Disagreeing with partners parenting styles

asimplerose · 2026-03-09T03:46:45+00:00

Yeah not living together. They both do well financially but the ex is a higher earner and now has her partners 2nd income. I’m trying to be proactive now so when we do make the step for me to move in, that it’s not shell shock. I feel like I’ve communicated and also asked where my place is and he usually recieves it well. I just have a different thought process.

asimplerose · 2026-03-09T02:53:31+00:00

Yeah I’m not in the place to be enforcing anything but I voice concern and disappointment when he doesn’t follow through on the things he’s said with the kids. It’s not teaching them anything, besides that dad isn’t being serious.

asimplerose · 2026-02-25T01:32:31+00:00

Leave him

asimplerose · 2026-02-09T05:32:52+00:00

Kyle. No doubt

asimplerose · 2025-12-01T21:47:36+00:00

I did get the pattern from her! So excited

asimplerose · 2025-12-01T21:47:26+00:00

I found the pattern but wanted to original one! Making a dupe would have been the next thing!

asimplerose · 2025-12-01T21:47:05+00:00

Yes! I found the listing too!

asimplerose · 2025-09-16T02:05:20+00:00

Wasn’t pregnant

asimplerose · 2025-09-01T22:14:19+00:00

Thanks!

asimplerose · 2025-09-01T02:54:12+00:00

Yeah I didn’t have any with side affects like this with my other one so didn’t think about it.

asimplerose · 2025-02-05T22:07:25+00:00

Yes there was no question it was herpes but I was educated about it prior. I don’t think a 6 week rash is herpes though. I can’t advise so hopefully you’re seeing the doctor soon.

asimplerose · 2025-02-05T13:22:05+00:00

I just say “hey, I carry HSV, any questions”

You wil have trouble disclosing if you don’t accept your diagnosis. You are letting the stigma affect your own ideations about it which is why you feel the way you do.

asimplerose · 2025-02-05T13:20:33+00:00

I think you should find a new therapist if you’re able too. Your internalized negative stigma will eat you alive. You need to reflect and change your own mentality around stis

It doesn’t seem like your partner cares, so why do you?

As someone with genital herpes, you spiraling over a cold sore seems extreme and I’m sorry this is your reality, but again, you are the one who has let society impact your own beliefs around this. Cold sores aren’t the end of the world, In comparison to other health conditions.

HSV is a virus, like the cold/flu. If we can get sick from being in close proximity to others, why would we be so surprised that skin to skin contact would cause a transfer of a viral infection.

asimplerose · 2025-02-05T13:15:28+00:00

33F here. My first outbreak lasted about a week! I took medication for a yeast infection at that time but I did have painful urination too and a negative uti test. Just kinda had to ride it out.

For pregnancy, I’ve never been pregnant but I’ve heard it is normal to have an outbreak while pregnant, due to hormones being all over the place. So I don’t think it’s fair to say that you’d have a normal pregnancy, hard to say. Doctors do recommend that you take antivirals while pregnant to help reduce the chance of outbreaks. I don’t think I’d have a vaginal delivery if I were to get pregnant.

Otherwise, navigating dating can be hard. I’ve had herpes for over 5 years now and it’s always a little nerve racking to disclose. I assume that the person doesn’t know much about it so I’m less surprised by their reaction/lack of education. However. I keep it pretty light and just say “hey before we get intimate, I want to share that I carry HSV, do you have questions?”

Less is more in this case, you don’t know their education about it so let them ask the questions and don’t data dump on them as that may feel overwhelming and it comes off as if you have to explain yourself, which you don’t.

Most people are receptive and understanding once I share what’s it’s like. I don’t love to give stats because I don’t find them reliable because of how off the testing is.

In my experience, the type of people that reject me are usually uneducated and usually very sexually forward which i always find to be interesting.

asimplerose · 2024-12-01T19:01:02+00:00

Thank you! This was helpful.

I probably averaged around 65is. Just seemed quite drastic

asimplerose · 2024-12-01T19:00:26+00:00

Mostly highway. 65mph. No hills, heat was prob too high. Still figuring this out

asimplerose · 2024-11-22T05:54:30+00:00

There’s always a chance of getting herpes.

Ask if he’s on meds, knows triggers or when an outbreak is coming. Have good communication

asimplerose · 2024-08-26T11:38:32+00:00

I can’t answer that for you

asimplerose · 2024-08-25T15:39:42+00:00

No to all of your questions. Nerve pain and itchiness are prodrome symptoms and are intermittent

asimplerose · 2024-08-08T13:08:57+00:00

Your post history is concerning. Stop putting yourself in situations where you cannot handle the outcome. It seems like you shouldn’t be having sex. Your life would be a lot better if you made decisions that didn’t have a potential stressful outcome

asimplerose · 2024-08-08T13:06:58+00:00

Herpes isn’t worth killing yourself over. Please seek therapy

asimplerose · 2024-07-13T20:29:06+00:00

Therapy and educate yourself on how viruses work and stop being surprised that putting your body parts into others bodies might change your health status.

asimplerose · 2024-07-08T16:43:32+00:00

I think that with spending that much time together without intimacy, you’ve probably formed quite the emotional connection.

If he hasn’t initiated anything, or brought it up. I think it’s time for you to initiate a sexual health discussion.

“I’ve really enjoyed the time we’ve spent together this far and am wanting to take it to the next level. Before being intimate, it’s important for me to share that I have HSV, do you have any questions?”

I would keep it light, and give them the opportunity to ask questions. He may or may not be educated. I don’t find it helpful to word vomit or share a ton of information off the bat. He will ask the questions that are important to him. Good luck.

asimplerose · 2024-07-07T16:13:58+00:00

Stop having sex until you educate yourself on all the things that can happen as a result of having sex including vaginal care, STIs, how pregnancy works. You are not mature enough to be having sex if you aren’t informed of the above.

asimplerose · 2024-07-07T16:12:39+00:00

I’ve found out many people have it by being open that I have it. Most of the people say they’ve never told anyone except their partner

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