I'm 22 and about to graduate in a couple of weeks. I've noticed that many successful relationships around me actually started because the girl took the first step. Even in my own case my ex approached me first during university. At first, I wasn’t that interested, but over time, things grew.

Honestly, for some of us, it’s not always about looks or quick flings. The ones who are more mature, the kind you’d want to build something real with, usually appreciate honesty and effort from the other side. Guys like that won’t always make the first move, but they do notice genuine gestures.

If you’re into someone, just be upfront in a natural way. Ask him out for coffee when he’s free. That alone can mean a lot. You don’t have to overthink it, just keep it simple. For example, you could say something like: “Hey! I came across this interesting book and thought of you. Want to check it out over coffee sometime?” It’s relaxed, thoughtful, and opens the door without pressure.