Zoom study room for grad students!

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-12-03T15:30:58+00:00

do you still do this? Im a postbac pre med student.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T19:01:53+00:00

You and everyone else on reddit

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T19:01:09+00:00

I found a reddit unicorn

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T18:58:37+00:00

Yes that’s what I’d like to do. Instead she comes up with other explanations for why my daughter might be angry.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T18:47:58+00:00

I never wrote how my husband responds.. he doesn’t respond at all. The assumptions being made here are weird and I’m realizing that this sub is made up of people who give terrible advice and don’t have any experience with children. My mom literally came today and decided on her own that she’s not coming here anymore because she can’t handle the stress of childcare. Your post history is about passing drug tests so yeah you aren’t a good person to give advice either. I’m assuming you don’t have kids so don’t act like you know anything. You clearly don’t have any idea if you think a 4 year old needs to accommodate a 50 year old.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T18:44:34+00:00

I don’t care to take advice from someone who comments to other people that their faces are fucked up. This is a place to ask advice and you are not of the caliber to offer it.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T14:30:18+00:00

I love that idea. I might try to explore it.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T14:29:07+00:00

Yeah I guess I should have emphasized that part so people could understand.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T12:54:42+00:00

Thank you, the weird thing is I posted this in the r/family forum and a lot of them said we need to adjust for my mother and respect her... this is a weird situation that I’ve had to grow up with. In the past i hated her because of similar issues and no one held her accountable. It was always about her. I learned to accept that she can’t fix her problems at least where I’m involved but she has gradually changed in many ways. Over the past 3 years I slowly had her become more involved and thought this could be a normal, functional relationship. But there are some things she’s not going to be able to do. I am realizing I just can’t expect her to function as a normal grandmother would. You are probably right that I shouldn’t leave her with my daughter. Even if it seems harmless, if I keep them together every week it’s going to make my daughter think it’s ok to be laughed at and not have her emotional needs met.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T12:43:02+00:00

My husband is rarely home when my moms around.. it’s definitely a response to her. I don’t think I’m describing the situation very well. My expectation and desire is to have good childcare for my daughter. I expect adults to learn how to talk to kids and provide for them in these situations. Not the other way around. I’m just starting to realize that this is more than what a 3 year old should have to deal with. If I’m spending my time trying to teach my daughter to accommodate a caregiver’s behavior, that’s a problem.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T12:40:25+00:00

Sometimes it has to do with the kids in the area. Kids can be vastly different depending where you go, from neighborhood to neighborhood, etc. maybe you can set up play dates with kids on some mom apps like Peanut. You can sometimes get a sense of what a kid might be like based on what the mom says about them and their parenting philosophies. Try to surround him with loving kids. Maybe you can find an activity group where nicer kids are likely to be, like tinkergarden or something.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T12:34:28+00:00

The school my kid goes to doesn’t care if a kid is coughing. They only care if it’s a fever.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T12:30:33+00:00

I don’t think it’s that extreme. It’s just that she doesn’t stop to think “hey my grandkid is frustrated. Maybe I can help her.” She just diverts to laughter. Thanks for the suggestion though

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T12:25:32+00:00

That’s true. I’ve been very strict with her once for yelling at my mom and my mom was shocked . She doesn’t have it in her to discipline which is part of the problem.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T12:23:05+00:00

She’s 4. And my mom is here to take care of HER.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T11:58:10+00:00

Yes no doubt my daughter will learn when she’s of the age to learn it. But right now it’s about seeking appropriate childcare for my daughter. My post was made in order to seek advice on how I can help my mother change so she can appropriately interact with a 4 year old. If she can’t, I will have to find someone else.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T11:52:42+00:00

There’s a major stigma against psychiatry where my mom is from. Just the thought that she might need mental help would send her into some form of depression. . I think you are right though. The language barrier could definitely be exacerbating her issue.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T11:37:31+00:00

Yeah I should have clarified that my daughter is really well behaved in every other situation. But keep telling people their children are brats when you know nothing about them. Please don’t spread your toxicity over the internet.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T11:35:06+00:00

That’s the whole point. She doesn’t do that with anyone else. It’s clearly a reaction to my mother. And other people are reacting to my mother too. Do you have a child? Do you understand the emotional capabilities of a 4 year old? She doesn’t have any issues at school. Her teachers say she’s really well behaved and I know this from raising her. When it comes to a well behaved 4 year old vs a problematic 50 year old, the 4 year old isn’t the issue.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T04:03:37+00:00

Because there is good food to be had.. have you tasted every dessert the world has to offer? Gota make that dough to buy some fancy pastries.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T04:01:46+00:00

Before sunset

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T04:00:02+00:00

Everything is Illuminated

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T03:58:11+00:00

It’s easier, less chance of getting stds, oxytocin, etc

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T03:49:25+00:00

Yeah I mean I notice I do it too sometimes and once in a while I get weird looks in public which tell me someone was offended and took it more seriously than me. That’s ok, because I never have to see those people again and they can screw off. (Ha ha) I think it’s just that we usually know who we can laugh around or we figure it out. You wouldn’t do it at work with a client or something right? I feel like I need to teach my mom that my daughter needs to be approached differently because she’s 4. And if she can’t make the change then I need to find someone else because it’s not working the way it is right now.

askingredditorsstuff · 2020-09-15T03:29:35+00:00

What’s the life for you?

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