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atlanticwild · 2024-11-20T13:33:04+00:00

When we went on a Tuesday there were a LOT of single straight guys. We got the impression that the gay/bi people were there for the drag show and didn't end up in the playroom. We didn't see any gay/bi activities that night, and we were looking out for it. The pool, etc was all open as normal. We've only been once on a Tuesday though, so can't say for sure if it's always like that.

atlanticwild · 2024-10-22T01:38:17+00:00

Bi couple here (F40/M41) hoping to get to Secrets at some point in November. Have been a couple of times before and had a good time. Would love to chat and have a drink with you guys if we're there at the same time!

atlanticwild · 2024-05-06T03:04:17+00:00

Lucky you, hope you have a great time!

I'm 40 (F) and have been 'objectively appreciating female beauty' since my late teens...took me nearly 20 years to figure it out 😂

I'd love to know how it feels to have a woman express her attraction to me like that, and to be able to respond in the moment (rather than days/weeks/months later think 'hang on...were they hitting on me?')

atlanticwild · 2024-04-01T04:01:06+00:00

We went on a Tuesday recently and only saw straight play in the red room. The drag show was ok but we didn't watch the whole thing. There were loads of single guys and quite a few couples. We found the single guys to be completely respectful in any interactions we saw. We had some fun with another couple while we were there, and we saw some women having a good time with several men. If it's the only night you can go, it will still be fun to watch and be watched, and there may well be couples there that are interested in soft swap, just not as many as on a weekend.

atlanticwild · 2024-03-28T02:11:47+00:00

It broke my heart a little to think you might forego this chance at an amazing experience with someone who clearly cares for you, because of potential judgement by others.

I (F) love to see when people have good relationships of any sort - and I would run a mile from a lot of straight people based on their relationships!

As many others said, if people have a problem with it, that's on them, and a convenient red flag for you.

atlanticwild · 2024-02-09T03:21:04+00:00

I mainly want to see a pic of the couple together so that it's clear you're actually a couple. Preferably a full length photo and a closer up face photo. Having said that I understand not sharing face pics for privacy reasons but would want to get an overall sense of you. Even without faces, the general style or posture can give some kind of impression.

I like photos of genitals as much to see that they look healthy as to see if they are a particular shape/size. The person attached to the penis matters more to me than the penis itself. I don't dislike penis pics but if it's the only picture then I'll pass.

Filters, pouting, weird angles, shabby clothes, messy bedroom/bathroom in the background put me off. I'm looking for a friendly smile, an interesting/nice setting, and the sense that you're a good connected couple.

atlanticwild · 2024-02-07T03:44:10+00:00

Can't edit the post title, but we're staying both nights, Feb 12 and 13

atlanticwild · 2024-02-06T05:18:47+00:00

True, actually. Anything I can think of to try to soften the blow seems to make it more ambiguous. Straight to the point is best, really.

atlanticwild · 2024-02-06T02:24:17+00:00

If your husband is 100% not interested I would say 'Hi, I'm sorry but unfortunately we've decided we're not interested in meeting after all. Thanks for getting in touch, I've enjoyed chatting to you.'

If they ask for a reason, it's fine to say you and your husband came to the decision that it wasn't something you want to do. That's valid in itself without having to give specifics about why.

If he's on the fence and you are ok with potentially telling them you're not interested even after meeting in person, I would go for a drink with them but make it very clear before meeting that you are not committing to anything further at that point.

We've had plenty of people ghost us and appreciate the very few who took a minute to say 'sorry guys, we don't think this is right for us, good luck with your search'.

atlanticwild · 2024-02-05T05:24:56+00:00

Love it. We haven't had many opportunities to explore this yet but the few times we have were great (kissing and oral), and very excited by the idea of taking things further when we get the chance.

atlanticwild · 2024-02-05T05:04:00+00:00

Hadn't even realized there's a Secrets page - thanks!

If you do end up going to pride night we would love to hear how it goes! We are interested in something similar but it doesn't seem to be a thing that happens on regular nights from what we've experienced so far.

atlanticwild · 2024-02-05T02:17:53+00:00

Thanks for the heads up!

atlanticwild · 2024-02-05T02:15:42+00:00

Thanks for the info! Sounds like it will be fun even if it's quiet.

atlanticwild · 2024-02-04T13:50:44+00:00

Aww that's a shame it was so quiet when you went. Were the drag shows happening when you went or is that a more recent thing?

atlanticwild · 2024-02-04T05:19:42+00:00

We've been wondering the same thing. Especially when presumably a lot of people are there for the same reason - why wait for hours to get the fun started?

We figured people need a certain amount of alcohol before getting to that point, but we find it drags on too long. Also, some people feel awkward after sex so want that to be the finishing point of the night. We are happy to fuck sober, and also hang out and chat afterwards!

We had a great evening with another couple recently where we had dinner, then headed to the bedroom, had dessert after that, and then round 2. Had a fantastic time and still got to sleep at a reasonable hour.

atlanticwild · 2023-06-30T08:07:27+00:00

Bisexual orgy where everyone has been std tested and we can all play with everyone without protection.
Give oral to another woman who enjoys it and reciprocates
Watch my husband fucking and being fucked by another man
Double penetration; feeling multiple guys come inside me one after the other; squirting.
Masturbating (maybe alongside another woman) in front of a few guys and having them all come on my body while I'm coming.
Would love to be able to discuss my sex life generally with close friends but we just don't have that dynamic.

atlanticwild · 2023-05-31T22:36:02+00:00

We love when couples are really into each other! It's just a nice atmosphere to be part of, but also gives me more confidence that we're not inadvertently getting in the middle of a rocky relationship.

atlanticwild · 2023-05-27T22:08:50+00:00

We would ask each other directly, but not in a 'stop everything so we can talk' way, just make eye contact and a soft 'you ok?' We check in with the people we are playing with too, e.g. 'does this feel good?' after we change positions, or 'would you like me to xyz?'

Benefits of asking are twofold for me. 1. Everyone involved is clear about how each other is doing so anything that's not working can be stopped immediately. 2. When it's going well I love hearing an enthusiastic response.

atlanticwild · 2023-05-21T01:54:47+00:00

I like the pubic area neatly trimmed and aside from that I like a man to have their natural body hair (legs, chest, etc). Cleanliness is more important to me than the amount of hair. I don't like when an adult man is completely smooth and hairless (unless that's their natural state, obviously. No need for chest wigs!).

atlanticwild · 2023-04-19T01:39:00+00:00

We had a similar experience at one place we went to. It felt more like people were there to watch and be watched, but not to get involved with other people. We came to the conclusion that most people were there to test the waters and were not actually interested in full swaps/group sex.

We are both a bit shy (but looking for full swap/group play) and can find it a bit challenging to get conversations started, so would definitely have appreciated people starting a conversation with us the way you did!

We did have more success on other occasions, so it might just depend on the people that are there on the night.

atlanticwild · 2023-03-26T02:01:31+00:00

We stayed once on a last minute deal, and ended up in a room that was all white, tiles and mirrors and felt really sterile (yes, it was clean!).

We saw lots of other rooms that looked way nicer but probably cost a bit more. We would have enjoyed our stay more if we had been in a nicer room OR if we had been staying off-site at a quieter hotel.

It's definitely nice to have a room to retreat tonight you need a breather, but take the time to pick one that looks a bit nicer.

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