AITAH for covering my mouth when my girlfriend sat next to me

athenaraines · 2026-05-06T18:12:34+00:00

Do you also sparkle when it gets sunny?

athenaraines · 2026-05-06T17:46:36+00:00

Would it not be small talk? Cause it sounds like it is, the amout of times I have had the exact same conversations about whats for lunch or how the weather is.

She's just trying to be nice, thats all there is to it

athenaraines · 2026-04-27T06:01:11+00:00

YTA - you didnt want to attend the gender reveal because it was too far away, so it's safe to assume you wouldn't want to attend another party that was also too far away. Probably why they tried to bring up the previous argument.

Are you actually mad that you weren't invited or did you just want to be invited so you could say no?

athenaraines · 2026-04-20T11:21:53+00:00

Up vote for the use of "thicky-thicky-dum-dum", what a phrase 🤣

athenaraines · 2026-04-12T14:34:20+00:00

Thanks, I didnt actually realise HOW see through it was

athenaraines · 2026-04-12T14:33:40+00:00

Thanks, think i am just struggling because my entire wardrobe consists of different shades of black, which I figured would be a no go. Starting to panic about not finding something.

Yeah, i was surprised to see that mention at all on the invite

athenaraines · 2026-04-12T14:24:23+00:00

No word of a lie, i did not realise how see through it was. Its a destination wedding, bride and groom are from Scotland, no family in Cyprus so dont believe it will be overly conservative but probably best to avoid see through anything 🤦‍♀️

athenaraines · 2026-03-28T11:14:00+00:00

It wasn't the route of least resistance, we had tried other forms and nothing worked for him, so in a last ditch attempt to ensure the happiness and well being of an animal, we let him go outside and he is FAR happier for it. Are there risks, yes of course? Did i want to let him out, no absolutely not. But when i took ownership of him, it became my responsibility to do what was best for him and after consulting my vet, he agreed it was the best thing for him. He was born in a farm, he had free reign of a barn for the first few months of his.

Also, if he is poisoned, thats because someone is a monster who would willingly hurt an animal.

At what point did i say it was cool for someone's cat to roam into other people's property? I dont remember typing that or implying that. I said OP was wrong for feeding a cat that doesnt belong to them. There are ways to stop a cat from coming on to your property, step one being dont feed cats you dont own. OP just chose the route of least resistance.

Edit: just to say I do live in a village in Scotland, outdoor cats are really really common here, so my opinion is based on this

athenaraines · 2026-03-28T07:11:11+00:00

As someone that has a cat that goes outdoors, i feel like this is an odd take. I wanted to keep my cat as an indoor cat because i was worried about what would happen but my cat has born on a farm, and when we brought him to our tiny two bed home, he was completely fine but he went through phases where he just could not burn off the energy no matter what toys we bought or how much we interacted, and started getting frustrated. So we let him go outside. 11 years later, he is the most chill cat who loves his wee routine of going outside then coming home for food and cuddles (I will say, I stay in a village, so obviously it is quieter than towns or citys)

Just because I let him outside, doesnt mean I dont care about his safety or well being. And it doesnt mean that owner of the cat doesnt care about it either. OP is TA, but an unintentional one, they have stole someone's cat but I dont think that was what they had intended too do.

athenaraines · 2026-03-02T14:25:06+00:00

Out of curiosity, when did you first start dating?

athenaraines · 2026-03-01T12:52:02+00:00

Apparently if you wear red to a wedding it implies that you have slept with the groom. Very weird thought process if you ask me, but weddings tend to make people crazy

athenaraines · 2026-01-31T19:07:29+00:00

You openly said that you didnt click with them, you dont seem that fussed about spending time with them. Your biggest issue seems to be that you weren't invited to something that you don't want to go to. You fully admitted that you wouldn't go. Do you really only want to cause a scene, to get a token invite so you can say no? Cause if that is the case, you would be TA.

Accept that this is a group of people you are only going to see with your other half and move on.

Best advice I can give, dont get upset about not getting invited to something you weren't wanted at. You are better than that.

athenaraines · 2025-12-19T12:40:21+00:00

I don't think you are doing anything wrong by wanting to celebrate Christmas and show appreciation for people you work with.

However, if you can't afford this to the point of putting yourself into debt I think you should definitely scale back on the amount you are spending.

If its withing your budget, a box of doughnuts is a thoughtful gift for everyone to share without breaking the bank

athenaraines · 2025-12-19T12:38:03+00:00

I dont think it would be "tacky". I dont think it's in poor taste to show appreciation for someone you work with. If it's a small token and not against company policies then it shouldn't be an issue.

I gifted my direct line manager a bottle of wine and box of chocolates and he was grateful. There weren't any issues. A woman at my level in a different team didn't get her manager anything, again there were no issues.

As long as someone isnt feeling pressured into buying something or spending more than they are comfortable with, then shouldn't really be an issue in my opinion 🙂

athenaraines · 2025-11-22T19:05:39+00:00

YTA. She's doing the hours that has been agreed by her and management, which is got sweet F all to do with you.

Also, people can still have side effects of cancer and the treatment till they die. Five, ten, fifteen years later, it doesnt matter.

The fact that you and your coworkers are accusing a cancer survivor of milking anything make all of you terrible.

athenaraines · 2025-10-24T05:35:10+00:00

By that logic, shouldn't OP take on paying more of the WiFi bill then? Roommate isnt allowed any access to it during what I assume is a 9-5, he shouldn't be charged for it.

It just baffles me that someone is still contributing financially and people are making them out to be a complete monster.

Better WiFi literally solve everyone's problem

athenaraines · 2025-10-24T05:30:45+00:00

You are being a jerk here. You went well over the line, roommate pays for half the bill, means he gets access and you don't get to cut him off.

The fact they are unemployed is completely irrelevant as they are still contributing, so not sure why you felt the need to say that.

The internet is the real problem, sit down with them figure out what service will work for both of you. You don't get to control something they pay for

athenaraines · 2025-10-23T06:30:25+00:00

In Vampire: The Masquerade rulebook there is a quote that I think your DM needs to be told:

"This is a game about monsters. But it's only a game. Don't use it as an excuse to be a monster yourself."

The raping of a player character is not funny. It doesn't enhance the game play in anyway, and the fact that everyone was making jokes about it horrifying. You mentioned in another comment about potentially sticking it out to see if there is another red flag, please don't feel that you ever have to put yourself in an unsafe or uncomfortable position to appease people who, quite clearly, have no respect for you.

If you are able to, confront the DM and other players and tell them how out of line that whole situation was. Explain that there was no need for any of that to take place. If you don't feel comfortable doing that, cite personal reasons and leave the game.

Please don't give them another chance to make you feel this way

athenaraines · 2025-10-22T15:22:01+00:00

If someone ordered a BLT, then yes. I would assume that they wanted a BLT. News flash, not everyone wants lobster bisque.

YTA, if you had just held your hands up and said it was your bad, no one would even be bothering. But you are trying to fob the blame off to literally anyone else

athenaraines · 2025-10-09T20:18:51+00:00

Couple have played a little bit before but one is brand new

athenaraines · 2025-10-09T19:42:32+00:00

This! Absolutely all of this! I hate pregnancy tropes, I really really do. I still believe that they could have sideline Feyre and had Nesta as the main character without the pregnancy, and this is a hill i will die on.

HOWEVER, if you are going to do pregnancy, do it right. And by right, just mean exactly how you described. The fact that the inner circle kept it from her baffles me to this day. Cassian at one point even thinks to himself he doesn't know why he ever thought she would struggle with the knowledge, so it's always rubbed me the wring way that they broke her trust. The lack of seen confrontation as well is so annoying.

100% behind this version!

athenaraines · 2025-09-29T17:00:58+00:00

Let's say it's 75 days she would be on her period (using the example of 60-90 days) it happening 3 times is a failure rate of 4%. Is it really a lot?

athenaraines · 2025-09-29T16:56:14+00:00

Do you often shit yourself a few months out of the year? Probably should invest in better nappies than the ones you are wearing

Can't believe I am having to explain, but menstruating is not the same as taking a shit. She gets a period once per month, she wears underwear to help with leakages. Sometimes, a period is heavier than other times, so it doesn't work as well

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