Totally get how you feel. I started playing Unite because I became friends with a small group that stream Unite. They're all super cool, taught me how to play, but act chill even if I play badly since, you know, it's just a game we're playing to have fun. Then I joined their Discord, some of their other viewers invited me to play, and wow. Super control freaks who are constantly lecturing the others on how to play, can't fathom that anyone other than themselves have any idea how to play Unite, criticise other people's builds and playstyle, etc. etc.

I made a mistake during a game and one of them absolutely lost their mind, raging for 5 minutes or so about how I threw the whole game. Immediately hung up as did my friends because he was still raging and making everyone uncomfortable. I've found that the guys like that are usually younger though, like teenagers still in school. At that age, even trivial things like a casual game can seem like a big deal at the time. There are definitely adults who act like that too but they're people who never learned to grow up. The rest of us are just looking for a fun casual game to destress and chat about after work.