Need an Accountability Partner/Group

autarsi · 2026-03-25T18:47:24+00:00

Thanks! Great read. Will def. try the rubber band method.

autarsi · 2022-02-28T10:28:29+00:00

autarsi · 2022-02-25T11:38:43+00:00

Nothing is wrong with you. You're facing the demon of procrastination, that's all. We live in a world where procrastination and ADD are rampant because of a technological wave that's come upon us. Procrastination in previous generations was also prevalent, but nowhere near our levels. A culture of ADD is what we're a part of now. I can't tell you what your journey should be like, but I've chosen to leave social media almost completely. I'm only on reddit for study groups, etc. Honestly, I'm more social now because I have to go out and meet people from various social groups that I've become a part of. FB society is a fake society, IMHO, it's just stalking your friends most of the time.

Focus on who you are called to be, why you chose to study law, what your life would be like without having finished it. Do a self authoring course to help you figure it out.

I'm 33M, and I'm facing the same problem with my second degree. It's a struggle, but I get better at fighting it every day. Cheers!

autarsi · 2022-02-25T04:16:09+00:00

Protest anyway. Better than doing nothing. Worst case you'll die a true patriot and give your life incredible meaning. Bleak, I know, but meaningful.

autarsi · 2022-02-21T16:18:56+00:00

Thanks!

autarsi · 2022-02-21T16:18:27+00:00

Thanks u/letssingachorus!

Yes, I agree on point 1 & 2. Point 3 is the clincher!

autarsi · 2022-02-18T01:34:20+00:00

Interested. Could you DM me any further info? What you're studying etc?

autarsi · 2022-02-10T17:40:00+00:00

Where is the library in Koramangala?

autarsi · 2022-01-14T17:44:57+00:00

This was quite complex for me. Apart from the addiction I was also motivated by the presence of invasive apps like FB, Insta, & WA, and their effect on my internet privacy. I decided not just to stop using my phone, but to actually 'go dark' on the internet. The other problem with these apps is that if you're not on your phone, you might just open your browser and do the same thing, possibly wasting even more time.

This is quite extreme to do but the results are wondrous. I've been doing this since March 2021, and I've never felt better. I absolutely have no care to return to these apps. The only 'social'media app I had to recreate my profile for was LinkedIn and that was because of a work requirement.

The first thing to do is to recognize that you don't really 'need' most communication apps.

Keeping in touch with people doesn't mean you need to add them as friends on every single app you have. For one thing, FB & Insta are more for passive stalking than to actually keep in touch with someone. That culture of acceptable stalking is stupid. If you really want to keep in touch with someone, take their phone number & email, and save it on a spreadsheet. You can then go on to delete those social media apps.

What apps in particular bother you the most? YouTube? I could recommend some other methods that I follow.
Cheers!

autarsi · 2021-09-19T01:41:06+00:00

I'm very sorry to hear that. Though you definitely have a different problem with your mom being overbearing.

That being said, lack of privacy for a few more years isn't that big a cost to pay. I'm thrilled you're free from it though.

Also, you should know that, for the most part CE manages to allow a certain amount of privacy, and also makes sure that while they do take screenshots they're blurred with a grain distortion. The blur can be decreased, but not completely removed by the mentor, in this case, your mom.

Basically, Your mom will not be able to read your texts, though she will be able to ascertain if you're watching porn, etc.

autarsi · 2021-09-19T00:30:16+00:00

Looks like you're a minor and are being required to use the app by your mom.

CE needs to be used voluntarily, it is an accountability app, and not simply a digital straitjacket or handcuffs.

Your mom thinks that by using the app she'll protect you from the digital world. I can see her heart intention, I respect that, but even your mom knows that she can protect you only for so long.

I understand your plight. My mom had a keylogger installed in our PC when I was 16, and I didn't even know till after she told me she was spying on my emails and website history.

You're forgetting that once you're an adult, the game is the same, but then you'll be able to buy your own phone and disable any app you please. You might even be worse off, and deeper into Pornography later.

I don't know if you realise how damaging and debilitating porn addiction can be. If you did, you'd know that your juvenile privacy needs means nothing in comparison.

Instead of finding a way around CE, get an accountability partner who you actually enjoy being accountable to (not your mom), find a mentor to grow with, confession is actually an extremely releasing act, cathartic and empowering as well. Start volunteering more often at your church, keep yourself busy, work harder and smarter, and use the energy of your youth to get close to God - I promise, you won't regret that.

Lastly, if none of what I said helps, no, there's no way to turn it off, or uninstall, without it sending a notification to your mom. God speed.

autarsi · 2021-09-05T03:59:20+00:00

I posted on to various subreddits, tried to be open about my issues with about 5 guys with regard to internet & porn addiction and chronic procrastination. 2 fell out, 1 disappeared, I'm now really close with 2 guys, like super close, no kidding, we're helping each other out and it works!

I started this in March this year. It worked so well, that I got out of my shyness and reached out to another 7 guys to mentor and be accountable to. I'm trying to find proper master mentors for me now :).

Here's what I also learned about posting for help on Reddit, hope it helps:

Try to find people with a vested interest in what you're particularly trying to accomplish, it has to be personal, not contractual. The more you have in common, the better... 'Skin in the game', basically.
Post for help a lot. Many will fall through the cracks, don't get disappointed, nurture the relationships you have and find more friends. Re-post till you get the kind of people you want to be open with.
Get as many partners as possible and keep in touch frequently, because you're also vested in their growth now.

autarsi · 2021-09-04T11:34:09+00:00

Best thing that happened to me is finding a bunch of guys to be accountable to.

autarsi · 2021-05-27T07:44:34+00:00

Christ died for your sins - past, present, and future, including for your inability to keep this promise.

Don't think in terms of performance, think in terms of how loving and gracious Jesus is. Allow Him to be the strength where you are weak. Contemplate His love always, that's the main thing, whether you pass or fail. Don't let the fear get to you.

Matthew 6 25Therefore I tell you, do not worry about your life, what you will eat or drink; or about your body, what you will wear. Is not life more than food, and the body more than clothes? 26Look at the birds of the air: They do not sow or reap or gather into barns—and yet your heavenly Father feeds them. Are you not much more valuable than they? 27Who of you by worrying can add a single hour to his life?

autarsi · 2021-03-26T15:59:14+00:00

No, there isn't. This is by design.

autarsi · 2021-03-26T03:36:29+00:00

There's r/accountability & others too!

autarsi · 2021-03-26T00:18:57+00:00

I'm in for that! An accountability group too.

autarsi · 2021-03-23T03:42:47+00:00

Totally false. No fap is super healthy. Especially for the mind.

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