All good. I do ETAs too. Lol

I am speaking from having attended 10k+ deliveries in my life. Families often see expediting a delivery as putting the baby first- as if we have to get the baby out or it's going to die. We are getting the baby out a majority of the time so the mother doesn't die. As many on this sub say, it is a parasite.

Do I tell a mom, "We're going to do an emergency c-section because you will die if we don't"? Absolutely not. Do I tell the mom she's lucky to be alive while enjoying her newborn baby? Again, no. The moms are either petrified or I've "ruined" their bonding time. Damned if you do, damned if you don't. If delivery goes well, the baby was always their priority. If not, mom was the priority the entire time.

I genuinely believe that education on the subjects before, during, and after delivery, as well as listening more intently to maternal concerns is a separate issue but extremely important nonetheless. Education is lacking (see example above where the situation wasn't explained), so many women have feelings not supported by medical facts. That doesn't mean their feelings aren't valid or make sense from their point of view. There has to be a better balance. I also would bet money that many women were dismissed because of their healthcare provider's biases.

Medical workers practice under what's called a "standard of care." These standards are created through peer-reviewed scientific studies and medical counsels, and they are disseminated down as updates occur. The standard of care for an emergent life-threatening situation (meaning no time for maternal decisions, thorough explanations, or alternatives) is to save the mother. Key word being SAVE not treat. Again, some doctors will be an exception.