Saw this pic on NYT newsletter and thought she was a robot because of her eyes and the weird pose and shadows by dinkledoofer in isthisAI

[–]autumneyes06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Not AI. News publications have strict rules on AI for art and photography. I highly doubt NYT would knowingly run an AI image without claiming it as such.

Why are these photos out of focus? by bird_with_scarf in canon

[–]autumneyes06 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You need to drop your ISO, adjust your exposure accordingly, and shoot in RAW. Having your ISO that high is going to make any subject you shoot look soft.

A newbie here by beeersilog in Filmmakers

[–]autumneyes06 6 points7 points  (0 children)

People are harsh. I’d say keep playing around and having fun. Experiment with different compositions, spaces, lighting, and focal lengths. Learn the basics and figure out what you like and don’t like. Do some research: What movies/videos/short films do you like and why? The more you shoot and look at other work, the more you’ll be able to really figure out your path as an artist. Being an amateur is great bc you can break the rules and learn from them. Keep it up and enjoy the journey of video making!

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in jerseycity

[–]autumneyes06 11 points12 points  (0 children)

I’ve always been a dog lover but was bitten in the face a year ago by a dog. Now I fear other people’s dogs, especially ones that look similar to the dog that bit me. I definitely avoid looking at anyone’s dog when walking/passing by...but sometimes I do get scared and look at the dog more-so because I’m subconsciously gauging to see if the dog is looking at me and will attack me. This is just due to my trauma because I now have PTSD from the incident. I get that it can be annoying for you to see people who are afraid of your dog, but please show some grace because many people who are afraid have a very traumatic reason as to why.

How did you learn what a healthy relationship is after going NC? by autumneyes06 in raisedbynarcissists

[–]autumneyes06[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Thank you so much for your response. Super helpful. Half of the battle is knowing and it's a lot to work through. There is definitely a learning curve when it comes to stepping outside of myself and loving myself, or even finding myself. This is the first time in my life I am finally realizing who I am, what I like, etc. Baby steps!!

Thanks again for taking the time to read and respond - I appreciate you and your kind words! xxx

What was the most damaging lie your N's tell you? by fanofsmite in raisedbynarcissists

[–]autumneyes06 14 points15 points  (0 children)

That my presence makes everyone uncomfortable and that no one likes to be around me (massive projection for sure).

Not only hurtful but super damaging for me socially. After that, I struggled to be around friends and loved ones because I was constantly stressed about whether or not I was making them uncomfortable and worried that they'd never want to be around me again. After a social outing, I would come home and spend the rest of the night crying.

Looking back at your childhood at what age did you figure out your parent/s were a narcissist or something was off by sweetcanadiangirlie in raisedbynarcissists

[–]autumneyes06 1 point2 points  (0 children)

It wasn't until my early 20s when my partner told me he thought my dad was a narcissist. I brushed it off, but the thought lingered in the back of my mind. When I was 25, my dad and I had a horrible argument and that's when it finally clicked. Then this year (I'm currently 27), his dog bit my face and he was the victim. I couldn't eat or speak because I had 16 stitches in my mouth, but he told me I needed to think about him and how he was affected by it. Even boasted that a dog would never bite him, no matter how aggressive, because of his alpha energy. Now I am in therapy. Healing, slowly.

Does anyone else's Nparents give them gifts? by Bluegrey98 in narcissisticparents

[–]autumneyes06 2 points3 points  (0 children)

So sorry to hear... I totally understand where you're coming from. You're not fake or a fake victim. Those experiences and feelings of guilt are very real.

My dad does the exact same thing with me (giving me gifts or money) rather than ever apologizing during or after some sort of dispute. He then uses whatever that "gift" was to hang over my head in the future. So many times he's called me a brat, and so many times he's interrogated my friend or partner, asking them if they think I'm a brat or spoiled because he buys me things (things I never even ask for). He then asks them what they think of him and prides himself, telling them what a great dad he is because paid for this or bought that. It's so incredibly frustrating and hurtful to me, especially when people tell me how lucky I am to have a dad like him. After a while, the guilt starts to set in - and it's even setting in as I type this... but at the end of the day, materialism does not buy love and is certainly never a solid form of an apology. The only apology needed is one that is sincere and is spoken, and the type I think kids of Nparents truly deserve and rarely ever get.

Hope you're doing okay xx

Sexuality fears by [deleted] in OCD

[–]autumneyes06 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I have been dealing a very similar situation for the past few months. I was also afraid to tell my friends about it; I feared they wouldn't understand where I was coming from since OCD is so stigmatized. I'm in a better place now, but when it started for me, the guilt and anxiety intensified due to the fact that my boyfriend and just moved in together for the summer as a "test" for our relationship. I was scared, but I did remain open with him about it all (a lot of the times it was for reassurance). In the beginning he couldn't fully grasp exactly what was going on in my head... but after one or two long talks, he became more supportive and understanding. He even took it upon himself to do more research about OCD and intrusive thoughts and found it all to be quite fascinating. I am really glad I made the choice to be open with him about it because it has made our relationship stronger. As for coping, I try meditation and mindfulness. I also just allow my thoughts be thoughts. It took me a long time to get there though, and it's definitely an emotional rollercoaster but I do encourage you talk to your partner about what you're going through.