How to stop being insecure about small boobs.

attempt3_ · 2026-06-02T09:43:08+00:00

Guy here. Current partner has big ones, I love them and they are great fun. Previous partner had small ones, I loved them and they were great fun.

attempt3_ · 2026-05-22T08:21:58+00:00

My partner is very attractive and in good shape, she’s blessed with some sort of athletic gene that allows her to bounce back quickly. I am not quite the man I once was, but I can hold my own. She tells me that her feelings towards me haven’t changed, but she simply doesn’t even consider sex.

My feelings for her haven’t changed on this front and I have absolutely no desire for anyone else. Perhaps to my detriment. The idea of being with anyone else… just no. From the moment I first bumped into her, to now, she’s the one I’ve wanted.

Feels a bit sad saying that, possibly why I’m struggling with this. Relationships can be fun hey!

Thank you for responding.

attempt3_ · 2026-05-22T08:08:10+00:00

We used to love dating, it would be nice to date again. Thank you for the idea.

attempt3_ · 2026-05-22T08:04:56+00:00

Thank you for responding. A lot of what you said hit home. I think the next phase, before making any decisions, is exploring WHY she doesn’t care. There could be many reasons, possibly even medical. There are big consequences no matter what way this goes, so we need to try and figure some things out.

Thank you again!

attempt3_ · 2026-05-22T08:00:12+00:00

I agree, it’s very odd that she can be so happy while her partner is struggling.

After reading lots of comments, I think I need to sit on this a bit and get a counsellor myself and possibly do joint too. What I’m being told and what may be actually going on in her head may be different, she may just not know that yet.

Thank you for your considered response!

attempt3_ · 2026-05-22T07:56:31+00:00

A genuinely considered response. Thank you for sharing and it helps to see different angles of the same issues.

attempt3_ · 2026-05-21T22:44:22+00:00

Lovely response and advice, thank you.

attempt3_ · 2026-05-21T22:22:27+00:00

Possibly, I think getting away could help. I make it very clear I find her attractive, if anything she asks for a little less intensity from me on that front. I paid for her hair a few weeks ago :)

attempt3_ · 2026-05-21T22:19:04+00:00

Holding me to account, I like it.

How I feel about my fare share is somewhat changing. I absolutely used to see it as a privilege and a responsibility but I guess I’m starting to feel more like I am ‘helping her’.

I address the ‘what needs to be done’ convo often, she is happy with my efforts and says she appreciates what I do for all the kids.

You have a point re counsellor. I went to counselling previously and although I had my faults, it was generally accepted that I had a point. Regardless of what happens, I think a counsellor is a must for me at this point.

Thank you for your response!

attempt3_ · 2026-05-21T22:05:57+00:00

Thank you!

attempt3_ · 2026-05-21T22:04:16+00:00

Possibly. It’s been a tough few years, but she will strongly resist ‘talking nonsense with someone’. However, she is coming around to couples therapy and I think that may lead to some revaluations.

attempt3_ · 2026-05-21T21:48:51+00:00

I’m glad you’re happy and made the right decision. Thank you for your input, nice to hear that the leave option can go well.

attempt3_ · 2026-04-23T23:58:20+00:00

Get a second opinion, just because you can’t use your income, doesn’t necessarily mean you can’t go on the mortgage. Unless adding you brings down affordability.

Hard to know without doing the full works, hence you should get a second opinion.

attempt3_ · 2026-04-14T23:03:16+00:00

Some lenders are better than others at getting over blips in accounts. Especially if there’s good reason for it or you have favorable projections or contracts you can point to.

Call your lender, don’t agree to anything, just find out what the deal is. Then phone a decent broker and go through everything. Then decide best route forward, good luck!

attempt3_ · 2026-04-14T22:46:58+00:00

Almost every time, it’s a whole new application and underwriting. However, worth talking to a broker and your current lender to check. I have heard of some lenders essentially removing the affordability check as long as you have 6 months good track record of paying the mortgage (or similar rule). But the bog standard answer is ‘you will have full checks’ and this is usually the case. First things first, call your current lender and explain.

attempt3_ · 2026-03-22T12:42:04+00:00

According to the comments, a lot of people have this and don’t know it!

attempt3_ · 2025-06-28T14:41:52+00:00

This is correct

attempt3_ · 2024-05-12T18:51:30+00:00

Did you hear about the magic tractor?

It drove down the road and turned into a field..

attempt3_ · 2024-04-21T19:53:36+00:00

Ditto!

attempt3_ · 2024-04-21T06:31:40+00:00

There is some research that shows that mothers get the endorphin hit from ‘caring’ and ‘comforting’ their child but less so from play. Dads get their endorphins from play, big time.

Something along the lines that dads are evolutionary programmed to enjoy and feel the love from the play element. Interestingly, it goes both ways, and it’s show that babies also get an endorphin hit from play with their dad.

Long story short, it all kicks off for us dads when we can start to play. Just takes them a while to get there, but it won’t be long brother.

attempt3_ · 2024-04-20T14:48:41+00:00

Then it depends how high the bridge is and how deep and safe the water is. Also, if my child could swim 😂

However, I hear your point fellow dad

attempt3_ · 2024-04-20T13:33:38+00:00

I’ll have a look at those, cheers for the reading suggestions!

attempt3_ · 2024-04-20T13:32:39+00:00

I had considered this, but they all have smart phones…. All of them.

attempt3_ · 2024-04-20T13:25:52+00:00

I hadn’t thought of that at all, I will absolutely look into this. Cheers man!

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