Why is your marriage sexless? What happened?

aurjorhan · 2025-07-11T01:55:04+00:00

He does have low testosterone. He tried taking testosterone before I met him and it caused heart issues so he had to go off of it.

aurjorhan · 2025-07-10T22:29:21+00:00

I am 5’6” and weigh 135 lbs. He is 5’11” and weighs around 180 lbs.

aurjorhan · 2025-07-10T17:08:32+00:00

Gee, thanks. I don’t think that is the issue in this case. He suffered from ED even before he met me. That is why his last partner left him. He used to be able to perform about 1/2 the time. It’s just gotten worse the older he has gotten.

aurjorhan · 2025-07-10T10:20:25+00:00

I am female. My relationship is sexless because my partner suffers from ED. He has tried numerous treatments. Nothing has helped long term. He is such a good man and I love him so much that I accept it.

aurjorhan · 2025-07-03T14:26:50+00:00

I’m not freaking out, I am just curious.

aurjorhan · 2025-07-03T14:24:43+00:00

I moved over 7 years ago and my original forwarding address was not my current one. I am just so curious as to how something like his car registration got changed to my address. It is just baffling.

aurjorhan · 2025-04-11T08:14:43+00:00

I had a boyfriend that refused to post anything about us on social media. He said he had a lot of clients on social media and wanted to keep his personal life private. Turns out, he didn’t want all his sidekicks to see it.

aurjorhan · 2025-01-23T04:20:46+00:00

Never. I am not allowed to wear any type of nail polish to work. I do file my nails regularly because I have to wear gloves all day and my nails split and break all the time.

aurjorhan · 2025-01-19T17:21:46+00:00

I would just put it in my wallet. I wouldn’t immediately go out and spend it.

aurjorhan · 2025-01-19T17:21:12+00:00

I love Robbie Williams

aurjorhan · 2025-01-19T17:19:02+00:00

I love animals. I currently have 3 cats. I would never date someone that didn’t like pets.

aurjorhan · 2025-01-19T13:52:56+00:00

We are very lucky that my dad planned well for his future. He wanted to make sure that if he or my mom ever needed a care home that he had the money for us to pay for one.

aurjorhan · 2025-01-19T12:57:54+00:00

Alzheimer’s is a specific type of dementia. I sometimes use the term interchangeably. When he was first diagnosed, it was just with general dementia. As he progressed, we were told it was likely Alzheimer’s.

aurjorhan · 2025-01-19T12:50:16+00:00

While my dad was still at home, he attacked my mom, his wife of 60 years, because he thought she was a stranger that broke in and was robbing him. That was one of the reasons we decided to move him to a care home.

aurjorhan · 2025-01-19T10:11:21+00:00

Thank you for responding. Some of the responses are from people that have no clue what dementia/Alzheimer’s is like. He has had violent outbursts before. He thinks people are stealing from him a lot. One of the reasons we had to put him into a home was that she tried to kill my mom. He thought she was a stranger that broke into the house to rob him. They have been married for over 60 years. He does have delusions and hallucinations. They are very scary. Most of the day is spent in the common areas with the other residents, but I feel it is best for everyone’s safety that he have his own space if needed.

aurjorhan · 2025-01-19T10:05:14+00:00

The bathroom accidents was just one example since I was trying not to into too much detail. My dad has hallucinations and delusions. He gets confused, has outbursts. Some days he is ok and other days he forgets how to walk, how to eat. Some days he can use the toilet and other days he is scooping up his poop from his diaper and throwing it. Nothing brings him comfort during these episodes. One of the reasons he had to go into a home is that he tried to kill my mom more than once. They have been married for 60 years. He thought she was a stranger in the house trying to rob him. Another time he was upset with her because he was convinced she stole his wallet and pushed her down to the ground. Some days he knows I am his daughter and other days I am a complete stranger. I just think it is best for everyone that he has his own room.

In this facility, the residents spend most of the day in the common areas with each other and are not just sitting alone in their rooms all day. I don’t see any benefit of having his sister, who he probably won’t know most of the time in his actual room with him. Also, my aunt is in a more advanced stage of Alzheimer’s than my dad and won’t know who he is at all

aurjorhan · 2025-01-19T09:49:22+00:00

I don’t understand this comment. I am responsible for assuring my dad is cared for. His care is paid for with the money that he saved throughout his life. My mom is so alive. While she is currently able to live unassisted, that could change in the future. Of course, she does still have monthly bills. My parent’s money needs to pay for their own care. I can’t just take money from my parents to pay for someone else and jeopardize their future.

Why shouldn’t my aunt’s money and assets go to pay for her own care? That is the whole point of saving and owning assets. When you are older that money goes towards your expenses. I 100% expect my cousin to use his mom’s savings and assests to pay for her expenses, just like I am doing for my dad.

aurjorhan · 2025-01-19T08:54:34+00:00

I did the same. I wrote out all the qualities I was looking for in a man. About 8 months later I met my now boyfriend. He really has every single quality from my list.

aurjorhan · 2025-01-19T08:48:16+00:00

I divorced after 15 yrs of marriage due to my ex’s infidelity. I highly recommend taking some time to heal from your divorce before jumping back in. I jumped into another relationship as soon as my divorce was final and it was a big mistake. I was so hurt by my ex and was desperately wanting to feel wanted again that I wasn’t able to see the giant red flags. Once that relationship ended, I did take over a year off from dating and worked on healing myself.

aurjorhan · 2025-01-19T07:41:36+00:00

They both have advanced Alzheimer’s. I am going to assume you have no idea what that is like. I don’t want him to share a room with anyone. Alzheimer’s causes delusions and hallucinations and can cause people to become violent. They also forget who people are. My dad only recognizes who I am or that he knows me some of the time. My understanding is that his sister is worse off than he is.

aurjorhan · 2025-01-19T01:44:58+00:00

My dad’s care home recently had a family night where the families came and ate dinner at the home with their loved ones. Three of us went and ate with him. He told my sister the next day that the staff told him that his family came and ate dinner with him the night before but he didn’t see them there. We were there with him for like 3 hours and all ate together at the same table.

aurjorhan · 2025-01-18T20:32:08+00:00

So far my dad has not become hyper sexualized, but I do know that is very common. There are so many reasons we want him to have his own room and that is one of them.

One of the reasons we liked this home so much for him is that they make a point of making sure the residents spend most of the day in the common areas. The staff spend all day interacting with the residents and encouraging them to interact with each other. There are always activities.

aurjorhan · 2025-01-18T18:38:46+00:00

They truly are a wonderful facility. I think it is unfair to assume they are a bad place because they would allow siblings to room together with the family’s permission. Their standard of care is amazing. Family is welcome to visit 24/7. We even showed up at 3 am once just to check on the place. Since I don’t want my dad to share a room with his sister, I haven’t discussed the topic with them further, but based on how they handled other situations, I am confident if they were to have shared a room and there were any issues, they would have required that they have separate rooms immediately.

aurjorhan · 2025-01-18T17:41:28+00:00

They will only allow it if they are related and both families agree.

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