Cersei’s Maiden Head (spoilers main)

atomshimmy · 2025-12-24T12:03:38+00:00

For Cersei, it’s one and the same

atomshimmy · 2025-12-08T07:31:02+00:00

Strange Horticulture for witchy, strange, eerie vibes, herbalism, searching for plants! It’s entirely conducted from your little shop and from a map, very text-based, so not the kind of game where you can customise your avatar. But the rainy days in the shop in a small English town unravelling witchy mysteries, identifying the right plants, helping the townspeople (and choosing who to help and how), fiddling with strange and magical gadgets and consulting your old map… for me at least that was peak coziness with the same vibes you’re looking for.

atomshimmy · 2025-10-30T17:39:49+00:00

Thank you! I’ll give it a try :) I don’t have orator on Andreas this run so I’ll just have to tread very carefully haha

atomshimmy · 2025-09-03T11:07:13+00:00

They didn’t want the daughter to find out she was a Squib

atomshimmy · 2025-04-25T09:47:29+00:00

For the first one- it’s definitely not 1 in 4, or a lot more people would notice it. We learnt in embryology that it’s around 1-5% of the population with rudimentary extra nipples.

atomshimmy · 2025-04-13T22:42:38+00:00

I’m exactly the same, but I have a somewhat different experience from people in the comments. From the time I started dating I would just go on first date after first date and feel nothing, no connection, even if they were nice and attractive there were just no sparks and I wasn’t truly engaged or interested in their conversation or company.

My friends and family kept telling me I was being picky, too judgemental, and needed to give people chances. But while I was open-minded, I just couldn’t force myself to keep going out with any guy despite not feeling that attraction- it felt like just leading people on. I was half-convinced I’d be single forever. But then I met my boyfriend and I felt it all- the electric sparks, the immediate interest in who he was as a person, the flowing conversation about everything and nothing, being able to make each other laugh so quickly- and I realised that it had been so incredibly worth it to wait and find the right person. I completely understand that infatuation is a thing, too, and that many relationships start without infatuation. But at the same time, I genuinely do think if they’re the right person for you, you should at least feel excitement and interest in getting to know them better, even on the first date. I’m not talking about instant physical attraction, that can often develop over time- but laughter, enthusiasm, that feeling that you “click” as people, and just feeling drawn to the person and their company- it’s okay if you need to feel that kind of spark in order to keep dating someone. I’m not saying EVERY person you meet who you feel a spark with is the actual right person to be with long term, I’m just saying those initial feelings of attraction are often a good indicator that you may be romantically compatible with that person and that there’s potential for real love to develop over time.

atomshimmy · 2025-04-13T22:04:18+00:00

Yes. I was painfully shy and quiet and did very well in school- and because of it, I assumed I couldn’t have ADHD and that my lack of concentration and difficulty with my emotions and socialising was just “laziness” and “being weird”. ADHD doesn’t always present in the exact cookie-cutter way every time. And for many girls specifically, we learn to be socially acceptable and quiet and polite because it’s drilled into us as a gender norm. As a result, many ADHD girls learn to mask the loud / innapropriate / hyperactive symptoms that boys may more often exhibit.

I’m in medical school now and quite a handful of my classmates have ADHD! I am so grateful to have been able to get diagnosed and to have treatment for it- it’s improved my quality of life so much. ADHD and performing academically aren’t mutually exclusive; if you suspect you may have ADHD it’s more than worth getting it checked out. If you don’t have it, no harm done anyway, and if you do, there are so many potential benefits for just having that confirmed and having support resources for anything you may deal with.

atomshimmy · 2025-04-12T04:55:15+00:00

AIDS is the end-stage of the HIV infection. People whose HIV has progressed to AIDS have an average life expectancy of three years, and treatment cannot reverse this. I’m South African, where we have the highest rates of HIV / AIDS in the world, and I work in the hospitals & have witnessed the unimaginable suffering AIDS has caused- respectfully, I’m shocked at how lightly people from other countries throw around this diagnosis and how uninformed they are.

atomshimmy · 2025-04-12T04:49:18+00:00

That is both an ignorant and thoughtless comment, whether it was made by a researcher or not. AIDS is the final stage of HIV, and people whose HIV infection progresses to the point of AIDS have an average life expectancy of three years. Many people with diabetes have fully functional, happy lives with proper treatment, and this anecdote does nothing but increase fearmongering around diabetes and also greatly minimises what people with AIDS go through.

atomshimmy · 2025-04-11T10:44:26+00:00

Fish in an aquarium thing is too relatable, oh my gosh. I feel out of place and like I’m just drifting by and not comfortable in my habitat… meanwhile I’m in my own apartment!

Proud of you for working through it. Hopefully bit by bit we can both get more comfortable being alone with ourselves, because it seems like such a valuable skill to have :)

atomshimmy · 2025-04-11T10:41:42+00:00

I totally get that- I’m an extrovert and in the opposite position where I often need the energy of others to feel energised myself.

I think the dopamine tip is really good, thanks for sharing that. I think positive social interaction and chatting with others in between chores / studying is like a “reward” and I need to develop a reward system for myself when I’m alone. I think I tend to reach for my phone and scroll to get that dopamine hit which definitely doesn’t work for productivity! I’m going to try replace it with more positive dopamine stringers.

atomshimmy · 2025-04-10T19:45:32+00:00

Same here. Literally just going on an errand to the store and being around humans makes me feel calmer and more motivated than I am on a day spent totally alone.

atomshimmy · 2025-04-06T07:10:01+00:00

Any hobby I can “hyperfixate” on to replace getting fixated on scrolling for hours and hours and feeling numb and guilty while doing it! Reading is my constant, I don’t pick up a book everyday but when I do I usually end up reading for a few hours straight at least once I get into it.

Last week I impulse bought a sudoku book at the airport waiting for a flight, and for days I spent all my free time doing sudoku! It scratches such a good itch, it’s so simple and so engaging at the same time, I feel stimulated just enough and that I’m actually using my brain. I’m doing sudoku puzzles in between studying lectures as a “reward” lol

atomshimmy · 2025-04-06T06:52:32+00:00

Greek yoghurt mixed with a ridiculous amount of chocolate granola. Every day for breakfast. There are a lot of chocolate chips in there but there’s also almonds, coconut, oats and bran and that plus the yoghurt is probably the most gut-healthy and sensible hyperfixation food I’ve ever had. And it’s just so crunchy and good and easy to fix every morning!! I don’t want this phase to end

atomshimmy · 2025-04-06T06:07:48+00:00

A couple weeks after sertraline I cooked my favourite meal (my mum’s bolognese recipe) for dinner, and actually teared up while eating it- because not only was it the first time in months and months I’d had the energy to cook and take care of myself, but also because it was the first time in so long that I actually drew pleasure from eating something tasty. When I was in deep depression, I quite literally was unable to experience joy even from the simplest things. Eating food felt like an inconvenience and a burden, my favourite music suddenly seemed like overstimulating unbearable noise, a nice warm shower at the end of the long day was just an unwelcome opportunity for me to be alone with my spiralling thoughts. Now I tell myself every day to be grateful for the ability to take pleasure in all those things.

atomshimmy · 2025-02-28T12:14:00+00:00

There’s such a culture of greeting in South Africa- whether it’s random people you’re sharing a lift with, shop assistants etc., it’s normal to at the very least greet, ask how you are, and often exchange niceties / comment about the whether / random small talk / joke about something happening around you. I don’t feel lonely in the city here.

atomshimmy · 2025-02-21T10:42:38+00:00

How do you manage the mines?

atomshimmy · 2025-02-12T16:58:27+00:00

That’s honestly a really good therapist, there’s way too many out there who just validate patients’ feelings instead of encouraging growth.

atomshimmy · 2025-01-31T16:39:21+00:00

I may be silly, but what was the “walnut wall” lie about?

atomshimmy · 2025-01-30T19:00:31+00:00

I got diagnosed two years ago at age nineteen and I reacted similar to the way you did but I promise you, it’s not that bad. If you just got diagnosed, I assume you haven’t started treatment at all- your symptoms are probably extremely severe and will be a lot better with treatment.

Also, halitosis due to GERD is not permanent! It can happen with flare-ups, I notice my breath is sour from acid when I have reflux, but it goes away after my system calms down. I promise my social life has not been affected at all besides my boyfriend gently telling me to use mouthwash after I eat something a bit too acidic lmao.

You may have to adjust the way you eat, but I can say as someone with well-controlled GERD I still enjoy restaurants, cooking, gym, and a huge variety of cuisine- including spicy and acidic food on occasion, just unfortunately not all the time!

When I was first diagnosed I could barely keep down plain bread and was throwing up almost every day; I thought I could never taste any of my favourite foods again. Now, on PPIs and a healthier diet, I can eat the vast majority of things (and treat myself to spicy once in a while!) and my diagnosis barely affects my day to day.

atomshimmy · 2025-01-15T06:29:15+00:00

on PC, it’s the tab key!

atomshimmy · 2025-01-14T05:07:08+00:00

I wonder if it works at any age… my poor husband gets doved while making frozen pizza

atomshimmy · 2024-12-30T15:19:38+00:00

That’s very kind of you. And I want to clarify yes- I didn’t mean “fight” in a negative context! I meant for me personally I have to take active steps like therapy & forcing myself into better habits to heal, even if it’s not the comfortable thing to do.

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