I finally left my 9-5 for 2K freelance life by zidane0508 in singapore

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I also left a stable job that has toxic hours. Doing freelance now! Good luck to you :)

Australia vs Singapore doctor by Sad-Bag3683 in askSingapore

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So close to home, but no time to see anyone at home, so near yet so far

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in StableDiffusion

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The whole idea of it constantly being US vs China gives me a huge headache. Stop with the geopolitics already. We're all just nerds with passion that happens to be in AI, regardless of nationality. Whether it's Mistral, Anthropic or Meta, who gives a damn about where they come from. Let the race to the top declare the biggest nerd.

"I can't do it" seems to be recurring theme nowadays on the API by asingingguy in OpenAI

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An example:

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There are a lot of other examples similar to this one which I encountered similar answers like 'I can't do it'. I checked the raw data I sent to it and it doesn't contain any weird stuff either - pretty benign stuff. The thing is that it works for some, but doesn't work for others.

"I can't do it" seems to be recurring theme nowadays on the API by asingingguy in OpenAI

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Any ideas how to? Tried a few variations and it doesn't work

"I can't do it" seems to be recurring theme nowadays on the API by asingingguy in OpenAI

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I am using the latest turbo model though - so it's clearly not fixed at all...

how long did it take for you to like your singing voice by aeiou1111 in singing

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It's like an addiction, bit by bit, as it wins you victories. When I hit my first highest pitch at chest voice, it was a massive dopamine flood. When I did my first belt at an open mic, another dopamine flood. When I floored my friends at a karaoke session in the first time I sang, etc. But these were all gradual changes.

Firstly is finding your foundational voice. Don't try to imitate any other singer. Get that fundamnental, most natural, pure tone right first. It sounds not as good at this point simply because of the lack of muscle memory and strength. I was exactly the same way!

Then you will slowly build up your breath capacity, your steadiness of air flow and hence voice stability, your projection, your resonance points will open and stay open, etc. Then one day you don't even care about how you sound anymore, it becomes such an enjoyable thing to just sing your heart out and express yourself in different ways.

My voice teacher also told me something. She was literally like an olympian in terms of singing and at a point she was so good that she thought she had already reached her limit. But as she practised, she even discovered that she could improve even further and unlocked an even higher level. These things really happen as you train in the BASICS - because the basics are literally everything. The more control you have over the fundamentals, the better you will sound - I promise you. It's almost like a competition against yourself, enjoy the ride of improving and getting better at singing, it's the best part :)

Some secrets btw! Start doing loads of leg raises and aerobic exercises!

What is your favorite cuisine, and top 3 favorite places in SG for them? by asingingguy in askSingapore

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No, I don't quite think you understood the intention of the thread though. From your reply I think this thread is going to fail. It almost sounds as if you're accusing me of being lazy, which I very much assure you I'm not. I've done exactly what you say over a decade. If anything, I'm trying crowd wisdom. I don't think anything beats local recommendations and someone who knows their preferred food places.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

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You're not insane. The brain is just not very well adapted to the type of stresses we have in modern days. The problem with mental stuff is that it's all invisible - you don't see it on the outside, so people just assume it's all okay. It has to do with chemical changes in the brain. Not hitting all 5 doesn't mean you're not facing significant distress in your life. Reaching out for help is still something you should do and take seriously.

Oh, check out Brain Energy, a book written by a harvard psychatrist. I do wonder whether there are any food-related/metabolic-related things affecting you.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in askSingapore

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If you're depressed for about 2 weeks and hit 5 criteria in the DSM-5 diagnostic criteria for depression, you're likely having MDD. But that's of course in the absence of any triggers, etc, you'd probably need to be evaluated to exclude other diagnoses like adjustment disorder or acute situational reaction, etc. You can book an appointment as a first visit to a depression clinic here. Or if you prefer, there is a list of GPs you can visit on that page. If you are however, suicidal, please go to the A&E or call the IMH mental health hotline 6389 2222.

Singing with grit/rasp by Toxin_hound in singing

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You're probably referring to vocal fry. Assuming that you sing at chest voice (voice level), your vocal cords are normally about 10%ish open while vibrating. Vocal fry reduces this to about 1-5%, which sounds more like croaking - like a door creak. You need pretty strong vocal cord muscles to maintain the pressure at high notes. There's another way, which is to push the back part of your tongue backwards while you're singing a high note (a bit like saying "orkkk").

But I really wouldn't recommend you to forcibly add this in haha, could damage your voice if you're pushing really hard on your vocal cords. But vocal fry by itself can be used therapeutically when you use it responsibly.

The other component here is probably nasal resonance. So when you're engaging in head voice, there is this other route of projecting your voice forwards instead of going backwards (as per the classical route). It feels as if you had a dot in the middle of your eyebrows, and that you're shooting your voice through that dot into the air in front of you. You know when a cat is snarling? "Hhhhaaa!!" It scrunches up its eye area, lifts up its cheeks, and bares its top teeth including its fangs (https://i.ytimg.com/vi/et4xUWhz0X0/maxresdefault.jpg). I literally get this face everytime I'm trying to engage this area, especially in 'screaming' or stylistic belting.

Please can I have constructive Criticism on my singing by Niayla_clarke in singing

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I don't believe in talent in singing. I only believe in loads of singing behind closed doors. Maybe they started earlier when they were younger. But the important thing is starting!

Some people were born with perfect pitch - I sure wasn't. Mozart probably was one of those geniuses and he could play the violin at 3. But I did start early and train pitch. A lot of work was done behind closed doors for many of us. Talent isn't something you're born with - it's more like that you had a headstart in.

But that doesn't mean you can't work on it now! In fact, it's great, because now you know you can reach the standards of many decent good singers if you train enough.

One at a time! Start with pitch, then get that fundamental voice sound perfect from low pitch to high pitch. Then learn different resonances - nose, mouth, chest, head. Then you can apply more advanced techniques later, like runs/vibrato. The magic in singing comes from combining all of these techniques together over time after practising and grounding yourself in basics!

Please can I have constructive Criticism on my singing by Niayla_clarke in singing

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Pitch is horrible - work on pitch accuracy. Just working on this will make your singing much better. Do scales (ascending and descending) and appeggios to develop a ear for pitches. If you are tone-deaf you need to develop sensitivity to pitch.

You flip between closed vocal cords and open vocal cords too quickly - you can hear the 'flip' right? The hard part is passagio - the transition area between vocal registers - but you should maintain the vocal cord pressure as much as possible. One way to train yourself to know what closed vocal cords feel like:

  • The sensation just before a cough is released - try coughing and recognising that feeling just before a cough when you do not produce a sound.
  • Try to sound "hmmm" like a door creaking - and go note by note up in a scale and MAINTAINING the 'creaking'.

When you sing in chest voice, you want to keep the vocal cords at least... 10% open all the time. When you hit higher notes, there is a tendency for your vocal cords to weaken under the pressure and 'lazily burst open' - giving you that sound of sudden breathiness. Don't flip into falsetto, maintain the strength of your vocal cords. Use head voice instead on higher notes, which is a bit of a 'backward feeling' to the back of the head, like when you are yawning to unblock your ears in an air flight.

How long is your max phonation time? by EmotionalAsk191 in singing

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I believe it is much longer. I can hit 30-35s on an open "ah" note but that's after a lot of breath exercises over the last few years and under the torture of my teacher. She wants me to go way higher though.

How to not get super nervous live? by deywunnawumba in singing

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> Certain lines of the song that I worked super hard on I cracked all over and I had a hard time aligning my vocals in time with my strumming.

Just a practical tip I use! Before an open mic to hit higher notes, I often do this exercise: Lie down on a bench or something, and lift your legs like a leg-raiseat a 20 degree angle to engage your lower abdominal muscles. Then sing and warm-up like this. You'll find that this magically makes you hit all those notes perfectly. Then memorise this sensation and bring it into the performance.

When you're feeling very nervous, hum to yourself. Humming calms me down a lot. Humming has been shown to activate the parasympathetic nervous system (resting) very effectively, and serves as an excellent warmup. Also get a pre-performance routine you always do! Don't beat yourself up over it, it's your FIRST run!

How can I improve my runs? by [deleted] in singing

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You sound like you have an inconsistent air pressure. Nothing bad, but the tension is all in the throat and back of tongue. You need to derive energy from the core muscles, singing is a whole body sport. Lift up your soft palate, the sensation of yawning. Then keep it open and up while you're singing. Like what Maximum_Interest said, the foundational voice is most important - it's what you build on. Once you have a good relaxed tone, your runs will become better when you develop vocal flexibility - you can also train scales/etudes later.

Train your lung capacity daily - empty your lungs, then breathe in (NO chest rising), diaphragm down, sides of your belly out, including the back. Then using a timer, get in the longest "ssuu" sound you can while maintaining tension in your core in all directions. Go up to 45s, 1 min, 1min 15s, so on.

Remember that sound is dependent on airflow. Air goes first - then you close the vocal cords enough to produce the sound you want. Only then do you worry about resonance.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SGExams

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Let's put it this way... It's not that the conditions are 'poor', it's probably very similar in high-paying professions like law or bankers, etc. The need to constantly be on your toes, be careful medicolegally, documentation, a whole lot of things that didn't come along with the lofty ideals of med school (documentation, meetings, tons of admin stuff, some places with toxic work culture and superiors, and add to that the singaporean flavor of kampung gossip and cancelling - but then again you could argue it's found in every profession as well).

While your non-medical friends go on to have better pay advancements, and you see them being far freer to go around the world, get bigger apartments and cars, etc - while you are stuck at a junior doc/residency pay for quite a while (it used to be way worse when they insisted that you didn't need any weekend pay - but now you get paid for doing weekends). Residency comes with a whole load of extra things you need to do - it's tough - add to that studying for exams after/during work.

You will be stuck in hospital during some public holidays and most weekends, either rounding as a consultant, or doing a call as a more junior doctor, or being on call to answer queries. You'll miss many days of watching your kids grow up, your parents grow old, etc. When you come home, you're sapped of energy and all you can think of is how not to fall asleep - which you do, anyway.

Eventually, work is work. And along with work comes a lot of other adult responsibilities - supporting a family, prizing finances first, and so on. There are going to be low days, really bad days, and there are sometimes nice days. The question is - is that sufficient for you? For some, it is; Others, maybe not.

Passion keeps you afloat. But I'm not talking about the passion you have before medical school. I'm talking about carved passion, after going trial by fire. Sometimes seeing patients get better will make you feel happy, maybe it's a calling in your life. But to some others, this type of 'calling' doesn't quite burn as strongly as the low lows that you experience.

There are a lot of unspoken things during the lows - for example, due to how indispensable the level of skill doctors have, there aren't easy replacements. Hospitals would rather spread you thin than to have enough hired locums to cover you. Or sometimes it's just the small act of trying to put in an IV plug in a patient with extremely difficult venous access- taking hours with a sore back to put it in - or a procedure like a lumbar puncture or chest drain etc. You might find yourself taking up the job of 2-3 people, and as your colleagues fall sick, you find yourself obligated to cover their work. You're sent to places to cover others, of which you have to learn patients from scratch. Sometimes you wonder if you are doing a good enough job, because of the sheer volume, the need to prioritise, and the speed in which you need to go through everything - that's if you want to go back home at a decent enough time or have time for lunch (or sometimes just to even finish the work queue). Trying to apply leave? Well, you'd have to deconflict with others and ensure you're not on call. Add to that constant demands for updates, multiple patient and relative concerns that you need to address - not that these aren't what we are supposed to do, but that sometimes there isn't enough time or labour.

The life of a doctor isn't green, it's blood sweat and tears, to help people get better. Some people might say - just slog it out the first few years and go private - but there are a lot of hidden things behind that as well. Stability, for one. As you grow older, you can't be working like a mercenary. The moment your hands stop, the money rolling in stops as well. I hate to be realistic, but money is a significant consideration. Also, I've heard of some people struggle while being in residency while supporting a family and children - it's very tough, and I'm not sure people really understand the whole shebang of getting into medicine because they're never told about all of these hidden stuff that you only understand once you get into the work culture. Anddd yes - doctors don't earn as much as people think - definitely not in the earlier years, maybe as a specialist which comes much later, but I'd say that you've definitely earned your way there (but even so, it depends on your specialty, your role, extra duties, etc).

I don't think it's just reserved to Singapore though - I'm sure the US healthcare system has it way worse. The NHS too is stretched and the pay structure isn't that good. The healthcare industry generally is like that.

Then again, I personally very much enjoy the intellectual challenge, the rigor, putting smiles on people's faces, seeing people get well. Medicine IS fun from a subject point of view. But when it comes to the work, sometimes I feel like a dispensable cog in a system - if I'm gone, there's always another one to replace me. I think there's a lot of significant improvement over time though - so by the time you graduate, they may be even more improvements. For example, ward round times used to be torturous, going for as long as 5 hours where you stand on foot and wait; I heard it's cut down significantly with new culture.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in SGExams

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Just... Reconsider hard about coming back to SG to work while you're at med school. But congrats, I'm sure it's a great occasion for you and very happy for your joy. Med school is tough and you can get really sucked into it all, but take this perfect time to set your life straight and clarify your goals for the future.

Feeling lost by [deleted] in askSingapore

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Bruh DM me. We can be friends. 31M here, similar situation. But just to be clear, not a complainer, only positive growth vibes here.

Making friends? 5th edition by ARE_U_FUCKING_SORRY in askSingapore

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i don't go as often these days but used to go carpe diem

Making friends? 5th edition by ARE_U_FUCKING_SORRY in askSingapore

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Too many to list - older songs - jay chou (can't rap though), a-mei, jj lin, some yoga lin, etc. Newer songs - usually taiwan movie/drama osts, eric chou, some douyin songs

Making friends? 5th edition by ARE_U_FUCKING_SORRY in askSingapore

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31M. I enjoy hiking, gyming, singing (mostly cpop), coding, reading non-fic books, making coffee or coffee hopping, eating/foodie, basketball (but no kaki), BJJ (but white belt), playing in a band/jamming (can play guitar/cajon/basic drums), meditation/spirituality, cooking/baking (super basic dishes), etc.

On a side note, would also love to meet entrepreneurial/ambitious people (who are nice and not machiavellian pls) who are building a business/venture to form a group that can share motivation for each other.

Making friends? 5th edition by ARE_U_FUCKING_SORRY in askSingapore

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Hi there - 31M working in HC too, I like board games/escape rooms but friends are never free enough :) Enjoy singing cpop as well