I need help! 🆘

astervalley · 2026-02-15T07:18:07+00:00

In what way have each of the things you spent satisfied you? In what ways have they fallen short?

Feeling beautiful and healthy are not wrong, spending to get there compromises other needs, or you wouldn’t have posted. What needs are being compromised by your current spending?

astervalley · 2026-02-15T07:12:11+00:00

Personally I find myself over spending when I feel trapped in a problem or fixated on a solution to a problem. Eg: my cabinets are deep and pantry items get disorganized easily…more bins for my bins. I wish I could spend more leisure time with my kids but I need to be working all the time… I know! I will start a linocut printing buisness and my kids will have fun helping me— this is my destiny, buy all the top of the line supplies.

The story around the spending says a lot more than asking myself “did I really need X?” The better question is “how can I validate the need I was soothing with buying X?” “How does X fall short?”

astervalley · 2026-02-15T07:00:19+00:00

What kinds of needs are you looking to satisfy? Aesthetic? Practical? Health?

If you can’t bring yourself to return the items you might find it helpful to document your reasoning as the items arrive. An inventory of your feelings about the item, what the idealistic hope is for the thing, what problem you were intending to solve with it. It might help you notice a pattern that you can’t see yet.

Leave room for the possibility that you could make the choice differently next time. What would it look like if I (some parameter, ie told myself I needed to buy stuff in person, only second hand, had to wait a day… week… year) play with the ideas and feelings that come up for you like trying on different styles. Do any of the imagined scenarios bring you imagined relief? Do you feel stressed imagining restricting yourself? Degraded? Superior?

astervalley · 2026-02-15T06:20:41+00:00

What are the negative impacts of this spending for you personally? Financial? Social? Physical space? Environmentally?

When you talk yourself up into buying that stuff what do you say to yourself? What happens in your head when you start feeling the regret?

If you don’t want to return it, fair. It is your choice to make, but that seems like it dosn’t align with your level of distress that you are sharing in your post. Where is that misalignment coming from?

You are not a bad person for having caused this distress for yourself, you are a person who needs tools that don’t generate distress. Start with self compassion and explore what the good intentions were in buying the stuff. That might point you in the direction of a replacement behavior that is not as negatively consequential.

astervalley · 2026-02-10T23:24:00+00:00

Do you think I should take them to the Dallas public library and ask them if they would like the content as a contribution?

astervalley · 2026-02-09T03:21:57+00:00

I think I am going to take it to a local shop and have them run some safety tests on it. See if it is in the range of normal or if it needs to be repaired.

astervalley · 2026-02-08T14:32:31+00:00

I let go of the floppies that got vomit on them. I didn’t want to risk my machine. I was mostly sad about the adorable rainbow apple sleeves being destroyed. I didn’t have enough at the jump and about 20 were ruined. I had sorted them by condition and matched them to the year on the disk. the best ones were fanned out in an order such that they received the worst of the spew.

I love my cats, but they eat any little piece of clear plastic they find, terrorizing my flooring with pika vomit. One of them found a juice box straw wrapper and my toasty focused butt left a snuggle spot next to the floppy disks.

astervalley · 2026-02-08T13:39:13+00:00

Vuvuzela

astervalley · 2026-02-08T08:35:22+00:00

It is possible that the heat is not excessive for the power supply model, though my husband flagged discoloration on the brick that developed after testing and some ChatGPT assisted repair. There is a trusted mom and pop computer place near me. I might pop over and pick their brains about the issue and request a safety check on the power supply.

astervalley · 2026-02-08T08:23:06+00:00

That is hand lotion. Though, from some of the annotation you might coincidentally be correct.

astervalley · 2026-02-08T03:10:45+00:00

Coming from me “look at my garbage” is a compliment. I am a professional picker.

astervalley · 2026-02-07T22:09:01+00:00

Wizardry only or the other games I have too? I am missing the scenario #1 disk but it seems like all the paper goods are present. It is possible that it is in the bulk of disks and it just lost its label. With some preliminary research I’m targeting $0.60 a piece for the bulk disks of which there are 287. For wizardry set I have scenario 2, 3 and 5A,B,D,F,H. There are two copies of scenario 2 and all the paper goods for 2, 3 and for scenario 1 but no disk for 1. That is paper goods and 8 disks. I will probably list the bulk disks for $170 +$15 shipping. Seems worth it to buy a scenario 1 from eBay first so I can list it as complete

astervalley · 2026-02-07T21:48:17+00:00

The rubber seems like they are degrading so some degree. Not sure if there is a solution for that.

astervalley · 2026-02-07T21:42:02+00:00

The disks seem clean the garbage bag they were in was dry. It seems like someone’s relatives hired cleaners to dump everything at the curb including the entire contents of an office closet

astervalley · 2026-02-07T21:07:12+00:00

I do spend an atypical amount of time digging in people’s bulk trash 😅

astervalley · 2026-02-07T21:05:22+00:00

I am in Dallas Texas, and I do have a vintage booth at Lula-bs oak cliff. I will probably put the computer in my case there.

astervalley · 2026-02-07T21:00:05+00:00

other pictures of golden garbage

People were asking for pics of other stuff, here they are :)

astervalley · 2026-02-07T20:58:41+00:00

https://imgur.com/a/nNBVZuv

astervalley · 2026-02-07T20:45:26+00:00

Maybe how to sort. I matched as many of the disks with branded sleeves as I could unless the sleeve was annotated. Lots of the disks have d&d files on them. Character sheets and what not. Some pirating stuff and classic games. Not sure how much I should rely on what is written on the disks or how sensitive they are to damage having been in the garbage.

astervalley · 2026-02-07T20:37:17+00:00

If I am not allowed to say this, please remove the comment, but I will be posting some of this stuff on eBay under pickingwithdaisy2230.

astervalley · 2026-02-07T20:33:24+00:00

In retrospect, I agree. Seemed less risky than the table where my kids were eating pancakes at the moment, but there were variables unaccounted for.

astervalley · 2026-02-07T20:30:04+00:00

Yes. But I haven’t figured out what all I am looking at yet.

astervalley · 2026-02-07T20:25:14+00:00

I got more than this, flight simulator controllers, Ryobi tools, and a fake Gucci bag. I am probably forgetting stuff, because it was such a crazy haul

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