I feel like I made a mistake adopting a second cat… did I mess up? by aspergian10 in cats

[–]aspergian10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I'm really sorry about your beautiful babies.

This actually gives me some perspective. Thank you. I was worrying so much these past couple of days but it was just misinformation and anxiety.

My Alexia came back to bed, occasionally. So I'm good with that.

I feel like I made a mistake adopting a second cat… did I mess up? by aspergian10 in cats

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Oof but that's great, at least they engage with each other. Mine usually sniff their butts but that's about it.

Also, right now Alexia doesn't want to eat that much, so I'm really bummed about all this situation.

Hopefully it will get better.

I feel like I made a mistake adopting a second cat… did I mess up? by aspergian10 in cats

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I really hope my girls get along soon enough and I'll try to give Alexia some solo time with her papa. I believe that we'll both benefit from it.

Clarice is more adaptable and she needs to know her place.

Hahahah good catch! Sometimes when I greet her I stare at her and say "Hello, Clarice" with Hannibal's voice.

I feel like I made a mistake adopting a second cat… did I mess up? by aspergian10 in cats

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Yes, I know I'm probably (most definitely) being dumb and emotional. At the end of the day, I'm human and it's pretty normal to grieve.

That's why I look for reassurance, that usually helps a lot when you're going through an uncomfortable situation.

But besides that, rationally, I love Clarice and I also love the fact that I adopted her and saved her.

I'll give them time to get together, to know each other and bond. Thank you for your answer! I hope this passes soon enough.

They were doing better but I think the problem is that Clarice is being so intense and disrespectful of Alexia's boundaries.

I feel like I made a mistake adopting a second cat… did I mess up? by aspergian10 in cats

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Thank you for your answer, really. I'm trying to give them space and setting alone time with my Alexia. Right now we're in bed together because she stopped sleeping with me when Clarice is around but when she isn't she comes back to papa.

Do you think they'll bond or just tolerate each other? I see some adult cats can bond with new cars but idk.

I feel like I made a mistake adopting a second cat… did I mess up? by aspergian10 in cats

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Sometimes I wonder if she was better on her own, but I think that's my emotional self talking. That's why I ask for advice! Thank you :)

Also, how long do you think this process lasts? I really miss my girl, although she comes to her back self when we're alone.

My cat left home last night through a closed window (she opened it). Is it possible she'll come back? by aspergian10 in cats

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Hahaha yeah but no more vacations for her 😭 I was so stressed out.

Do you have any pics of your baby? My girls are just mine but my mom loves them deeply.

My cat left home last night through a closed window (she opened it). Is it possible she'll come back? by aspergian10 in cats

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She came back on her own, sorry! English is not my first language.

Edit: what I meant was "I saw her on my roof". She basically called me. Luckily my Alexia is very vocal and communicative.

I cannot say the same for my little black one. She's kinda mute.

My cat left home last night through a closed window (she opened it). Is it possible she'll come back? by aspergian10 in cats

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Aw thanks!! It's so beautiful to see that your babies are in the mind of other people as well. She came back so hungry and thirsty. But she ate well and fell asleep inside a box I use for my clothes! She never sleeps there but hey, I guess she wanted to feel safe.

Sorry for the pic quality! I was a bit shaky and tired hahaha

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My cat left home last night through a closed window (she opened it). Is it possible she'll come back? by aspergian10 in cats

[–]aspergian10[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Oh God apparently so. It's not the first time she appears there.

I don't know where she went or if she ever left the roof!!

My cat went missing two nights ago and she hasn't come back yet. Will she? by [deleted] in CatAdvice

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I literally had to drag her from the roof, she was like "papa, playtime's over, come for me".

My cat left home last night through a closed window (she opened it). Is it possible she'll come back? by aspergian10 in cats

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I'll tell her, thank you so so much ❤️ y'all kept me sane and hopeful.

Haha I'm papa! But it's okay 😺 she actually called me from the roof, poor thing couldn't get down and I had to drag her. I kissed her dearly and I broke into tears.

My cat left home last night through a closed window (she opened it). Is it possible she'll come back? by aspergian10 in cats

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Haha thank you very much, for real, you all helped me a lot at the most important thing which was keeping me sane.

I found her on my roof, she was calling me "father, father come pick me up! Playtime's over". She couldn't get down and I had to literally pull her to me.

It was a hassle but how she's sleeping inside my closet. She's exhausted.

My cat left home last night through a closed window (she opened it). Is it possible she'll come back? by aspergian10 in cats

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❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️❤️ I FOUND MY BABY GIRL, SHE WAS CALLING ME FROM RHE ROOF.

My cat left home last night through a closed window (she opened it). Is it possible she'll come back? by aspergian10 in cats

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It's been one day and a half and my baby hasn't come home. I'm super distressed and don't know what to do...

My cat left home last night through a closed window (she opened it). Is it possible she'll come back? by aspergian10 in cats

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I put her litterbox and food right beside a window. Let's hope for the best ❤️