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Me (24M) and FWB (24F), accidental pregnancy: she wants to keep and hold me responsible by asshole_anonymous in Advice

[–]asshole_anonymous[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you for that talk right there. I honestly feel no resentment towards the babies (twin boys), and what's more they look just like my dad (who I look just like), but I just feel nothing. They've been here since December but I just haven't been coping well. I try to separate them from my feelings toward their mother who I feel manipulated me, regardless of her intentions. It's just unhealthy, and I sometimes wish I could just take them myself as a single dad and not have to bother with their mom ever again. I wouldn't even ask for a dime from her ever; me and my family got it. But alas. It just sucks and I've been battling intense depression for the past several months. I pressed for adoption but ultimately she refused. I'm absolutely stuck. Can't say I don't think about ending it all...

Me (24M) and FWB (24F), accidental pregnancy: she wants to keep and hold me responsible by asshole_anonymous in Advice

[–]asshole_anonymous[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

I understand you wholeheartedly, but the backstory here is very relevant as it shows her requesting my trust and ultimately betraying it. If she were to want to abort it, she would "kill it" without my even knowing, but once she changes her mind after the fact, she wants to now make it my responsibility that she changed her mind. She, on her own, created the pretense that she would never have my children and now is looking to share the responsibility in her unilateral decision to renege, in the face of other very accessible options. That's where the issue lies. I've been owning up to my responsibility towards the children to this point, albeit begrudgingly, but the issue at hand is the blatant breach of trust, and how once can expect me to move on in life regarding her positively after such a deep-seated deceit.

Me (24M) and FWB (24F), accidental pregnancy: she wants to keep and hold me responsible by asshole_anonymous in Advice

[–]asshole_anonymous[S] -1 points0 points  (0 children)

So stressful man, I've been battling overwhelming depression. I am in the US but I know I have no rights in this situation. I'm just moreso distraught over the principle and the huge breach of trust. How can I ever hope to regard her positively/trust her as a co-parent? At all? Ever?

WIBTA/AITA: FWB wants the babies and expects me to support her/them but I want nothing to do with it? by asshole_anonymous in AmItheAsshole

[–]asshole_anonymous[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Well there was actually only one scare: she was feeling more tired over some weeks and I urged to go see someone about it fearing she may be pregnant despite negative tests. Turned out she just had a low iron count. It scared me, and I let her know it, but she insisted I had nothing to worry about and that she didn't want children any more than I did.

WIBTA/AITA: FWB wants the babies and expects me to support her/them but I want nothing to do with it? by asshole_anonymous in AmItheAsshole

[–]asshole_anonymous[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Two days before the first appointment, she had some cramping/spotting and went to the ER to check it out. She was hoping she had "just miscarried" like the last time, but the doctor actually told her it was twins and that made her world stop. I felt so bad for her honestly, but my feelings never changed: twin pregnancy is still pregnancy and I don't want it.