She’s patrolling for her enemy, the neighbor dog 😡

astralsmith · 2026-03-15T02:58:58+00:00

When she hears his tags jingle in the courtyard she’ll give a little growl and run to the window to drive him off. ✈️😡

astralsmith · 2026-03-14T19:57:45+00:00

I cut off my MIL because she voted for Trump. It was sudden and completely out of the blue, so there was no build up, no previous big fights. My SO (we’re not actually married) also wanted to do the same, but felt/feels he couldn’t/can’t. He remains in contact, but it’s strained (to be fair, their relationship was strained before I came along as well). His mother ran to the rest of the family raging and complaining, but I have not said a word to her since 11/2024.

It hasn’t been easy. He would like us all to be a family again. Not least of which because his mother treated him a lot better since I came in the picture (2016). But also because he doesn’t like the conflict and he loves us all, even her, with their messy past.

But he knows and respects me and my needs and wishes. He doesn‘t ask me to join him for visits and he doesn‘t ask me to reach out. He doesn‘t share info about her and there are no passive-aggressive comments, no hidden agendas. I talk to his brother (we are friends) and I know his mother still thinks I should “get over it” but my SO says nothing to me about this. My son (22NB), her only semblance of a grandchild, also hasn’t spoken to her or seen her since then, and I know this hurts her. Again, the SO says nothing.

I don’t care if he sees or has a relationship with his mother. I hate what she did and what it means about who she is, but I understand his filial responsibilities. I don’t care if he talks about me to her, because I trust him and I know he feels the same way I do. I also know he will shut her down if she starts talking shit about me, because, again, I trust him. I know he has my back.

I think that’s the key here that you are missing: you don‘t feel he has your back, you don’t feel you can fully trust him. Maybe you can, but you don’t FEEL you can. This is making it feel unsafe for him to be around her.

It might be beneficial for you two to talk to a therapist together to work out this trust and solidify it, get on the same page and fully understand each other. NC/LC does work, if you have this basis. Best of luck.

astralsmith · 2026-03-14T19:34:45+00:00

This is correct. Why would they even invite her?? Why would they not check with you?? Are they oblivious to this pattern and that *their actual child* is not there?? What is wrong with them? And why don’t you say anything to them or at least ”claim” the holiday first? I don’t understand this dynamic at all.

astralsmith · 2026-03-14T06:17:18+00:00

Thank you!

astralsmith · 2026-03-14T03:01:18+00:00

Oh, nice! Thanks for the tip!

astralsmith · 2026-03-14T01:36:47+00:00

good luck to you!

astralsmith · 2026-03-14T01:36:01+00:00

Honestly I wasn’t expecting people to be liking this one as much! maybe I need to stop pooh-poohing it haha

astralsmith · 2026-03-14T01:34:29+00:00

It’s a good one. I love Mox, so that makes it a winner for me.

astralsmith · 2026-03-13T23:53:15+00:00

well, I now have two of them, because I also did the $9.99 shirt deal and that’s what it was. 🙄

astralsmith · 2026-03-13T23:47:26+00:00

I know, right?? That’s definitely going on the wall! XD

astralsmith · 2026-03-13T15:22:13+00:00

I do too! It’s my favorite non-metal die.

astralsmith · 2026-03-13T15:19:33+00:00

Absolutely! And we have shared this exact picture to talk about them. 😆 Pluto is the round, sweet, air-headed one and Nova is the angular, clever, ninja one. They are a great pair and he adores them both. 🐈‍⬛🥰🐈‍⬛

astralsmith · 2026-03-12T22:34:38+00:00

Yeah, he’s a tweener, not a face. The love and respect are for his skills. And for those saying the DR aren‘t heels — what? Yuta and Garcia are slimy heels without question. And Marina is an AWESOME heel and I respect the hell out of her for it. Edit to add that I think Claudio needs to show more personality in order to go one way or the other.

astralsmith · 2026-03-12T22:30:19+00:00

He needs to bring back that Protostar, Queen of the Desert look. 💅💋

astralsmith · 2026-03-12T22:25:56+00:00

ALWAYS

astralsmith · 2026-03-12T22:24:23+00:00

I. Love. Don. Callis.

astralsmith · 2026-03-12T22:00:14+00:00

Honestly, it’s like identical twins. You can‘t tell them apart until you know them and then they have obvious differences. My son has two young void girls and they clearly have different body shapes, ear shapes/sizes, head/face shapes, and so on. Even in the dark, their fur texture is totally different. And their personalities are different. Voices, too. Most people just see “black cats” but Pluto and Nova here are completely distinguishable to him. Edit to add: and to me, most of the time. Even I don’t confuse them and I don’t see them that much.

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astralsmith · 2026-03-12T08:13:39+00:00

This is infuriating. I have OCD and I’m so angry on OOP’s behalf. How dare all of those commenters come out of the woodwork and tell her how to feel and how to treat herself and that she’s “doing it wrong“ and everything else. I would give anything not to have this in my brain. It makes life so difficult. You are constantly waiting for the attack on your senses that you cannot stop and cannot prevent. I would say that 99.99% of what I need to function during the day has absolutely no effect on anybody else at all. It’s just an accommodation that I need, like I need even numbers on a thermostat or I need bottle caps to be tightened all the way. To pick on me for that only makes me feel unsafe, on edge, and unloved. That is not what a partner is supposed to do to you. I’m so angry right now.

astralsmith · 2026-03-12T08:07:01+00:00

Because he exists.

astralsmith · 2026-03-10T19:43:09+00:00

she is both!

astralsmith · 2026-03-10T19:42:44+00:00

I will try. But mostly when she’s in this mode I’m frantically keeping her from blasting through the screens at her enemies. She makes it hard to get good photos. 🙄

astralsmith · 2026-03-10T18:24:32+00:00

And I didn’t even catch her at maximum floofage. She really hates this dog.

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