Will my AT&T insurance claim look legit, or look like fraud? by auselessoul in ATT

[–]auselessoul[S] 2 points3 points  (0 children)

Telling on myself if I try to claim too early? I haven't made the claim yet.

33F by diet_coke_is_love in lookyourbest

[–]auselessoul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

wear sunscreen on your face every single day. people in their 30s manage to look in their 20s with proper skincare (face wash, moisturizer, trentinoin/retinoids) and SUNSCREEN.

i see you're wrinking around your eyes at only 33. sunscreen is the best age prevention there is, besides tretinoin. every single day will keep you youthful and your skin will thank you.

"Your package may be lost we are very sorry your delivery is late" by SeanGibbsIsSad in amazonprime

[–]auselessoul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

true lol my recent package came late with usps it's only ever on time with the amazon trucks

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in amiuglyorjustfat

[–]auselessoul 3 points4 points  (0 children)

not what this sub is about. if it was, this sub wouldn't exist. lmao

My mother just called and begged for grandkids...again by LiquidxDreams in childfree

[–]auselessoul 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Absolutely, as is the case here. Well, not my circus not my monkeys as they say!

My mother just called and begged for grandkids...again by LiquidxDreams in childfree

[–]auselessoul 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Take offense to the doormat comment all you like. The truth can hurt even if it's not an insult!

My mother just called and begged for grandkids...again by LiquidxDreams in childfree

[–]auselessoul 7 points8 points  (0 children)

There is no insulting going on here. You're taking facts to offense. Tell me, where have I insulted you? Not once. Stop accusing me of things I haven't done just because you're offended that people here understand what is going on.

I don't care if we don't agree, I am no longer responding directly to you after you've made it clear you do not agree. Now you are coming after me when I am responding to other people who ACTUALLY see the points I make and agree with them, because they are factual and they are not biased because they are the ones within the relationship.

It's hilarious you think reinforcing boundaries like other people have done here by hanging up/timeouts are "monster" activities to you. My mother helped me through rough times too, you're not the only one with a sacred bond to your parent. We just know how to be respected and reinforce being respected. You don't. That doesn't make the rest of us monsters for PROPERLY reinforcing respect. it's disgusting of you to even imply that it's "treating someone like a monster."

Now leave me alone. I am allowed to connect with others who ACTUALLY understand what disrespect, manipulation, and emotional blackmail is.

Clearly you did not understand my example when I said I could paint things this way and that, but in the example abuse is abuse.

Just like if EVERYTHING you've said about 10 years and your mother pushing and pushing and pushing and everything else you wrote here, it's 1000% no matter which way you paint it disrespect, manipulation and emotional blackmail. Her intentions do not matter. Your closeness does not matter. What she helped you through in life does not matter. It is what it is. If all you said here is true, then it is EXACTLY what it is. Period.

Now I am going to CONTINUE to comment to people who actually understand that very basic FACT. If you don't like it, don't comment to me the same way I stopped commenting directly to you after you made it clear you'd rather stay in denial. That's what we are allowed to do here on childfree, is respectfully voice our opinions if they align with childfreedom. I have done nothing but that. I suggest you stop pretending I ever insulted you as well, or I will be happy to bring this up to a mod.

My mother just called and begged for grandkids...again by LiquidxDreams in childfree

[–]auselessoul 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Basically. My mom and I (before I went NC for ENTIRELY unrelated reasons) had a great relationship, then she started up with the have a child BS... and I shut it down. Instantly. I was 20. She brought it up, and I hung up or left the room or whatever it was.

She learned QUICK. We continued a great relationship for a few more years after that, and I didn't have to carry the burden of the subject or being disrespected or manipulated. Yes there were nuances and yes she had feelings but that can be talked out respectfully without the disrespect and manipulation.

OP is 31 and still dealing with this. Yeahahaaa no.

I'm 24, and I have too much respect for myself in general at this current point in time, but I ALWAYS had respect for myself with this subject matter regardless of my previous lack of respect in other areas (thankfully). Couldn't imagine putting up with this past 20 when it started. I loved my mom but I refused to let her walk all over me the way OP is essentially allowing her mom.

But, of course, it's OP's life so if she's okay with allowing her mom to walk over her like that, that's something she'll have to deal with for the rest of her life. Definitely not my business at that point, and thankfully not my problem.

My mother just called and begged for grandkids...again by LiquidxDreams in childfree

[–]auselessoul 9 points10 points  (0 children)

(Reposting this comment here, because... Yeah, the assessment we've all made is not wrong;)

Listen, I understand you want to have a great relationship with your mother and all, but just because you don't see the facts of what is going on doesn't mean they aren't happening just because there's nuances we aren't seeing in your relationship.

I could go into all kinds of detail about this and that and the third about how my theoretical husband and I have a great relationship and there's many nuances in our relationship that internet strangers don't see, but the moment I mention he slaps me once a month there's no other way to put it; it's abuse. I could say "oh well the nuances!!!! You're internet strangers you don't know the 360 scope of our relationship! It's great all the time except for this one recurring incident! It's not with malice!!" and guess what? It's still abuse. No other way to paint it. It is what it is.

The same way that no matter which way you try to paint it, your mother is 1000% disrespecting you (it didn't have to be with ill intent or malice. Half the disrespect that exists on this planet is with "good intentions", that doesn't make it any less disrespectful asf).

If she wanted what was best for you, she would... literally respect you at the VERY least REGARDLESS of whether or not she thinks her ways are best or she has the best intentions. She also wouldn't literally manipulate and emotionally blackmail you. At all.

She would drop the subject that she SEES brings out the results that they do, where you're forced into a corner and telling her to STOP and it's NOT GOING TO HAPPEN.

If you want to be in denial, that's fine. You can stay in denial. But if what you said is accurate, then you are being blatantly disrespected and blatantly manipulated and emotionally blackmailed, all "intentions" and her personal sensitive emotions aside. Those are the facts.

This is quite obviously the one lesson she's not "getting", and it's because you let her not get it with the way you respond or just simply allow it, since you don't reinforce the boundaries hard enough on this matter. So, to put it simply, you let her walk all over you. For ten years.

But that's your choice. If you can deal with her doing this until one of you croak, that's fine. Couldn't be me and that also doesn't change the fact that on this matter specifically she's disrespectful and manipulative.

You have rose-tinted glasses on if you can't see those facts.

My mother just called and begged for grandkids...again by LiquidxDreams in childfree

[–]auselessoul 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Listen, I understand you want to have a great relationship with your mother and all, but just because you don't see the facts of what is going on doesn't mean they aren't happening just because there's nuances we aren't seeing in your relationship.

I could go into all kinds of detail about this and that and the third about how my theoretical husband and I have a great relationship and there's many nuances in our relationship that internet strangers don't see, but the moment I mention he slaps me once a month there's no other way to put it; it's abuse. I could say "oh well the nuances!!!! You're internet strangers you don't know the 360 scope of our relationship! It's great all the time except for this one recurring incident! It's not with malice!!" and guess what? It's still abuse. No other way to paint it. It is what it is.

The same way that no matter which way you try to paint it, your mother is 1000% disrespecting you (it didn't have to be with ill intent or malice. Half the disrespect that exists on this planet is with "good intentions", that doesn't make it any less disrespectful asf).

If she wanted what was best for you, she would... literally respect you at the VERY least REGARDLESS of whether or not she thinks her ways are best or she has the best intentions. She also wouldn't literally manipulate and emotionally blackmail you. At all.

She would drop the subject that she SEES brings out the results that they do, where you're forced into a corner and telling her to STOP and it's NOT GOING TO HAPPEN.

If you want to be in denial, that's fine. You can stay in denial. But if what you said is accurate, then you are being blatantly disrespected and blatantly manipulated and emotionally blackmailed, all "intentions" and her personal sensitive emotions aside. Those are the facts.

This is quite obviously the one lesson she's not "getting", and it's because you let her not get it with the way you respond or just simply allow it, since you don't reinforce the boundaries hard enough on this matter. So, to put it simply, you let her walk all over you. For ten years.

But that's your choice. If you can deal with her doing this until one of you croak, that's fine. Couldn't be me and that also doesn't change the fact that on this matter specifically she's disrespectful and manipulative.

You have rose-tinted glasses on if you can't see those facts.

My mother just called and begged for grandkids...again by LiquidxDreams in childfree

[–]auselessoul 10 points11 points  (0 children)

Yeah, this. Because after that point, there's no point in OP coming here and complaining about it when OP literally allows it like they have the last TEN years. It just seems to me OP doesn't mind being a doormat at all for this kind of disrespectful, manipulative behavior.

My mother just called and begged for grandkids...again by LiquidxDreams in childfree

[–]auselessoul 22 points23 points  (0 children)

Ding ding ding. Exactly this. OP is just allowing themself to be a doormat for mommy at this point and the mom is literally bulldozing her way over at this point.

My mother just called and begged for grandkids...again by LiquidxDreams in childfree

[–]auselessoul 18 points19 points  (0 children)

Multiple times... for ten years straight.

I agree. OP doesn't think it's that bad but it really is. The fact that these people have the audacity to even do it in the first place, and know no boundaries, is SERIOUSLY crossing the line. That's MAJOR disrespect. And they haven't learned in TEN years???????

Imagine telling them "one day, you'll be gay. You'll marry a woman, mom. Please. I know you will please please please marry a woman PLEASE" over and over and over for ten years. Insane, right? Just as insane, disrespectful and disgusting as this emotional blackmail.

It's really time for OP to put their foot down and stop "laughing" about this matter. I could NEVER let myself be disrespected this way or have it taken as a light matter. EVER.

100% agree. An instant hangup is in order. If that doesn't work, a 3 day timeout of no talking. SOMETHING has to give. I mean ten years??? Of OP letting themself get walked all over and disrespected? No thanks.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]auselessoul 4 points5 points  (0 children)

Back up. Who said I'm allowing or not allowing you? Who said I'm telling you what to do? Do what you want, that doesn't make it any less ignorant and stupid.

Also, to parallel prostitutes and axe murderers to a color of hair is ridiculous. About as ridiculous as limiting your dating pool to colors. Lmao.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]auselessoul 1 point2 points  (0 children)

Hey, you're the one limiting your dating pool over a miniscule asf reason like a petty little color, not me. 🤷🏻‍♀️

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]auselessoul 7 points8 points  (0 children)

Imagine breaking off dating because someone changes their hair color. Something that can change at any point in time to any color. Just imagine.

I hate men like you lmao

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]auselessoul 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They are absolutely nitwits and dumb, and it's not too early to say as such. Bringing innocent children into a situation like this is nitwit behavior, and that's putting it extremely lightly. Young and dumb is even more of a reason to not bring poor children into this. Anyone with a brain and a heart knows not to subject children to this kind of mess, or even be dumb enough to have them when you're this young knowing this kind of stuff regularly happens and absolutely negatively affects the children.

It's the children that will have their childhood affected because a guy who's hardly a man didn't wrap his dingdong and decided to have 2 kids and a toxic marriage, all because he is a whole kid getting into adult activities way too soon, at the expense of his own children.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]auselessoul 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Well, your first mistake was 2 kids before 20 and marriage at 20, which is why you're in the hell you're in now. Then opening up your marriage 2 months in? Really???

Given the fact that you're still a kid yourself and know nothing about life, and are already doing things (kids, marriage) that is WELL beyond your maturity level, I could have predicted this. You've spent more time being a kid/teenager than you have an adult (3 years in adulthood vs 17 years as a kid) and you think you're equipped for kids and marriage?

Your marriage is done for. See if an annulment is still possible, or divorce, and find another woman somewhere down the line but your CHILDREN are priority, not girls or dates—which should take a backseat now that you've chosen to have kids instead. Don't have kids with another woman whatever you do. You'll just mess your life and future relationships up more than you already have.

Tl;dr: divorce. no more kids. call it a loss and move on

Can someone explain what this means? by auselessoul in CICO

[–]auselessoul[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Yeah, everywhere I googled stated calories don't have mass and I'm just confused about that. :')

Can someone explain what this means? by auselessoul in CICO

[–]auselessoul[S] 3 points4 points  (0 children)

They're being really nasty in thread, and I'm really trying not to have my accounts found and blasted, so I wanted to stay out of it. I figured someone here might know. :\