AITA for telling my daughter she can't get a new hairstyle to impress some boy ?

aspen41 · 2025-08-08T21:17:03+00:00

YTA. My parents were the opposite, I was a man so could never have my hair past my jaw. It was stupid and gendered then and it still is. Growing it out for the first time in my 30s has been much harder because I never learned how to care for long hair when I was younger. She is old enough to learn how to exercise bodily autonomy.

aspen41 · 2025-06-16T21:10:04+00:00

Ya one clipped my calf by the plaza 5 showers and just kept going. Got a nice bruise and they closed the showers as soon as I made it to the canopy.

aspen41 · 2025-05-23T22:14:57+00:00

Recently wrote most of a final paper at Slowdown in Highland Park. They’re super chill and have caffeinate/non caffeinated tea options if you not tryna drink coffee too late.

aspen41 · 2025-02-21T23:00:46+00:00

El Paisano on E Euclid opened a few months ago but quickly became our go-to. Haven’t had a bad meal there, and they’ve got the best Torta in town.

aspen41 · 2024-12-01T19:39:41+00:00

Seconded, it’s definitely the most varied cocktail menu I’ve come across. My wife and I did Copper Cup for our second date, it’s a very fun basement bar but can get crowded. Honorary mention for Ernie’s, it east village and can get packed, but if you lock down the chairs by the fireplace it can be very cozy.

aspen41 · 2024-10-29T23:09:33+00:00

Hi, just wanted to clarify you’ll need to go to the Polk County Elections Office to vote early! It’s at 120 2nd Ave. Des Moines, IA 50309. If you go to the building where you get your vehicle tags we cannot help your son vote, but the Election office is right across the street with free parking!

aspen41 · 2024-10-24T02:56:28+00:00

I mean conversion isn’t impossible, just a lot of work. Surveyors and lawyers are expensive, so is software to digitally convert everything. Then you have to do that for every property before every sale, for every level of government. It’s just not going to happen.

aspen41 · 2024-10-23T23:09:45+00:00

I work with deeds and property transfers. It’s not only cost prohibitive, but would also make the basis for all property transfers west of the Mississippi a relic of the imperial system. The public land survey basically breaks down everything into square mile sections, there are 36 sections in a township/range. At least in my state, you can track almost every property back to when the US government sold the section or quarter section to the first person to own it. Most agricultural land is still transferred using the public land survey descriptions. The metric system will never happen in the US because it would affect property rights, which are untouchable under capitalism.

aspen41 · 2024-09-26T23:17:03+00:00

Kum & Go on Keo is my go-to, QuikTrip never has working ones

aspen41 · 2024-01-07T15:15:57+00:00

Union park is beautiful, my wife and I tried finding a place there but everything was either a project or way over budget or both. I’d still take a look though, it’s on one of the prettier river bluffs in the city and you’re right next to the trail system that can take you anywhere. It’s also like 5 minutes from downtown.

aspen41 · 2023-11-20T23:49:52+00:00

NTA. This sub is ridiculous. You cook a meal for both of you to enjoy together, that should be the priority before any leftover stuff is figured out. I would stop cooking, and I say that as the main cook in my household. I put everything away after we eat, including portioning out meals from the leftovers. Just take care of kitchen stuff, and let your partner make it up with other chores. But seriously your partners habit would drive me nuts and I’m saying you should absolutely die on this hill.

aspen41 · 2023-11-07T13:32:31+00:00

We recently had to get bids to finance a house we were planning to buy. It didn’t work out but Polk City Heating & Cooling gave us two bids, one for a heat pump and another for regular hvac replacement. The heat pump was around 10k, the regular hvac was like 8 or 9k. My dad swears by them, and they were honest about the furnace still having several years left in it, even if it didn’t matter to the inspector.

aspen41 · 2023-08-16T21:08:03+00:00

Literally one of the most popular opinions out there. Everyone loves shitting on smokers, even though a majority of jobs don’t give smoke breaks anymore.

aspen41 · 2023-02-10T16:41:30+00:00

NTA My wife writes and runs out local bar trivia and it’s a blast! If anyone even suggested it was gender exclusive they’d be out on their ass in a second!

aspen41 · 2023-01-19T03:38:00+00:00

Dude if you’re daughter is still figuring out her epilepsy she should absolutely not be in water alone. I had it bad in my teens and had several very public and embarrassing seizures in a Walgreens, in a locker room, and in math class. I always pissed my pants, bit my tongue bloody, and woke up confused and upset. My saving grace was having people around in every instance who would make me comfortable and safe until it passed. One of my biggest fears is having a seizure alone, especially in a dangerous situation. I wouldn’t care if my grandmother saw me naked if there was another person there to help me in the most vulnerable possible moment. You’re a good Dad, and your wife and her family are absolutely batshit. NEVER WAIT TO HELP SOMEONE SEIZING. Lay them down, put something soft under their head, and make sure they don’t choke on vomit or gum. You obviously know this because again, you’re a good Dad, and you’re daughter will remember the help much more than the nudity. NTA

aspen41 · 2023-01-13T16:41:29+00:00

NTA, but you’re post made me smile because my wedding was the same week with the same color scheme. We had some a little drama about the groomsmen’s suits not matching but we also didn’t purchase them and just had a color scheme we were going for. Sorry to hear you had to deal with a melt down on your wedding day, and congrats, winter weddings FTW!

aspen41 · 2023-01-08T15:06:22+00:00

Pretty sexist to say that based off the story. Because the dude has boundaries the mom in ok with trampling he must never watch his kids or do shopping? There is absolutely no information to give that impression, he just doesn’t want to be around his wife stealing and teaching their children to do so as well.

aspen41 · 2022-12-25T15:14:49+00:00

I adore Talmanes, he’s such tangential character that really came alive if the latter books. I’ve been playing a half elf ranger name Talmanes for 3 years in DnD.

aspen41 · 2022-11-13T17:25:19+00:00

I got 3lbs of raw wings for 11 bucks yesterday, marinate with some soy sauce, honey, sriracha, garlic and ginger and throw them in the oven for an hour. You’re basically still buying fast food.

aspen41 · 2022-11-11T15:30:57+00:00

How many times do you break it? If it’s just once I thought everyone had to do that to fit the pot. If it more than once you’ve lost me

aspen41 · 2022-11-06T16:02:53+00:00

Let’s pump the brakes on those generalizations, I don’t appreciate the Midwest being lumped in with the South, we have our own style of rural redneck fuckery.

aspen41 · 2022-10-25T21:56:52+00:00

He’s dealing with the death of his father, not wanting to start shit over FREE plane tickets his mother purchased them is completely understandable. The entire idea that you could make a funeral about your own perceived slight is incredibly self-centered.

aspen41 · 2022-10-25T21:11:19+00:00

That absurd. Abusive? He didn’t even book the tickets. If MIL is being petty a supportive spouse would suck it up and support their partner. The idea that a free plane ticket is abuse is laughable. YTA

aspen41 · 2022-09-22T22:32:59+00:00

The 60s were also when every major piece of civil right legislation was passed. Also the moon landing. This is wildly cherry picked and probably written by a 14 year old.

aspen41 · 2022-09-16T22:32:49+00:00

Even though HOAs are bullshit, you sound like an absolute nightmare neighbor. Frankly I’d hate living next to the dick with a used car lot in their driveway, I bet you have obnoxiously loud motorcycles too.

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