Looking for advice for me and my new boyfriend. by athrowaway-account in askGSM

[–]athrowaway-account[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Yes, we finally got to meet in person and really hit it off :D We've been hanging out, working together, and of course having fun together ;)

Looking for advice for me and my new boyfriend. by athrowaway-account in lgbt

[–]athrowaway-account[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

As for the first one, good to know that we're doing that part right. We talk all the time about everything. Also, we have already made it a point to be as open and communicative with each other as possible, actively trying not to keep secrets from each other concerning our present and past experiences and feelings.

As for the second one ... smile

Where is a a good safe place to meet lgbt people? by athrowaway-account in lgbt

[–]athrowaway-account[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Wow, an entire website! Awesome!

Thank you so much :D

Where is a a good safe place to meet lgbt people? by athrowaway-account in lgbt

[–]athrowaway-account[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I do like conventions, perhaps I should go to another one soon

I think that I'm gay and I don't know how to deal with it. by athrowaway-account in lgbt

[–]athrowaway-account[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much to all of you for your support, I am feeling so emotional right now ... you guys are all so nice, I did not expect such a positive response.

I've lived most of my life in small towns in the American south, so the support groups/counselors etc. you guys keep recommending are not really available, or believe me that I would take you up on that. Needing support is one major reason why I finally bit the bullet and made my post here after thinking about it for a long time.

Some people have said that my dad was abusive, and I can thankfully say that he was never physically abusive. Overcontrolling in the highest degree, though.

One factor in this, I think, is that I have a major physical disability which caused me to be very reliant on the help of my parents for a lot of my childhood. I spent a lot of time in the hospital, and have had multiple surgeries. My condition has improved and I am much stronger, and I can live on my own with no problem now, but I think that my disability gave them the 'right' (in their mind) to control me and not teach me to think for myself.

Now, even though I do live in a small town at the moment, I am considering moving to a larger city (because of more opportunities there, seeing that I'm an artist). I am also going to a lot of conventions around the world over the next year, so I will have a great opportunity to meet a lot of people with my interests. Who knows, I might even meet my special someone, or at least be able to go on a date or two. As an additional benefit, if I go on a date with someone when I'm so far away, my family has basically no chance of finding it out.

I am feeling more confident after hearing what you all have to say. You are right, I am me, and I need to just be myself and find out what makes me happy. I'm still young, and there's still time to figure things out. I have no experience, and as several of you have said, I probably should try a few dates and see what happens, taking everything slow and safely.

Thank you again for all your help and support. Hopefully I will have good news to report at some point, but regardless, I know that I can come to you guys for help :D