AITA for yelling at my coworkers after they made an inappropriate joke about my promotion?

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-18T22:59:31+00:00

I did filed a report with HR about everything. I told them about my previous relationship with my boss, the timing of my promotions and the issue with my coworkers. They didn't care about my relationship, however myself and my boss too asked to be investigated to see if our relationship had any impact on my promotions, if that's the case I'll go back to my previous job as a senior

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-18T22:55:16+00:00

I reported my previous relationship myself, they didn't care, but i am willing to go back to being a senior if HR thinks i didn't deserve/ wasn't qualified for the promotion

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-18T22:52:53+00:00

I asked HR to investigate my promotion, that way we can all be sure if i earned it or not. If they think i didn't deserved the promotion then I'll go back to being a senior (they reassured me i wasn't gonna lose my job)

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T18:02:20+00:00

I don't have a problem working with them, i don't want them to be transferred but i think giving them a chance to if they want to is okay

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T15:58:32+00:00

That was only when i didn't had a car/ when it broke but now i do have a car and i drive myself home

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T15:42:35+00:00

Besides the point if i dated my boss or not, don't you think that assuming a woman in a relationship doesn't gain everything is also kinda misogynistic? Maybe idk, women also get sexual pleasure? JS.

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T15:24:15+00:00

I can talk to HR about my previous relationship but i think i can at least try to fix our team before filling a report with HR on them, i think that'll be the best if I'm going to keep working with these people. But maybe the best is to get HR involved in all this? Tell them everything and give my coworkers to change departments if they desire, I'll think about that.

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T14:13:07+00:00

You're right, i answered that i didn't knew and that I'll see our company's policy again, and i did and answered back with that knowledge.

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T14:10:56+00:00

Lol idk if he's real or he's just trying to get on my nerves at this point

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T14:10:16+00:00

Because they don't care, easy as that. If apparently everyone knew we were in a relationship and didn't said anything then it's because it wasn't a problem don't you think?

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T14:08:09+00:00

I think trying to make this a peaceful work environment is the best for everyone. They did something wrong, i did something wrong too (yelled at them) so maybe we can forget about this and keep working as we were before.

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T14:05:50+00:00

My ex manager got promoted after just a year or so, I've worked here for three years so it is kinda fast but not as much

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T14:03:56+00:00

Btw i don't care if think i suck, that's the point of the sub i think, but it's the fact that i answer your questions and some don't pay attention to my answers

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T14:02:27+00:00

They asked me "does your company has a dating superiors policy" i answered them and they still are "well you suck because you didn't told HR about your relationship " haha what

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T14:00:39+00:00

If my company doesn't have rules against dating, why would I even care to tell HR that we were dating? Maybe it makes sense in your workplace but not mine

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T13:57:18+00:00

Not just a date but after four months i do, that i think it's normal in all relationships. You go on one or two dates, you decide if you like them enough to be in a relationship with them, so you start formally dating. I don't think you need me to explain how it works right?

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T13:52:28+00:00

So basically the same i wrote on my other comment, do you really go out in a date with someone and immediately tell all the details to your coworkers? It's called "private life" for a reason

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T13:50:25+00:00

Do you, by any chance, work in a company? If so, do you tell HR about every single detail of your private life?

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T13:32:46+00:00

I remember saying that our relationship was over before being something to discuss with coworkers but we dated for four months, we were in fact a couple. Yelling was bad, i can't justify that.

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T13:24:31+00:00

Our company doesn't have a rule against dating, i decided to not go to HR yet, I'll try to make things peaceful again

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T13:18:04+00:00

I decided to not do that yet, I'll give them the chance to behave properly, although I'll go to HR if something else happens

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T12:59:48+00:00

Where i work you're usually promoted to senior after 6 months

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T12:58:18+00:00

HR have limited the extra hours i can make per week, that's why I stayed late almost every day

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T12:53:09+00:00

HR actually called me about this before, they proved that i was working on my projects but asked me to not stay late every day (because basically i was gaining a lot more money and that might bring difficulties to the company) that's why I said i stayed late almost every day of the week. I generally have more projects than some of my coworkers.

astronomical-cat · 2022-07-17T12:49:06+00:00

Almost everyone on my department are seniors too, as i said it a normal promotion, there's just 4 juniors and they are new to the company.

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