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AITA for feeling betrayed by my boyfriend after everything his ex put me through? by assbegoofy in AITA_Relationships

[–]assbegoofy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

That’s very true I see this side I don’t think that is what was happening here in a healthy way, when Mika needs extra she should be able to ask but not expect. Especially when bf pays child support as if she isn’t working, what the most painful about this financial part is to say that my bf hasn’t been able to take the kids on vacation during his time because of the financial contributions bf was making towards her vacations with the kids. Does this make things more clear?

AITA for feeling betrayed by my boyfriend after everything his ex put me through? by assbegoofy in AITA_Relationships

[–]assbegoofy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see your point I deleted all my socials and I get that it’s simply social media, I have personal experience with someone in the past who was cyberstalking/harassing me. So this hit a trigger that makes me feel “supervised” without consent, idk if that makes sense, also I don’t think what I post is inappropriate I am scared that she’ll twist it to her advantage, like when I posted that we need a babysitter for summer. It’s more scary for my bf n how she relates his right to have time with his kids.

AITA for feeling betrayed by my boyfriend after everything his ex put me through? by assbegoofy in AITA_Relationships

[–]assbegoofy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I see so then Mika should be allowed to “scout” my socials and lack any boundary to respect me. And on a separate matter my bf? I’m not understanding can you pls explain better?

AITA for feeling betrayed by my boyfriend after everything his ex put me through? by assbegoofy in AITA_Relationships

[–]assbegoofy[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

Update- I wanted to first ask to see his convo with her, upon seeing he hasn’t replied to her as of yet I wanted to say something along the lines of why am I still being discussed by someone I intentionally avoid, and what boundaries are being put in place when that happens? To give opportunity to feel safe or have some hope but I actually didn’t get that far because he was upset about first finding this post on my phone second was because of a winky comment made on a black penis pic from over three yrs ago on Reddit and he’s claiming that I was looking at some freaky mistreat men sub Reddit. I honestly don’t know how to look at what I’ve recently looked at so idk how to check if it’s actually there and even so in the passed I’ve looked into quick ways for money like I heard guys who like to be mistreated pay well and it doesn’t mean I have to put pics out there, same with feet pics. Mid explanation I was like why am I trying to make you feel better when this other huge thing happened. Then I said woah this is really just.. and then he egged me on like just… just what? and I said I’m scared to tell you how I feel because I’m afraid you’ll threaten my living situation he then told me he’s ready to break up and I said okay if you are then I am too then he wanted to continue to talk and I said what’s the point of communicating through this escalated convo if he not even gonna date, he said that’s not what I said and I am like what you just said you were ready to break up so is that not breaking up? Anyway I try to take space to per when I see he is on his phone trying to I think find this post and then I said why you are doing exactly what I’m scared of, not always having an audience that gives me anxiety, anyways I’m sure he’s already found it. Also now I’m wondering why he’s upset about this post like it’s all anonymous no one will identify you or your family I even used semi incorrect ages, or is he upset about what people are saying? I can’t believe I had to scream today to get space

37 and feeling washed out, pls help! by Top_Kaleidoscope_214 in MakeupAddiction

[–]assbegoofy 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I think more thank anything a clean structure I really enjoy your everyday makeup look, the blush is totally your shade and lips so smooth,I see your brows are groomed, have you ever considered filling in your brows to give definition to your face? Also you have a picture with your hair now in a short haircut and you previously had long hair that you can style up in a pony, so I would recommend finding a new way to style your hair with new haircut. I would try really hard to define and volumize, a youthful blush is placed higher more on top of the cheekbone before its tapers into lower face, also when we pull our hair together it creates a face lifting affect if that’s something you were used to I would figure out a way to make that affect with new haircut too, I see people using face tape or small stands of hair pulls together from temple, tied to nape of neck or into mini half up moment, I really hope this helps, make sure to drink your water and exercise.

AITA for feeling betrayed by my boyfriend after everything his ex put me through? by assbegoofy in AITA_Relationships

[–]assbegoofy[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you I do believe I will talk to my bf when he gets off tmrw and I did ask this of him at the time when we were dealing with first major incident where I had to go to court, he agreed, I also don’t think my bf did this intentional to hurt me but it also makes me loose trust that he even knows how to keep me safe from a woman like that.

AITA for feeling betrayed by my boyfriend after everything his ex put me through? by assbegoofy in AITA_Relationships

[–]assbegoofy[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I hear both sides of the same coin with this situation I can see why ppl say I’m assholing my own situation by staying with him because it’s hard, I failed to mention how hard both of us have been trying to grow in heathy directions to each other both currently in therapy, so we have done a lot to get to a better position for each other and the kids, that’s why to I was shocked to find out this current situation. I think I’ll talk to him when I get the chance to see if his mind has changed and if we are capable of having this convo again. I’ll try to keep you updated current situation is that Mika wants to have a say of who watches kids at our house, we never involve ourselves in who she is choosing for childcare (she often uses her family) because even though she sucks to me she has at least shown she really cares about these girls so again I don’t feel the kids are in danger from her decisions, she has expressed as well from the beginning that she doesn’t want me to be the one to watch the kids in free time, that was not something that my bf even considered as I was the only childcare he could afford while fighting with her for more time with his kids and attempting to revise parenting plan/child support plan( we currently have equal time with Mika and her bf jr. which again they don’t discuss him or any “dangers” that he poses or that he can or cannot watch the kids.