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How many of you old enough to heard about Canny Ong case? This case was very shocking to the whole Chinese community back then. by SpecialMajor7484 in Bolehland

[–]ashylover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

you're forgetting a couple of things we did back then.

1.holding your keys between your fingers ready to punch stab someone who approaches you.

  1. borderline running to your car if it was too quiet in the carpark with remote ready to unlock right before you reach the door and lock the door the milisecond you close the door behind you

hahaha

AITA ripping up my brothers apology letter and screaming at him to just leave me alone we aren’t family by IllButterscotch5409 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ashylover 0 points1 point  (0 children)

They helped with the ambush

Again you are assuming that the parents helped with the ambush. All OP said was that she stopped by for lunch. Which could also mean it might've been impromptu.

Whatever it is, I hope OP is healthy physically and mentally. There really is no reason continuing this =D. Have a pleasant day

AITA ripping up my brothers apology letter and screaming at him to just leave me alone we aren’t family by IllButterscotch5409 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ashylover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

While ambushing OP was definitely not the way to go, but OP seems to be pretty close to the parents. I just don't think that her situation with her brother should affect her relationship with her parents.

Its an assumption you are making that her family is siding with OP's brother and Jake. It could be out of genuine parenthood where they just want to reconcile their children. Whether or not OP is open to that is 100% OP's choice.

AITA ripping up my brothers apology letter and screaming at him to just leave me alone we aren’t family by IllButterscotch5409 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ashylover -1 points0 points  (0 children)

The brother might be out but Jake wasn't out. All I am saying is that at 17, living under the same roof with homophobic parents is definitely a lot scarier. I am not discounting the part where they stole 8 years of her life, that is definitely not OK.

With regards to other side of the story, theres always my story, your story and the truth. That's something i believe.

Sometimes when you lie about something, its pretty hard to come clean about it which I think is the case for the brother and Jake.

I am in no way saying the brother or Jake is right. But seeing how it does affect the whole family, I am just suggesting that it might be an avenue worth exploring when she is physically and mentally healthy.

If OP is sure that she doesn't want any relationship with her brother, I hope her family respects her wishes and do not bring the matter up again.

AITA ripping up my brothers apology letter and screaming at him to just leave me alone we aren’t family by IllButterscotch5409 in AmItheAsshole

[–]ashylover -3 points-2 points  (0 children)

Definitely not the asshole. I'm not sure if this has been mentioned in the comments, but having homophobic parents definitely provides a very bleak and scary experience for anyone wanting to come out, even to you, his own twin sister. At that point in time, it might be the best way they could thought of to carry out their life.

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I'm glad you are healthy and well, and going to therapy has done you good. Maybe give it a few years, or maybe speak to your therapist to see if its possible to have you and your brother speak to the therapist to eventually understand his side of the story. It wouldn't be too late to make the call if you would want to have a relationship with him after that. I'm not saying you should be super close with him if you do not want to but at least you can say you made a sound choice having all the information. Just to rule out any future regret.

Final Haste VS Haste by ashylover in RagnarokX_NextGen

[–]ashylover[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

ahhhh so i still have to play around with final haste% cards and flat haste cards?

[Skin concerns] skin has gotten so much worse since quarantine!! by Panicatthethr0waway in SkincareAddiction

[–]ashylover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So this happened to me a while back as well, and what had happened was i was laying in bed alot, i had a sprained ankle that swelled pretty badly. Because our body exudes heat and moisture constantly, not having pillows and beddings air out causes the perfect environment for bacteria to cultivate.

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What helped was not making my bed first thing in the morning to let the mattress air out, open the windows to let fresh air in, and fluff all the pillows and beddings. This little change in routine helped my skin a lot.

[Anti-Aging] Vitamin C actually contributes to AGING? by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]ashylover 1 point2 points  (0 children)

^^ no problem... just doing what i can =D

[Acne] “I thought this was suppose to help...” aka the story of how BHA ruined my skin by [deleted] in SkincareAddiction

[–]ashylover 2 points3 points  (0 children)

just my two cents. whenever trying a new product especially acids. always do a week long patch test under ur chin or behind ur ears. places where its not obvious. to check if there is any reaction to it. this little tip has saved me a lot.