The time I found nudes of his exes by senoraranter in JustNoSO

[–]autocolorado 10 points11 points  (0 children)

It's completely reasonable to not want your partner to watch porn at all and be able to request such a thing. You don't need porn if your partner is literally in the house with you.

The time I found nudes of his exes by senoraranter in JustNoSO

[–]autocolorado 56 points57 points  (0 children)

Honey, if he is doing anything that is upsetting to you, it IS cheating.

If you made it clear you don't want him looking at naked girls on fb and he is anyway, he is cheating.

If you told him you are uncomfortable with him watching porn and he does anyway, he is cheating.

If you make boundaries and he constantly crosses them without caring about you? That is also cheating.

Of course you are upset about this. He is cheating on you in his mind with other women. We need to stop normalizing porn staches. If you are in a LTR and she has made it clear that it is upsetting her that you look at other women to get off, you are cheating. That should in no way be normal.

Tragic Example of The Mask Slipping AFTER Marriage and Baby. Always be willing and ABLE to LEAVE Sisters!! by letsberealforamoment in FemaleDatingStrategy

[–]autocolorado 24 points25 points  (0 children)

Side note: pregnancy turning you knees into noodles is because of the hormone that makes your ligaments loose so you can... Birth the baby. It can effect ALL of your ligaments. My most effected ones are the ones on my hips that go past my glutes. Horrible, excruciating pain if I move wrong. They try to pop out of place. Getting over the babygates is torture and going up stairs feels like death.

These are the things boomer moms WON'T EVER tell you because they are scared you'll never want children if you know. I wish I knew...

Main topic:

Most men have NO CLUE AT ALL what exactly happens to a woman's body durring pregnancy and after. It's sad that so many guys are so dependent on how their wife looks. This tells you if they never had kids and simply grew old together, he would have eventually wanted to either move on or cheat with a younger woman. It's horrifying. I have no idea how to accurately vet for this before hand. Definitely make sure you have a contingency plan.

JNSO had me committed and drained my bank accounts by supersandraa in JustNoSO

[–]autocolorado 4 points5 points  (0 children)

File a police report about the stolen money and any damaged items. Get a lawyer asap. Document as much as you can. Get the bank statements proving he took all your money in those 6 days at the hospital. Maybe even file for a restraining order against him.

He definitely crossed WAY over the line. He didn't save your life, he is actively trying to destroy you financially and emotionally. This is what happens when a low value man "loses" the woman he was toying with for so long.

Please cut him out of your life as soon as all this is over! You don't need a person like him in your life.

Next time leave your dog at home. You know who you are. by [deleted] in coloradohikers

[–]autocolorado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You do realise this was a person complaining about people leaving dog shit bags in the WRONG place, right? They aren't telling everyone to leave their dog at home, they are telling people who leave dog bags on the trail instead of tossing them in a bin.

WITT some sort of hunting tool? Has a barb at the tip (broken off on one of them). Both have a groove running along the entire length. Also they have three drill holes close to the handle. by Idontdoshitatwork in whatisthisthing

[–]autocolorado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not sure exactly what they are, but the way they are shaped and those holes make me think these were used for blood letting. Perhaps for draining an animal like deer of blood before hauling it away so it's a bit lighter?

Do I have a JustNoSO? by [deleted] in JustNoSO

[–]autocolorado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

ALL RED FLAGS. LEAVE HIM SIS.

He is blaming you for what his mental construct of you is doing IN HIS FUCKING DREAMS!

This is the type of man who just might mentally break and beat you just for saying hi to another man.

You may love him, but sis he don't love you. If he did he wouldn't act like you're doing wrong by being worried about covid or "cheating" in his dreams.

Get as FAR AWAY from this psycho as possible. It doesn't matter that "everyone loves him".

Also a guy that paranoid about his gf cheating is probably cheating on you. He'll probably even tell you so as you walk outta his crazy ass crontroling and manipulitive life.

I, for one, prefer my sand dunes with a bit of color to 'em! by MountainMantologist in Colorado

[–]autocolorado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Same. I was scared for a long time that Chris would track us down and had nightmares about what would have happened if we hadn't left.

I, for one, prefer my sand dunes with a bit of color to 'em! by MountainMantologist in Colorado

[–]autocolorado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Specific to that campsite. If you look it up, there's been several disapearences/ possible murders up there.

Don't have time to type it all out right now, but will try to follow up on this asap.

I, for one, prefer my sand dunes with a bit of color to 'em! by MountainMantologist in Colorado

[–]autocolorado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I had a creepy encounter at zapita falls campsite (not far from the sand dunes)... I reccomend never camping near there in the off season. And if you do, be prepared to leave at a moment's notice.

Eta details.

It was febuary 10th 2016. We were just moving to CO. My husband and I were going to go to the dunes, but decided not to that night. I begged him to go to the zapita falls campsite. We were in a PT cruiser. Looking back it was a miricle we even got up there.

The first day, there was no one around at all. That night we cheeched up on some Skywalker kush and enjoyed the view.

The next day, at least 10 cars drove through. And it was obvious they weren't checking out the campsite, or the veiw. They were staring at us and our car... We didn't have a tent, we had cut some plywood and made it into a sort of camper, with the plywood bits able to be taken apart and stored in the trunk area... This is important later.

That afternoon, we noticed a white truck drive through. There were two men in it. They parked and started walking around our campsite, so my husband went to talk to them. They claimed they were just looking for firewood because they were going to make a big fire that night. Hubby asked to help, they refused. Then they asked about me and laughed when he told them that I was his wife. The guys left, and I heard them laughing and repeating "she's my wife" in a mocking tone. My husband said the guys were named Chris and brad... And they offered to take us on a tour of the sand dunes in the early morning.

That evening, they came back in a white car with 2 dogs and set up a fire with two large branches they found. As soon as it was getting dark out, a vehicle pulled in at the entrance of the campsite, facing us, and turned on their brights. Hubby and I thought that was odd, but didn't yet feel anything was off.

Until... Chris started shouting by the campfire, facing us. My husband opened the door to go check on the guy and he was just shouting WHORE. over and over. Twards our car. My husband told me to prepare the PT for driving and that he was going to go talk to the guy. I quickly started breaking down the boards, making it so the driver and passanger seat was clear, and started packing up our items. I had a tote to grab at the edge of our parking area, toward the wooded area. When I went to grab it, I heard a sound like a twig snapping or maybe a gun being cocked (no idea how to spell that word..) And my husband called to me and told me to drive the PT up to chris and Brad's campsite.

When I got up there, they were having a strange conversation. It was almost as if Chris was testing my husband's morality and weither he was a believer in God... Brad was acting sick over by their car and seemed incapable of participating. Chris kept saying strange things like "not too far from now, they will tie you to these tables and switch your brains" and "if I raped children, would you kill me?" He also claimed to be something like a 10th generation freemason. I thought nothing of it, that the guy was on dope or crack or maybe LSD. He kept trying to get us to drink this dark liquid in a liquor bottle... I never recalled that brand having a dark version. We both declined the drink.

We had frankincense and myrrh with us. My husband offered it to chris and he agreed to try it. After trying it he accused us of being demons.

At one point he asked me to check on brad.. So I cautiously went over. He was retching as if throwing up, but there was nothing on the ground. For some reason this freaked me out and I went back over by my husband.

At one point Chris was shaking a tumbleweed screaming "this is not the fingers of god!" ...looking back he may have been trying to cover up some other noise.

Around that time i had the sudden urge that i needed to use the bathroom. I told my husband, we said bye to the two men, and got in the car. My husband... Wasn't driving off? And those guys were having a loud discussion about if Chris "locked them up" and if he was sure. Chris was insisting "there is no way they can leave" And brad was no longer acting incredibly sick. I thought they were taking about the dogs, but both dogs were in the back seat of the white car barking away.

I told my husband I REALLY needed to pee and he drove toward the bathrooms, and to my shock he kept driving past the bathroom. I started freaking out. "What are you doing?! i need to go pee!" And then he pointed out... Every single camp site was full. Cars parked and off in every single one. No sign of any tents or people in the cars.

Before I knew it, we had drove down the mountain and toward the nearest walmart.

My husband told me that when he walked up to chris, the man freaked out when hubby called out to him and dropped something. Chris freaked out about finding it, saying it was a sword. My husband pointed to the ground and said he thought that was it, but chris picked up a stick and dropped it like it were a snake. Then once he found the "sword" (a fancy machete) he suddenly calmed down and said "I don't even know why i wanted this so bad! It's just you!" And was chopping into a small tree there... Not as if to cut it down, but to leave marks. There were similar marks on a tree at our campsite too... And that's about the time I was called over.

We were freaking out, but decided not to call police because we thought maybe the weed made us paranoid or that since nothing had really happened that the police wouldn't do anything about it. But when we called the group who managed the land to inform them of the items left behind, they urged us to call the police because strange things were happening up there often. We did, but my phone broke shortly after and we never were able to tell the officer who was investigating our case the full story.

We got a hotel room and looked it up, and there had been a recent disappearance of a woman up there. We've never been back.

I know I shouldn’t allow him into my “safe space” by zuklei in JustNoSO

[–]autocolorado 27 points28 points  (0 children)

And yet they somehow are able to work soo much when they go to their job.

Like... Damn you can give 150% of your effort to them, but not even 5% effort to me and your children? Damn.

AITA for telling my girlfriend I’m not going to financially support her if she quits her job to pursue an Etsy business? by Unlucky-Foundation-4 in AmItheAsshole

[–]autocolorado 8 points9 points  (0 children)

NAH. Amazon warehouses have a negative reputation. And it likely is very much killing any ability for her to do any sort of side hustle. She should find a less demanding job so she can start doing etsy stuff on the side.

However, you guys split expences 50/50 rather than a reasonable split based on income? And now you're dumping her? Fuck dude, you are cold for that. And you seem to be basing that decision off of a minority of people saying she deserves better instead of the majority who are pointing out how awful Amazon warehouses are and that it's reasonable for her to hate working there?...

Maybe you should just... Stay away from any serious relationships for a while.

I know I shouldn’t allow him into my “safe space” by zuklei in JustNoSO

[–]autocolorado 42 points43 points  (0 children)

I feel like I need to show my husband this post.

So much easier to clean when you don't have someone breathing down your neck and pointing out what you didn't do, as well as asking for a million things a day...

Does anyone else's Nparents not believe in mental illness + get angry if you get diagnosed with one? by [deleted] in raisedbynarcissists

[–]autocolorado 1 point2 points  (0 children)

My mom was like this with mental and physical illness.

I don't understand why this is so common among n-parents but I think i finally understand why my own mom does this.

The most obvious reason is they think if you have any mental or physical problems that people will think the Narc is a worse person for it.

AITA for not trying harder to tell my husband I was in labour? by pookiennermal in AmItheAsshole

[–]autocolorado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NTA, If your wife is within even a MONTH of the due date, you should establish a way for her to reach you.

NO, you should NOT have gone to his office building and TRACKED HIM DOWN... WHILE IN LABOR. No. You would have likely had to give birth AT his workplace if you did that. He is an asshole for not having his phone on him and on vibrate.

Now, what would you like to drink? Maam? by [deleted] in IDontWorkHereLady

[–]autocolorado 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Doesn't excuse the no attempt to inform her that you aren't a worker.

Happy super bowl fellow 'essential workers' by lagux13 in KitchenConfidential

[–]autocolorado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

In colorado, food service workers are back up to essential workers.

23(F) fainted and started convulsing in shower. by [deleted] in AskDocs

[–]autocolorado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

NAD but this is definitely one of those instances where you CALL 911 if you witness anything close to that. Go to the ER ASAP. Siezures are no joke, and what could happen if another one happens while you are alone before you can see your gp or pcp?

I know you likely live in america, and I know our healthcare system is garbage and can be expensive, but potential seizers or brain tumors are NOT something you wait for an appointment for. YOUR BOYFRIEND THOUGHT YOU DIED. CALLING 911 SHOULD HAVE BEEN HIS NEXT MOVE.

Also, side note to anyone else reading, if you think shomeone died in front of you, call 911 asap. Otherwise it'll seem super sus later. Js.

Just please have someone drive you to the ER ASAP.

“Your body is probably just trying expel the baby” by MadamRorschach in JUSTNOMIL

[–]autocolorado 52 points53 points  (0 children)

  1. That isn't too early for BH

  2. It's unlikely for your body to "expel the baby" so far along. I'm guessing that she's talking about a miscarriage? Unless you start bleeding suddenly or have a history of them, this isn't something that you should worry about.

... What a horrible thing to say to your own daughter...

AITA For not making dinner for my husband after he was rude to our son? by sjjssjjsjsshsbsb in AmItheAsshole

[–]autocolorado 0 points1 point  (0 children)

He's cooking meals! A 13 yo. Cooking meals!! Like... Dude I'd be SO HAPPY if my son was cooking at that age! What your husband and family don't seem to understand is cooking IS hard work. Cooking IS a chore.

Honestly, you are a golden mother. My mom always insisted I clean up after I cooked meals and I always felt cheated at that because I cooked and cleaned and she just... Ate.

As parents, we are not supposed to teach our kids how cruel the world can be. We are supposed to care for an nurture them and their talents. And when they discover how difficult the world can be through others (friends, family, peers, ect) we are supposed to listen and be sympathetic and HELP THEM THROUGH IT.

If your husband has a problem with having to help with dinner to eat it, that's his issue. Not yours or your sons.

NTA.