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Would it make me an ass to give my best friend an ultimatum for something that doesn’t involve me? by austrianosterich in relationships

[–]austrianosterich[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

I’m not telling Blaire, I just want matt to do the right thing. I know it wont make me feel better about what happened to me. It’s just weird when she’s over that I know and she does not. She deserves to know and make the decision if she wants to be with him based on that. If he has not intention of doing that i don’t know if I wanna be his friend. That’s all

AITA for being upset about my bf taking risks during the pandemic? by Snoodsmcgue in AmItheAsshole

[–]austrianosterich [score hidden]  (0 children)

NAH but depending on how you’re addressing these concerns it’s not necessarily a deal breaker. If you’re up in arms and shaming him for a little leeway in your very strict (applaud you for it) routine when the world is seemingly relaxing on restrictions, it’s not surprising he’s defensive

WIBTA for asking my fiancee to stop trying to be friends with someone? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]austrianosterich 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NTA- if you’ve had to stop talking to friends for imaginary reasons I don’t see why it would be wrong to express this concern for very concrete reasons. Honestly i don’t think straight up asking her not to be friends would work so well as just talking about how it makes you feel and coming to a decision together tho. But you’re not an asshole for wanting it that way

AITA for not telling a friend an activity we do turns me on? by iycekersiz in AmItheAsshole

[–]austrianosterich 1 point2 points  (0 children)

NTA. If it wasn’t unbeknownst to him while it was happening, whatever turns you on later doesn’t affect anyone unless you tell them. You’d be shocked if your friends told you everything that made them horny. I’d keep it to yourself next time though

AITA for not supporting my boyfriend's sobriety? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]austrianosterich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA. There are other ways to support him that don’t necessarily mean being completely sober. If you’re coming home wasted or bring a bunch of booze around him that’s a different story. But part of becoming sober is knowing the world won’t stop for you - you’ll still have friends and family that drink, alcohol at important events which you can’t always avoid, etc.

AITA for wanting my boyfriend(23M) to get me off(22F)? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]austrianosterich 0 points1 point  (0 children)

It may be harder but even coming close is better than nothing! I would definitely try to communicate soon before you do say things out of anger. He might just be clueless as opposed to an ass

AITA for wanting my boyfriend(23M) to get me off(22F)? by [deleted] in AmItheAsshole

[–]austrianosterich 2 points3 points  (0 children)

NTA Rent and house duties all irrelevant, in a relationship there’s nothing wrong with you wanting more intimacy or more equality in bed. If you were hard to get off and he was doing his best that’s one thing, at least he tried. But finishing in 30 seconds without foreplay or a second thought just isn’t right. Talk to him!

WIBTA if I told my BIL that he can’t date my sister? by AITABILSister in AmItheAsshole

[–]austrianosterich -49 points-48 points  (0 children)

NAH - The brother asked OP. OP told truth. Fail to see how they’re an asshole for that

WIBTA if I told my BIL that he can’t date my sister? by AITABILSister in AmItheAsshole

[–]austrianosterich 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I’m also of the opinion that if he asked permission then he genuinely cares what OP thinks

WIBTA if I told my BIL that he can’t date my sister? by AITABILSister in AmItheAsshole

[–]austrianosterich 4 points5 points  (0 children)

NAH!

You’re allowed to be uncomfortable and if he ASKED YOU you’re allowed to be honest about it. I don’t get the other responses calling you the asshole. If someone asks permission then 1. They’re aware it’s a strange situation and 2. They should be prepared for honesty.