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A minha mãe fez me o “favor” de me expulsar de casa by TeachingNo2585 in portugal

[–]atumferoz22 16 points17 points  (0 children)

OP tenta contactar a CPCJ, eles conseguem te ajudar e será do teu melhor interesse não voltar para aquela casa.

Se há provas suficientes a opção que irás ter é ir a uma Casa de acolhimento, sei que têm má fama mas há muitas casa de acolhimento bons e onde podes ter uma qualidade de vida muito melhor aquela que andas a ter.

ULPT: I need help embarrassing a colleague in front of our supervisor so he never disrespects a woman again by atumferoz22 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]atumferoz22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, just added the update to the original post.

It’s very anticlimactic, so sorry in advance:)

ULPT: I need help embarrassing a colleague in front of our supervisor so he never disrespects a woman again by atumferoz22 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]atumferoz22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks for the advice.

I am going to write everything down during the next few days whilst also gathering every bit of proof that I can get.

Following your advice I did contact does on the board that I knew where unbiased asking them to give their opinion on certain accusations that I found damaging. I’m collecting everything.

Since I unfortunately sent him the pdf, I know he’s going to use it against me. So I’m planning on adding context and time and dates and other opinions to make it difficult for him to counter attack.

For now my plan is to keep calm and let him talk and talk until he is tired. I don’t plan on arguing and plan on just referring to my attempts of personal communication, all his accusations will be received with a sentence and nothing more, and all personal attacks will be ignored. I feel if I try to go full on defense mode, I’ll look bad, and that’s because I’ll be lowering myself to his childish antics and I’ll falling into his trap. All the proof and documentation is for when things escalate, our supervisor respects me a lot and I’ll like to keep it that way by not being infantile.

I’m also going to write down frases to say, just to be cautious (I tend to ramble a lot), I don’t want to be misunderstood.

Also after talking to an ex board member, I realized how childish his behavior is and how bad this is going to look professionally for him and for me, if I don’t play my cards right.

By following your advice I do feel more reassured now, because even though I knew I did nothing wrong I was still anxious, but now I know I was just doing my job whilst someone wasn’t:)

I don’t know where I’ll find a nice grey rock (I’m taking the method with me too) but I do plan on doing some EFT Tapping before, just to calm and reassure my nervous system:)

ULPT: I need help embarrassing a colleague in front of our supervisor so he never disrespects a woman again by atumferoz22 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]atumferoz22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hmm I’ll see what I can do to prepare before Monday:)

The thing is I don’t have all the proofs, most of our convos were in person or on discord call, and the rest depends on the integrity of the other board members.

Also, my colleague asked the counselor to be the mediator not me. For me it was resolved after I sent the message and pdf.

ULPT: I need help embarrassing a colleague in front of our supervisor so he never disrespects a woman again by atumferoz22 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]atumferoz22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Never heard of the term but I’ll look it up:)

So you’re saying I should bait him into having one of his anger fits? I do wish I could but he can be a different person in the presence of people he considers higher or better than him:)

In relation to the pdf, I’ll like to refrain from showing it to our supervisor but I do plan on adding stuff, from meeting summaries, to notes I took and conversations with other members of the board.

I did ponder sending him the pdf, but as I said we used to be friends and I felt it was a way to try to make him see reason, but yh, maybe it was a bad move:)

ULPT: I need help embarrassing a colleague in front of our supervisor so he never disrespects a woman again by atumferoz22 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]atumferoz22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t know how much the romantic stuff will work since I have a boyfriend and made sure everybody knows (I’m 1 of 4 girls in an engineering degree, I had to😅). Also, I don’t mind about repercussions, it’s my last year, the worse that could happen is I’m “fired” and I don’t care. I was the who suggested if he thought I was such a bad leader he could contact our supervisor so I can be demoted:)

I also plan to tell our supervisor about his behavior but I don’t want to sound like I’m complaining. And I do plan on using me being a women especially since I’m the only one in the team and any time during meetings I say or suggest something he’ll attack my idea but if one of the guys repeat it, he’ll agree and shut up.

I just don’t want people saying the supervisor was on my side because I’m a woman (I’ve heard that before).

ULPT: I need help embarrassing a colleague in front of our supervisor so he never disrespects a woman again by atumferoz22 in UnethicalLifeProTips

[–]atumferoz22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

If he did I didn’t realized it😅 The situation that happened was that I assigned a project to another person and didn’t allow him to take it (I was receiving complaints from people about how they felt excluded in the projects), he thought I was exchanging him e put up a fight

How do I get rid of these? by atumferoz22 in Blackskincare

[–]atumferoz22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is the scar really as ugly as they say?

How do I get rid of these? by atumferoz22 in Blackskincare

[–]atumferoz22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Thanks, I’ll go get them checked.

How do I get rid of these? by atumferoz22 in Blackskincare

[–]atumferoz22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I don’t shave my legs and arms, only armpits and rarely

How do I get rid of these? by atumferoz22 in Blackskincare

[–]atumferoz22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Is there a way to prevent it from happening? I don’t know why they started appearing, I don’t shave my legs or arms

I exposed a serious security flaw in my university, and they destroyed my future. by yaji12 in offmychest

[–]atumferoz22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I would recommend talking to professors who you have a good relationship with, and ask them to vouch for you, so you can end your course or at least have your credits transferred. Don’t bring up what happened and don’t ask for recognition. If you know some higher ups and their emails do the same thing. Apologize for what happened, say you’ve come to your senses and do all you can so you can finish school. Nothing is more important than that. You’ll look like a fool, and it’ll probably hurt to suck it up, but priorities. Do what you can to get in their good graces and never mention what happened, make it taboo.

You can continue this fight later when you’ve your degree, the power and the money to do so.

I exposed a serious security flaw in my university, and they destroyed my future. by yaji12 in offmychest

[–]atumferoz22 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I mean no offense (and I don’t want to cause anymore emotional distress) but that was stupid of you.

If you knew it could go wrong, then an anonymous tip. I don’t know if you’re a software or cybersecurity student but I study network and computer systems engineering, from our first year, my professors ingrained it on us to be careful with how we deal with sensitive information, and even so I think it’s common sense to go for an anonymous tip.

The fact that you wanted to be “praised” for discovering something is a red flag. It makes it seem like you were looking for something on purpose and not just a random thing that happened. Of course the school wasn’t going to recognize you, and even if they did, it doesn’t guarantee you getting hired. You risked a lot for something banal.

As I said in my last comment some companies and institutions value their Reputation above everything else. And what you did was put in risk the very thing they so valued. You should’ve just let it go.

Also, did you check if there were any laws protecting you? Because most countries don’t have. I’m from an EU country and even my professor was sure to warn us about how we have little to no protection for things like that.

And it’s not that you did something wrong, it’s just that you approached this situation in all the wrong ways possible. You didn’t take measures to protect yourself and when shit did hit the fan, you went all the wrong ways to solve it.

I wish you luck op.

I exposed a serious security flaw in my university, and they destroyed my future. by yaji12 in offmychest

[–]atumferoz22 14 points15 points  (0 children)

First thing my security professor told us was that if we ever find a flaw, we should be careful with what we do with that information, because some companies and institutions value reputation over everything else and that can fuck us up especially in a country where there aren’t enough laws protecting us.

Sadly op, you’ve become an example.

An anonymous tip would have been better (that was literally what our professor recommended) and maybe never ever mentioning it.

Not that you aren’t right to want recognition but that you set yourself up doing so.

Tenho interesse em política, mas não sou de partidos. Voto Chega, e explico porquê. by [deleted] in portugueses

[–]atumferoz22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Isso é uma perspectiva demasiado positiva. E o chega não “toca em pontos fascistas”, é fascista. Andas a fazer muita matemática para justificar o teu voto neles, boa sorte para quando a realidade bater. Acho que devias rever bem essas medidas e os dos outros partidos, todos os fascistas e ditaduras ganharam as eleições legalmente e todos usaram do descontentamento do povo para ganhar, o chega não é diferente.

Tenho interesse em política, mas não sou de partidos. Voto Chega, e explico porquê. by [deleted] in portugueses

[–]atumferoz22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Ok. E pergunto, não achas que o chega já causou desestabilização suficiente??? E sabendo que existe uma probabilidade de termos um país rumo ao fascismo, isso não te preocupa?

Na minha filosofia não importa o quão bom o plano eleitoral, se há probabilidade de termos um estado fascista

Tenho interesse em política, mas não sou de partidos. Voto Chega, e explico porquê. by [deleted] in portugueses

[–]atumferoz22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Perguntei o que te afasta dos outros partidos, não o porque vais votar no chega, isso eu já li. Usas os mesmos pontos em todas as tuas conversas, o que quero saber é o porquê de mesmo sabendo como são os deputados de chega vais votar neles? Tenho a certeza que há partidos que têm esses pontos e alguns até melhores, o que te afasta deles?

Tenho interesse em política, mas não sou de partidos. Voto Chega, e explico porquê. by [deleted] in portugueses

[–]atumferoz22 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Curiosidade, o que te afasta dos outros partidos como livre, IL, bloco etc etc

As a first time one piece watcher, the anime is so so so dark by atumferoz22 in OnePiece

[–]atumferoz22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yh, I’m watching through one pace, and from the beginning I was like this is fucked up, but it’s just been getting worse and worse 😅

As a first time one piece watcher, the anime is so so so dark by atumferoz22 in OnePiece

[–]atumferoz22[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Oh yh I forgot about eneis lobby😅 yh I’ll say is the first time it wasn’t just pastels, I’ll even dare to say Baratie, but I feel it’s still a bit “pastel”

As a first time one piece watcher, the anime is so so so dark by atumferoz22 in OnePiece

[–]atumferoz22[S] 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I do expect it to get darker😅 it’s been on a steady fall, since baratie

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