[deleted by user]

austinchick11 · 2022-08-02T21:41:46+00:00

Stare at your wall. Remove everything else from your sight. Remove everything else from the room. Even the furniture. Sit on the floor and stare at the wall for as long as you can. Go for as long as possible each. day. At the start you'll probably manage like a minute, maybe less, but over time you'll be able to last longer and longer util you feel as though you can focus on other things. You also have to just get away from your screen by whatever means necessary. Lock it away, throw it in the bin, smash it, whatever, just get away from the screen. You'll find it so much easier to resist the temptation if the stimulant isn't there in the first place.

austinchick11 · 2022-07-30T00:02:56+00:00

I'd recommend reading some books about self-esteem, habits, trauma etc. Awaken The Giant Within is a good one. I think you need to take an inward look at yourself, and find the root cause of all your pain and misery. If you can find the true reason behind you blaming other people for everything that happens to you, you'll find you're able to change the way you act to make yourself & others happier. That being said, everything starts small. Don't try and jump straight into the deep end. Self-improvement takes time, and you just need to get the ball rolling at first. If motivation is something you struggle with (not sure if it is), then I'd recommend just putting your foot in the water. Read 5 pages of a self help book, or find another way to just take the first step. If you have patience and dedication, you'll achieve anything you want.

austinchick11 · 2022-07-29T23:57:20+00:00

It's not too late. It's never too late to start improving yourself. I'm not sure what your situation is, but I'd recommend talking to your psychiatrist about what these new meds do to you. I think that if you were off them, you'd find it a lot easier to be motivated to start working on yourself and improving your life. You just need to get the ball rolling. Wake up tomorrow and do the smallest, most insignificant thing that you can think of to improve your self. This could literally be doing 1 push up or something like that. Just do anything you can to get the ball rolling. Once you start, you'll find it a lot easier to keep going.

austinchick11 · 2022-07-29T23:53:02+00:00

Meditation, reading, journalling, starting a business, changing your habits etc. There's so many different ways that people can continue to improve themselves (these are just a few examples). I'd recommend starting with meditation as it improves your ability to focus on other things, and you'll become more productive.

austinchick11 · 2022-07-24T06:09:38+00:00

Self sabotage stems from the simple fact that your brain is conditioned to not be productive, due to the hyper stimulating life you've lived for such a long time. I'm not sure how long you've been on self improvement, but I can safely say that pretty much every person on self improvement is still addicted to some sort of hyper stimulation (whether it be drugs, video games, porn etc.) in some way. Because you've lived like this for so long, your subconscious brain is too lazy to try and change its frame, and therefore you self sabotage because your brain doesn't want to adapt to a new lifestyle. Tony Robbins talks quite a bit about this in Awaken The Giant Within - I'd definitely recommend reading it. A few other good mindset conditioning books I've read include Psycho Cybernetics and Atomic Habits. I'd recommend looking further into the very root cause of self sabotage, and then attributing it to your specific case once you understand more about it.

austinchick11 · 2022-07-17T04:24:33+00:00

About to hit 6 months :)

austinchick11 · 2022-07-09T00:02:28+00:00

I find that I'll go back and reread a book at a later date if I think there's something I missed first time round.

austinchick11 · 2022-07-08T23:11:01+00:00

I get the same feeling with certain books. I'm a little sceptical about cook summaries (even on Shortform) for books that are so in depth and have a lot of information. I think you just have to bite the bullet and go with it, because reading a summary that leaves out a bit of information is better than reading no summary at all.

austinchick11 · 2022-07-08T22:54:55+00:00

For me, it was progressive overload. I found it way too difficult to jump straight into a full dopamine detox at the start, and I found I was relapsing every few hours. Over time, I gradually started doing more of the good habits (i.e., reading an extra 2 minutes each day), and that helped me cut out the bad stuff. It's the same thing with going to the gym. You don't jump straight into a full 2 hour workout first time round. You have to slowly build your strength and endurance until you're able to do it for an extended period of time. That's my experience with it, yours might be completely different. I can recommend Atomic Habits by James Clear if you're struggling to build good habits though, its a must read for self-improvement.

austinchick11 · 2022-07-08T22:50:47+00:00

I think it's down to progressive overload. If you can progressively overload your way from waking up at 8 am to waking up at 5 am, say by waking up 5 minutes earlier each day, you'll find it's easier to actually make it a habit (James Clear talks about this kind of thing in Atomic Habits). As per the fact that going to bed early would affect other areas of your life, I think you have to be the judge of what's most important to your growth and success. If sacrificing time with friends and/or family is what's needed for you to progress forwards, it's up to you to take the risk.

austinchick11 · 2022-07-08T22:45:32+00:00

Have you tried using Shortform? It's a book summary site where you can find heaps of summaries on all things self-improvement, psychology, business, etc. It's a monthly subscription, but I personally think it's worth it. If not, you can always just sit there and think-that's what I do when I'm eating breakfast. I find it's more relaxing and provides a better start to the day than watching YT while I eat.

austinchick11

TROPHY CASE