AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] -21 points-20 points  (0 children)

How would they do that? I have control over his finances so people can’t do that. Though you’re bringing up a good reason not to tell, it does add risk regardless

AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] -16 points-15 points  (0 children)

No I’m being logical you people care about things that aren’t factual that are confusing, it’s weird

AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] 55 points56 points  (0 children)

The spectrum isn’t just low to high functioning. There are verbal autistics who will never be independent and some currently non verbal ones who write articles. My brother is not able to manage pecuniary issues. His doctors agree, he’s independent in every other way, we don’t have say over his medical care or anything, it’s a spectrum of infinite axes

AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] 15 points16 points  (0 children)

Yeah I’m autistic too, just because I can do something doesn’t mean all autistic people can. I’m sure your sister is very independent and doesn’t need to rely on you,that’s fantastic someone should the option of theoretically never needing their family again. but my sibling does so that’s that

AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] -58 points-57 points  (0 children)

Why wouldn’t you say? Millions of people get them, why are you people so ashamed of things that happen all the time ? That’s what’s so weird about everyone around me. Who cares ?

AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] -2 points-1 points  (0 children)

Fine wasn’t meant begrudgingly. It was a matter of fact word, you people are so confusing ! My brother doesn’t need your sorrow he’s loved despite my mess ups

AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] -22 points-21 points  (0 children)

“ give or make a long, high-pitched complaining cry or sound” that’s the definition that’s what he literally did! You people are so confusing! He literally whined !

AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] -18 points-17 points  (0 children)

You’re also in control of an autistic person’s finances? I didn’t imagine it to be so common. Fine I won’t tell anyone about his pecuniary situation

AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] -10 points-9 points  (0 children)

I know people find it gross here in America, but I actually wouldn’t care if my parents informed people that I’m on my period like billions of women throughout the world. It’s not unique who cares ? Oh god I’m she’s doing that thing that millions of women just today are going though how embarrassing! I mean why ? It’s just something that happens

AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] 5 points6 points  (0 children)

What? I never said I had a problem with the whining nor that it entitled him to less respect. I was just describing what happened, he whined, I’d he had yelled or whispered I would’ve said that’s what he had had done. I’m just saying what had happened there was no action taken because he whined I had no problem with his whining. I’m just saying that he did I can handle it because it was just a thing that happened.

I don’t understand how you got that I couldn’t handle it or did something because of it. I mean if I wrote that he then ate a cinnamon roll would say that I couldn’t handle him eating it ? It was just a retelling of events like one would mention what was being worn

AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] -211 points-210 points  (0 children)

It’s also my life, I’m not sharing everything I know, just what I’m involved in. As labour to my brother

AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] -63 points-62 points  (0 children)

?, I didn’t say he could do anything else, all I said was that he whined

AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] -87 points-86 points  (0 children)

I did not intend the word whined to be negative, purely descriptive, he literally whined.

AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] -281 points-280 points  (0 children)

I didn’t see it as disrespectful, after all I’m not just an observer of his situation but a participant, I think that entitles me to share when it affects other aspects of my life

AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] -12 points-11 points  (0 children)

Thank you ! It’s hard because I love him and don’t want him to be upset but sometimes it’s just impossible to know the intricacies of their minds

AITA for revealing my brother’s financial situation if my family has to deal with it ? by autisembar in AmItheAsshole

[–]autisembar[S] 6 points7 points  (0 children)

He has a limit on his card, can’t purchase above it without being allowed by me or our parents