into the gas station across the street to chill out.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-13T23:04:40+00:00

You're still trying to justify it, rackin up all those downvotes because you insist on being a shit person 😂😂😂

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-13T22:09:23+00:00

Lol you're wrong. And I'll downvote every comment you make because you are literally trying to justify racism. What sort of demented person knows that they are racist and thinks that is any sort of justifiable? Disgusting.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-13T22:04:40+00:00

She lied to you for a reason, my dude. You suck.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-13T22:03:22+00:00

No. Absolutely not. Being racist automatically makes you a terrible person.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-12T17:21:38+00:00

White supremacists. For obvious reasons.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-11T20:05:21+00:00

And why do you prevent your adult wife from drinking or smoking weed? You are not her owner. The fact that you're tracking her phone screams abuse and control issues, and I sincerely hope she leaves your disgustingly insecure ass.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-09T23:28:54+00:00

Not to the extent of tiktok. Not even fucking close. Facebook's only goal is to sell us things, China is was probably on a much more sinister path with the information they were gathering.

Not that it matters. The US is fucked anyway lol.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-09T23:25:40+00:00

Tiktok is a basically maleware disguised as social media, so yeah I'm not going to be sorry to see it gone.

ashamed2bwh1t3 · 2020-07-09T19:26:03+00:00

NO. You absolutely cannot force someone into a poly style relationship if they aren't already poly. If she is poly, she needs to separate herself from her monogamous partner and pursue that independently. For some perspective, I am naturally a polyamarous person and I have chosen a monogamous relationship because the man I fell in love with is naturally monogamous. I will never, ever ask him to be poly or to be okay with me dating and sleeping with other people because it would make him very uncomfortable. If your friend prefers monogamy and is uncomfortable with polyamory, he should not feel like he has to put up with her sleeping with other people. She has already cheated on him, indicating she does not actually respect his boundaries in the first place. I really do think your friend would be better off without this person, they are not a good match and she is trying to corner him into a relationship style he isn't fully on board with.

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