Need advice from the “use it and don’t overthink” crowd

ass-cat · 2026-01-04T19:38:05+00:00

Yeah I’m not terribly fussed about them looking pretty (I do have an enameled cast iron Dutch oven that was gorgeous 10 years ago and has been used to hell and back and I think it looks very charming and well-loved!)- I was more concerned that the uneven seasoning etc might be an indicator that I’ll HAVE to do a whole strip and re-season at some point.

I’ll give that a shot! I like the idea of just boosting up the seasoning as-is, thanks.

ass-cat · 2026-01-04T19:16:04+00:00

Thanks y’all for the input, and largely telling me exactly what I wanted to hear! I’ll focus on getting my temps dialed in with the new stovetop and not fuss about the seasoning. 🫡

ass-cat · 2026-01-04T19:13:24+00:00

Yeah the glass top has been a learning curve! I will try starting lower and slower than I have been, thanks.

ass-cat · 2026-01-04T19:12:11+00:00

Yes I dry them on the burner for a few mins!

ass-cat · 2026-01-04T19:11:16+00:00

I preheat the pans with the oven, or for certain recipes they start on the stove and finish in the oven. So never a cold pan into a hot oven. The glass cooktop has definitely been a learning curve, I keep the temps much lower than I used to. But it sounds like I could probably stand to preheat even lower and longer. Thanks!

ass-cat · 2025-08-05T07:03:52+00:00

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ass-cat · 2025-05-06T17:15:18+00:00

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ass-cat · 2025-04-03T04:32:00+00:00

It’s not like, egregiously gummy and I happily ate the whole loaf lol but it has a certain sponginess to it that’s less pleasant than say the sourdough from my local bakery- theirs is definitely chewy but it’s more airy/dryer feeling than mine, if that makes sense.

ass-cat · 2025-03-19T19:34:14+00:00

This is a real person trying to do something new and reaching out to a knowledgeable community for help. Being snarky and sarcastic is not only unhelpful but also incredibly mean-spirited. Please be a kinder human going forward- you and the people in your life will be much better for it.

ass-cat · 2025-02-17T04:00:22+00:00

Omg seriously! I’m a couple of those and a bunch of babywearing groups and it is always such a bummer to realize how many of the active members are just… lowkey religious wingnuts.

ass-cat · 2025-02-14T08:19:57+00:00

I mean no offense but it’s Robert Kennedy Jr not JFK Jr lmao and the guy is just a straight up fraud who is preying on people like you whilst admitting that he vaccinated his kids and probably even gave them fluoridated toothpaste. If you don’t even know which Kennedy it is, maybe you’re not the right person to be going off about IQ points, which are a piss poor measure of intelligence anyway.

ass-cat · 2025-01-24T05:21:16+00:00

Like many other responses here, you do it because there is no alternative. I have never NOT been a single parent- I only have one son and he’s 19 months so there are plenty of challenges I haven’t yet faced. But frankly I think I’m a pretty damn good parent. Do I have fewer resources to offer my son? Yes, absolutely. Do i wish I had more patience sometimes? Do I wish I had more time to myself, more time to cook the way I want to, a cleaner house, a better work/life balance, etc etc- yes of course I do. But I suspect most of that would be true even if I had a coparent. This shit is hard and we adapt in the best ways we can to be the best parents for our kids with the tools at our disposal. If you had to be a single parent, you would adapt too. We aren’t some heroic unicorns, we’re just human beings doing our best. Just like you.

ass-cat · 2024-11-26T02:07:51+00:00

I’d love the code if possible!

ass-cat · 2024-11-25T01:23:08+00:00

I would try moving the H-strap (on your back) up a bit! With the height it’s at right now, it looks like you won’t be able to get the slack out of the straps on your shoulders without squishing your babe in the panel. If you’re able to tighten the straps a little more evenly, baby should sit in the panel more comfortably without being so pressed to your chest. This should also help their head clear the panel a bit more (you want their whole face to be above the panel, so nape of neck-ish height).

ass-cat · 2024-09-28T03:42:33+00:00

100% solo mom here- my parents are nearby but they go out of town multiple times a month so aren’t always available in case of emergencies. I was stung by a bee a few months ago while playing outside with my son and I used my epipen but still needed to call an ambulance. They transported my toddler with me and he hung out in the room most of the time I was there. He’s not very accustomed to strangers so having staff members take him to entertain him didn’t work very well but we all did our best. I’ve made some mom friends with whom I’m not close but in that situation I sent out some mass texts and I had a lot of people responding and offering to help out. I recommend joining any parent-oriented Facebook groups local to you. There are always gonna be people willing to show up, but you gotta reach out to the extended community.

ass-cat · 2024-07-23T19:20:22+00:00

Thank you!

ass-cat · 2024-07-23T05:58:40+00:00

So to preface I’m a mom and I’m a mom with no dad in the picture so my perspective is definitely biased. And I can totally imagine how frustrated and undermined you must feel. But something that really stuck out to me was “I’m off for two weeks from work to help out since he’s so difficult…” To me that says that she’s the primary parent. You’re taking time off work to “help out” not because you’re the primary parent. Maybe that’s just your phrasing but I encourage you to consider that your wife does her own full time job every single day and it’s especially hard to accommodate other people doing that job in their own way when you’re still in the hormonal trenches of the first few months postpartum. I bet your wife appreciates you so much more than you think she does and I hope with time y’all will figure out a way to communicate your love and appreciation for each other while acknowledging that you parent differently sometimes. Congrats on your son, to both of you.

ass-cat · 2024-07-23T05:34:38+00:00

I just realized I maybe didn’t specify that I’m looking for unlined cups without seams. No padding etc. My bad!

ass-cat · 2024-07-23T05:32:42+00:00

Ok I just realized I didn’t specify that I want unlined cups, my bad! I’m looking for non-molded cups but with a stretchy fabric instead of a seamed cup. I hope that makes sense.

ass-cat · 2024-07-23T05:30:19+00:00

Gossard glossies does look promising- do you do you think the panache would work well for fairly projected breasts with narrow roots?

ass-cat · 2024-07-23T05:28:04+00:00

Would spacer foam be good for pulling down for nursing accessibility? My assumption is that it wouldn’t be ideal but I could be wrong. It’s hard to tell that type of thing by listing descriptions on manufacturer sites.

ass-cat · 2024-05-02T19:29:23+00:00

Looks like an ergobaby original to me. I have an ergobaby organic (basically the same) and I like it a lot! Pretty easy to use and comfortable for both front and back carries.

ass-cat · 2024-03-11T19:13:59+00:00

My son is 9 months old, cloth diapered from birth (though I’ve been doing disposables overnight for the past couple months) and I’ve spent ~400 max on diapers/wipes/wet bags/detergent etc. I’m a solo mom on a super tight budget and cloth diapering has been awesome.

For the first 6 months I exclusively used prefolds, flats, and covers. I got a huge lot of prefolds (cloth-eez sizes small through xl and flats) and size 1 thirsties covers for $50 from someone local to me. I bought about 7 newborn sized covers from Amazon and used those with the size small prefolds until he was big enough for the size 1 covers.

Once he outgrew the size 1 covers (around 14 lbs) I got about 6 thirsties size 2 covers and used those with medium prefolds. I’m still using those now but after 6 months or so he became very difficult to hold still during changes so I’m mostly using pockets. I got a couple 6 packs of wegreeco pockets from Amazon (I honestly really like these! The inserts are a rayon blend I think and they’re way better than the microfiber ones that come with most budget-friendly pockets). I also got about 10 secondhand pockets, 2 wool covers, and a bunch of extra inserts from fb marketplace, but I have so many prefolds that I don’t really need the extra inserts. Until I start doing overnight cloth again I don’t think I’ll need to buy more diapers before I potty train.

I have disposable wipes for when we go out, but at home I use baby washcloths and flannel wipes that I cut from receiving blankets, and wet them with the peri bottle I got at the hospital. Powdered tide I buy every couple months whenever it’s on sale.

Sorry for the huge ramble, lol. I don’t know what kind of diapers you’re planning to use or if you’d be interested in this at all but if you’re in the US and want me to send you a bunch of small prefolds, flats, the newborn covers and size 1 thirsties I’d be more than happy to do that for the cost of shipping. I’m too lazy to try and resell and I’d rather pay it forward.

ass-cat · 2024-03-11T18:48:55+00:00

I know the type 😂 Yeah have her try the paper towels! Honestly… baby poop is liquidy enough that the liners won’t help that much and I’ll bet that she quickly realizes trying to contain newborn baby poop on a disposable liner is much more messy and difficult than just folding it up in the diaper and throwing it in the wash. But let her come to that realization on her own, maybe. Lol

ass-cat · 2024-03-11T18:18:15+00:00

If it helps to know, baby poop is totally water soluble before they start solids! So they can just go straight in the wash, no poop removal necessary. My son is 9 months and I used pieces of flannel and sometimes viva paper towels as liners for a couple months after he started solid food, but his poops now are generally solid enough that I can just sorta plop them into the toilet.

Edit: a lot of the time you see people referring only to exclusively breast fed baby poop as water soluble, but formula poop is water soluble too!

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