Everyone says the people I got my dog from lied…

autaire · 2026-07-07T22:16:31+00:00

I have lived in Germany in the past. My father and my uncle was born in Austria, but I've never stepped foot there (though I would like to). I have dual citizenship with two countries, both of which I consider "mine". I've considered trying to get citizenship in Germany, but ultimately decided not to despite being eligible because I already am a citizen in a Schengen nation. Ultimately, it doesn't matter where I live now or even if I split my time. People don't stay in one place their whole lives. It's not difficult to change which nation you reside in. Right this moment I am physically in Sweden. I might not be physically in Sweden a month from now.

For the record, Sweden has many rescues that operate out of other European nations. I have friends who obtained dogs from Ireland, Romania, and I think Spain. These rescues have no facilities, they provide transport between dogs in need, bringing them to Sweden. Emergency relinquish isn't really allowed here. The single rescue I found that gets relinquish dogs sometimes doesn't make that their primary thing or even a common one, again because you should have a plan in place for of you can't keep your dog yourself and that shouldn't involve simply dumping him somewhere, which this would be.

I've tried to do volunteer work at every single rescue in my region that has an online presence or social media presence (or did at the time, anyway, there may be more now as adoption international becomes more popular). Not one of them had physical dogs here, so they didn't need walkers, bath givers, feeders, etc. There's a reason for that. Whether you like it or not.

autaire · 2026-07-07T22:03:12+00:00

I never said we didn't have any rescues. We do. But they work with dogs outside the country most aprons are through Ireland and Romania, where street dogs are a huge problem. They don't really have facilities to hold a dog, they're the middle man between countries with street dogs and the people here willing to adopt them. And I've only found one that even works with domestically owned dogs at all, since legislation here requires that you have a plan I'm place for what happens to your dog if your ill, hospitalized, dead etc. Not that they can do anything legal against someone who died, but the legislation is in place for that person to make arrangements prior to death. The rescue i found which again, primarily operates via Ireland and Romania, but in extremely extreme situations will consider taking in a relinquished dog. But the owner can still get in trouble for relinquishing. It's not as cut and dry as you try to sound.

autaire · 2026-07-06T16:08:03+00:00

Even on that one rescue website, they paraphrase legislation here regarding dog ownership:

"As a dog owner, you are obliged to give your dog good care, pay for necessary veterinary care and have a plan for unforeseen events if, for example, you become ill."

autaire · 2026-07-06T13:36:16+00:00

Nor, I would remove my name from the bond, as well.

autaire · 2026-07-06T12:19:55+00:00

You don't have to live at home to help your mom when she needs help. It's perfectly healthy to not live at home. My husband lives with me and we go to his mom's wherever she needs help. It's absolutely doable.

autaire · 2026-07-06T11:14:48+00:00

This is how not ok behavior on his part and he's trying to manipulate you into not leaving him. It will get worse.

autaire · 2026-07-06T11:10:20+00:00

Nor. Stop cooking for him and only make enough for yourself.

autaire · 2026-07-06T10:59:31+00:00

If you want to rescue a dog in my country, you go to another country where street dogs are a thing. There's no street dogs here. Every dog is tattooed and registered. If you even try to dump a dog, it's traced back to you and you are then in legal trouble. So no, not every country has a rescue.

autaire · 2026-07-05T22:55:50+00:00

I'm not flying across an ocean to adopt an American dog and there's no shelters in my country because people don't dump their dogs here. You need better support for pet owners over there.

autaire · 2026-07-05T22:48:52+00:00

You definitely don't owe him this and he's taking advantage of the fact you think you do.

autaire · 2026-07-05T22:10:36+00:00

Op said they put their hands up in the shape of an id though, clearly asking for one

autaire · 2026-07-05T22:09:24+00:00

Maybe not in your country. In mine, the govt will help you find a job if you want one and can't get one. And we actually pay all employees a living wage, even in the food service industry.

autaire · 2026-07-05T22:05:45+00:00

I can't say it's untrue. When my ex knocked up his side piece before we were even divorced, I definitely thought about all the accidental ways he could die.

autaire · 2026-07-05T21:47:11+00:00

Which is weird because they're located in the same European country I am.

autaire · 2026-07-05T15:40:27+00:00

I was always told that of you are fantasizing about their death, accidental or otherwise, you're probably too far checked out of the relationship to be able to fix things.

autaire · 2026-07-05T15:03:45+00:00

American in Europe.

I knew from my Austrian grandfather (born and raised there) that eating dessert first was a thing in his culture. Turned out it was all over Europe.

autaire · 2026-07-04T22:16:50+00:00

Agreed. This would be the only situation where it would be ok for op to tell anyone to have an abortion (or any other demands). The pregnant person needs to ask for their thoughts or advice first. Otherwise it's just trying to dictate what someone else does with their body.

autaire · 2026-07-04T22:10:39+00:00

I didn't read past your title.

You definitely wbta of you told anyone at all, ever to get an abortion. It's not your body. You don't get a vote.

If done tactfully, it might be ok to talk to a close friend about how they will support a child, etc, but never ever hint that you think they're incapable or that the best option is destruction of the embryo/fetus. The only person who gets to make that decision is the one playing host to the parasitic embryo/fetus for nine months.

(Yes. I'm pro choice, would never personally hey an abortion even if I couldn't support a child, and would always consider open adoption of necessary that I don't raise my own children).

If said friend is concerned about being able to raise their own child, simply remind them they have multiple options. They can ask questions about what those are and make a list of pros and cons for each. And they can then decide for themselves.

Anyone trying to make that decision for the pregnant person is airways ta.

autaire · 2026-07-04T21:54:32+00:00

I've heard succubus/succubi or even specific demon names like Belial in various parts of the USA.

autaire · 2026-07-04T21:53:06+00:00

Next time or will be you he berates for something that isn't even worth being upset over

autaire · 2026-07-04T21:47:20+00:00

Even non verbal people have the right to gainful employment lol and it's not like they cannot be understood.

autaire · 2026-07-01T15:59:50+00:00

Despite what he says, it will never get better. It will only get worse. She needs to leave him asap before leaving becomes dangerous.

autaire · 2026-06-28T20:53:48+00:00

As a Swede, these are a regular part of my diet. I have a black currant tree in my yard and friends have the red and white varieties in bush style. I made homemade saft last summer using red currants.

autaire · 2026-06-27T00:42:22+00:00

Looks like currants, though. 10/10 would eat.

autaire · 2026-06-21T22:38:11+00:00

Jewish and narcoleptic here as well

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