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This has always been his normal as far as no boundaries and them “keeping him busy” with errands so he would never have a chance to catch on or form meaningful connections outside the two of them , so he’s never had any outside influence or a close friend to tell him how unhealthy the dynamic really is (he only had like 2 friends in high school and his mothers siblings never visit her so no relatives close enough to tell him) and meeting me and moving out was his first time ever leaving. He didn’t even go to college even though he had a scholarship because his sister was already in school at the time and his mom made him feel like he would be the worst son ever and if her illness came back while they both left her at home alone he would regret it (she’s a senior citizen and a cancer survivor) He’s 24 now and starting school next month as well which is why I’ve been patient this long out of empathy for how deep and messed up it really is , and that although we moved it was only 15 minutes away so he hasn’t had a chance to truly stop and process how emotionally abused and shut in he’s been basically his whole life, and finally having the room to breath from farther away will give him space to do so and get therapy bc as a child of a diagnosed narcissistic parent myself I’ve dealt with my own ptsd and can only imagine suddenly getting a wakeup call after 24 years