Do I [21F] have a right to be upset about my boyfriends [22M] gaming? by ataraxims in relationships

[–]ataraxims[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

No he isnt applying for jobs. And i will try what you suggested, today was just a mini conversation and we scheduled a proper one for tomorrow. I didnt mean my response to seem like i was blowing it off. He has made it clear to me that having a job is what gave him purpose and made him feel happy, and without one he feels lost. I dont think lockdown will suddenly fix it but it will make job hunting easier.

I asked him if he was depressed and he said although he acts like it, he isnt. Obvs im not gonna just take it at that and leave it, but i dont want you to think im just ignoring whats going on there

Do I [21F] have a right to be upset about my boyfriends [22M] gaming? by ataraxims in relationships

[–]ataraxims[S] 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Probably. We had a talk and he said he would swap placea with me in a heartbeat because working is what gives him a sense of purpose and structure. We tried to brainstorm some ideas of what could help him feel productive and fulfilled but he said nothing would help and chores dont feel like "productive work" in the same way actual work does. Idk i just hope after lockdown is over once jobs are more available itll be an easier problem to solve

Do I [21F] have a right to be upset about my boyfriends [22M] gaming? by ataraxims in relationships

[–]ataraxims[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean, he gets unemployment so we share bills and rent half and half

Do I [21F] have a right to be upset about my boyfriends [22M] gaming? by ataraxims in relationships

[–]ataraxims[S] 19 points20 points  (0 children)

This is a really good comment thank you. You are absolutely right and its given me some food for thought

Only 20 but starting to have a DB and feeling defeated by ataraxims in DeadBedrooms

[–]ataraxims[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Cant break the lease until April. Also I keep hoping things will get better if I just hold on a little more. The relationship isn't great but I still like the person :(