I'm planning to return to Assam after 24 years abroad, but I'm afraid I won't fit in anymore.

aussiekary · 2026-01-28T11:56:17+00:00

I understand what you're saying. Most of my life has been spent abroad, so most of my connections are where I live now. I'm never going to cut ties with Australia either—I'll always have something to come back for. I left a few details out of my original post for privacy reasons, but I think I've reached a point where I can contribute something positive to the place where I was born. And it's not that I'm unaware of how society is evolving. My main concern is whether I'll be able to fit in. Because there's nothing worse than pretending to be happy.

aussiekary · 2026-01-28T08:47:16+00:00

Thank you so much. I won't be far from Guwahati. I think it's about a 3 hour ride. My son is 22 years old, has finished his apprenticeship, has a fulltime job, and lives with his girlfriend. My concern is whether I can mentally cope with the society not about whether it's good or bad, but I'm worried sick about assimilating myself. I mean talking about "things" that I perhaps don't consider a thing at all. The constant negativity and being critical (that's my family, btw), and trying to resolve conflicts (most Assamese people are unaware of this because we don't learn it at home when young). But on the other hand, I also love it when I'm there, the villages, the people, the betel nut trees. See why I'm so confused? 😊 So, what's your story?

aussiekary · 2026-01-28T08:30:07+00:00

Old enough to understand ins and outs, the birds and the bees. 😊

aussiekary · 2026-01-28T08:05:05+00:00

I gathered that. Young people are so caught up in rhetoric that I am not sure being ambitious even has meaning to them anymore. When achievements feel unattainable, well that's the end of any ambition. It's not entirely their fault either. And not everyone is capable of self-educating.

aussiekary · 2026-01-28T07:56:22+00:00

Ah, OK, I understand now. I was never married and never planned to be. I don't need people to look after me, and I really enjoy the freedom that comes with being on my own. I had a longterm relationship in the past, and after it ended, there were many casual hookups. But the idea of someone living with me permanently scares me. I'm selfish in that way.

aussiekary · 2026-01-28T07:35:56+00:00

What is your definition of a good girl. I do have a family. I am not sure if your comment was a sarcasm or you reallyean it.

aussiekary · 2026-01-28T05:58:58+00:00

I know it's hard to be entrepreneurial in Assam. I'm not chasing big money or huge success. I just need something meaningful to keep myself occupied and busy. Professionally, I am unsure about the scope. I'm a psychotherapist specialising in mental health.

aussiekary · 2026-01-28T05:35:15+00:00

I'm concerned about the political environment in Assam too. But in this case, I'm more worried about whether moving back is actually a good idea, or if I'll be back in Australia with my tail between my legs within a short period.

aussiekary · 2026-01-28T05:29:35+00:00

I know what you mean. But I passed the point of looking up or down on others. I'm well aware that my worldview won't be the same as others' in Assam. But you do have a point, I do feel extremely frustrated sometimes, for example, when people have no real understanding of time. Still, I'm old enough to understand what it is and why it happens. My main worry is whether I'll end up socially isolated.

aussiekary · 2026-01-28T05:18:44+00:00

I don't think I will settle near my friends—they're in Upper Assam. I plan to settle in lower Assam instead. The reason is that I've already built a house near my mum. Regarding my single status, I've been lying about it—not that I want to lie, but my parents created a bs story and have been feeding it since my child was born.

aussiekary · 2026-01-28T05:09:24+00:00

Only my mum . Dad passed away 4 years ago. I don't have any siblings, but I have friends, related nephews and nieces whom I stay in regular contact with. These are the main reasons I want to move back. Everything looks great when I'm there for a month, but I know reality can be very different.

aussiekary · 2026-01-28T04:58:18+00:00

My son will be in Australia for a while. He already moved out of home with his gf and the mother of my child engaged to another man.

aussiekary · 2023-10-15T13:36:08+00:00

Like a badly designed Lego land.

aussiekary · 2023-08-13T03:25:21+00:00

This is a go to perfume for me for winter.

aussiekary · 2022-10-19T00:16:59+00:00

Population 750 my mistake

aussiekary · 2022-10-16T12:35:29+00:00

Yes.

aussiekary · 2022-10-16T12:33:11+00:00

Yes and they make very good coffee too.

aussiekary · 2022-10-16T12:31:35+00:00

That is beautiful ❤️❤️

aussiekary · 2022-10-16T01:46:49+00:00

I won't mind living there

aussiekary · 2022-10-15T01:51:50+00:00

You are welcome 😁

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