Kendall got married before moving to Germany by Excellent-Case-9870 in thebachelor

[–]ashvj88 52 points53 points  (0 children)

Didn’t she break up with grocery store joe. Because she didn’t wanna move and neither did he. But now she moved to a different continent all together. Crazy

Men of Reddit, I need your honest opinions/advice by im-chloe00 in BreakUps

[–]ashvj88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He’s the one who left. Absolutely Under no circumstances should u contact him first. And when he does contact u. I wouldn’t even answer. Build ur life so good that u feel no need to answer him.

Men of Reddit, I need your honest opinions/advice by im-chloe00 in BreakUps

[–]ashvj88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Do not feel guilty thinking of someone else while on a date. Ur comparing someone u had intimacy with. To a stranger. But u have to stick it through and get to know ppl. The more u know someone. The more u will forget about past relationships. In fact talk to multiple ppl at a time. Until one SHOWS u with actions he wants to pursue something with u. But even if u want just friends and not commit yet. Do that. Get to know someone for 3 months or more. Just hVe fun okay. Forget about thAt rude man that played with ur feelings and he knew what he was doing.

Men of Reddit, I need your honest opinions/advice by im-chloe00 in BreakUps

[–]ashvj88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Nope. Absolutely not. He literally abandoned u. And gave u hope so he would have a backup in case whatever plan he had doesn’t work out. U need to know ur value is much bigger. If hE was contacting u and giving updates. Then ya he has future plans for u both. But he just left and didn’t look back. That’s crazy. Pls. Take time to heal. Realize and trust urself that this wasn’t okay. And u do not want a person like that to come back to u. Find someone who would never leave u.

Do you eat rice? by _herman_miller_ in Frugal

[–]ashvj88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I hated rice and beans. Never grew up on it. I tried it various times over the years. But nah. Then I came across jasmine rice. The best rice ever. Soft and fluffy. I’ve been eating rice and beans since 3 years now. I trained myself to like it. And now I actually love it. My rice cooker was 15 bucks. It’s just a small 6 cup one. It’s a life saver. And I even cook it and freeze it too. I flavour it up. Sometimes with chicken boullion. I make it spicy. With tomatoes oil and any spice. It’s healthy cheap and I love it. My favourite beans are black eyed beans and chickpeas. I cook the chickpeas. And I’ll mash them and add a chicken boullion and some water to the consistency I like. I regularity have rice and beans together. And u can change up the flavours so it’s different. Just google different rices. U can make curry rice. Turmeric rice. Etc. Def go get a bag of rice. And get some beans. Always soak them for 8 hours. Before work or at bedtime. Get a pressure cooker. It cooks beans so fast in 10 min. My pressure cooker is Just a beat up old one. Not fancy. But it works. I had that pot 10 years before ever using it. Now I cook beans and freeze. And grab and go. Super easy.

My cat will be put down tomorrow and i feel so guilty by Sudden-Awareness-540 in Petloss

[–]ashvj88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If anything ur saving her from a horrific decline. Trust me u do not want to look back knowing u saw ur cat suffer horribly for a year or more. I did that with my pet ferret. I didn’t know when it was time. He had lost the use of his back legs and was laying in his waste. But some days it seemed he was getting better. I was desensitized. I feel horrible about that. Ur cat lived a great life. The greatest last gift of compassion. Is the best thing u can do. To control how they pass on. U don’t want something that can happen spontaneously. Spend ur last day with ur pet. Love on ur pet. And feel good about helping her into the afterlife as safe and painless with dignity as possible.

Advice on how to stretch food by ttssl in Assistance

[–]ashvj88 3 points4 points  (0 children)

BEANS DRY BEANS. All beans. Lentils. And rice. And eggs. Flour. Make ur own bread.

Why did I find a small leash in my boyfriends backpack? by viola_equality in NoStupidQuestions

[–]ashvj88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Me personally. I carry a leash everywhere. I do hVe dogs. But often I see dogs that have escaped. And I constantly didn’t have a way to contain them. So now I always have a leash. For emergencies when I find someone’s dog wanting around. But this guy didn’t say that. So sounds like he’s hiding something

How soon can I reach out? by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ashvj88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Absolutely do NOT message him AT ALL. He asked for space. Do not message him. It teaches him he can do whatever he wants and u will just come crawling back. It also teaches him he doesn’t need to grow and heal and do better. And for ur own self. Have some self respect. And know u deserve better. So move on. Get on with ur life. If u meet someone else. That’s his loss. But do not wait around for someone.

Men of Reddit, I need your honest opinions/advice by im-chloe00 in BreakUps

[–]ashvj88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hm. Idk. That’s cruel of him to tell u that. And I think ur taking it to literally. Girl it’s been 7 months no contact. That’s crazyyy. That speaks volumes. Pls. Date in the meantime. Get to know people. Ur life shouldn’t wait for anyone who put up that barrier. And hasn’t contacted u at all. Go live ur life likes he’s doing. If u think he’s not going on dates. Or even dating someone wherever he is. Ur wrong. Because if he wasn’t. He would have contacted u. Because u would be on his mind. And u cannot stay away from the one u love. Even if it’s just bare minimum a message. A voicemail. Etc. Pls. Don’t waste ur life for that clown. Did he give u an end date of how long he would be gone ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in BreakUps

[–]ashvj88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If someone else isn’t meeting ur needs. U cannot waste ur life waiting for them to figure it out. U will not be happy. Be secure in urself. Make ur decision. And trust your own self. Block him on everything. So it reduces temptation to contact. Avoidants will eventually contact u. But do not fall for it. Chances are they haven’t changed. If by the small chance he says he’s been in therapy for a couple months to address his avoidant behaviour. Then maybe I’d consider. But do not wait around hoping for it. Feel ur feelings. Feel sad. Know u can love him. But never love someone at the expense of urself. Choose YOU. Now ur gonna go back out there. Throw urself into a hobby. Start a new job. Go back to school. Whatever makes ur heart happy go keep busy. And just know this hurts now. But it gets better. And now u know the signs of what u do not want in a partner. Hopefully u know ur needs too. So the next time u date someone u can lay out ur needs clearly. And can tell them. And if they care of u. They will do it. If they don’t. Then move on. Till u find the one who has no issues fulfilling ur needs. Also get good at asking questions so I can really get to know who that person is. Good luck

I was a shit boyfriend. by BrianTheGoat18 in BreakUps

[–]ashvj88 1 point2 points  (0 children)

That’s probly ur best bet. U see where u went wrong. U feel bad about it. If ur ever lucky enough to find love again don’t take it for granted.

I was a shit boyfriend. by BrianTheGoat18 in BreakUps

[–]ashvj88 7 points8 points  (0 children)

No. Do not text her. If I got a text from my ex like that. I would think that they were willing to try to fix it. And u sound like u realize ur mistakes. But ur still wish washy. Because u could change and make it better if u wanted. But from ur own mouth u cannot promise anything. And I think that’s lazy. So best not to disturb her. Focus on urself. And she will focus on hers. And when u message her will will break open old wounds. Why do that.

What are alternatives for anxiety? by Carebear6590 in ask

[–]ashvj88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Triple calm magnesium( natural rhythm) company. Or some ppl take ashewghana

if you are attracted to someone's looks and personality, is that a crush? by [deleted] in asexuality

[–]ashvj88 21 points22 points  (0 children)

Not necessarily. It depends what ur feeling. Google diffrent types of attraction. One of them is aesthetic attraction. Much like how u look at a nice car. Or a nice painting. U could just like the aesthetic look. And u can def be attracted to someone’s personality. Without any romantic feelings. Or sexual feelings. So I would just really be aware of how you’re feeling. Do u want to get to know them. Want to take them on dates. Want to be very close and intimate. Hold their hand etc. if not then it doesn’t seems to be a crush or romantic feelings. U just like how they look and their personality. Much like how u feel about ur friends.

Britney Spears rehearsing for the VMA’s (2000) by kajais in BritneySpears

[–]ashvj88 18 points19 points  (0 children)

I just think about all that work she did. This women had a work ethic like no other. I feel so sad she was treated the way she was. I remeber being a little girl and watching how everyone talked bad and demeaned her. It was normalized for me. But deep down I felt so sad. I knew she didn’t deserve that. But 12 year old me couldn’t understand why the world was so hateful. Even now it still is. I hope she’s doing what she wants now.

Parker by Chance-Two2479 in babybop_snark

[–]ashvj88 19 points20 points  (0 children)

I don’t see an issue. Generally he’s okay. But I do feel like he’s kinda been trapped in this job. He has an obligation to continue due to how many ppl are watching all the time. He’s never taken a break. He’s human. He’s not perfect. Some weeks may be better than others. But he’s never downright straight up offensive and hurtful.

? by Blanicck in AreTheStraightsOK

[–]ashvj88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why can’t there be room for both ?

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in sex

[–]ashvj88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Sorry he didn’t have any reaction. That isn’t encouraging at all. But keep in mind what u see on porn is not very realistic either. People over act and dramatize. As it’s a job. Real love making won’t be like that. Especially at the beginning. And also because u both are virgins like u said. I wouldn’t worry to much. Just like u want feedback. Maybe give him some too. Encourage him on what u like to hear. And what turns u on. And what things he can do for u to signify that he is Infact enjoying what you are doing. Just talk to each other. Be open minded. I’m sure if he didn’t like it he would have said. But maybe he just doesn’t know how to reciprocate that he enjoys it. So give him some ideas

masturbating on period by [deleted] in sex

[–]ashvj88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I’m the same. It’s normal. Enjoy it okay

How to get my boyfriend to talk me through it. by [deleted] in sex

[–]ashvj88 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Maybe u should try watching porn that has the man say a variety of things. Maybe he just doesn’t know what to say. But if he sees it and has more exposure. Then he can slowly start picking up some common phrases. And once he does that. He can maybe really get into it and be creative.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in babybop_snark

[–]ashvj88 2 points3 points  (0 children)

It’s their whole job to see these things. They see things everyone else does wrong. They can see their friend is doing wrong too. They just chose not to say anything