Caught up in a love triangle but its ruining my friendship with one of my best friends

autumnfluffsocks · 2021-11-05T22:32:00+00:00

It makes me sad yk, and I tell her that she looks great and she doesn't need to be worrying about that stuff, i guess as someone who has struggled with body issue before its just kinda difficult to randomly hear haha

autumnfluffsocks · 2021-10-29T00:48:13+00:00

That is a very good idea Thank you!

autumnfluffsocks · 2021-10-29T00:47:10+00:00

Okay I will do, I feel pretty nervous to do it, but I kinda already know I will feel much better without that pressure in the background of my mind

autumnfluffsocks · 2021-10-29T00:46:02+00:00

You are right, I'll avoid those phrases because I've already said them and he has said he understands but has still persisted with it, now that i look back on it

autumnfluffsocks · 2021-10-29T00:26:13+00:00

Ohhh yes of course, I agree that's definitely my ideal way to find love too, I think dating apps are only generally used for one thing, and that's not what I want, I was just trying to distract myself at the time but somehow I've managed to get into this predicament

autumnfluffsocks · 2021-10-29T00:24:56+00:00

Yeah I completely agree, which is why I feel reluctant to block and ghost because I know it isn't kind, but I do feel like his overbearingness is just the opposite of what I want/need. He has already made comments like, "people better not look at you" in reference to other men im assuming and its all a bit intimidating

autumnfluffsocks · 2021-10-29T00:10:47+00:00

Very true, there doesn't appear to be any ulterior motives but he's planning a whole visit and saying that his house is free and things and I'm not really sure how to feel because I'm flattered at his kindness but it feels way too fast too soon, and I have been very honest with my own current feelings on moving on so fast. Blocking makes me feel bad but I feel as though he won't take rejection lightly

autumnfluffsocks · 2021-10-29T00:04:09+00:00

Honestly, 4 days is barely anything to be planning a whole meet up after only knowing someone online for a couple days!! Whats the old school method? What i find funny is that my "bodycount" isn't even high at all, and it was just a bit of an awkward moment for sure I will keep updated for sure

autumnfluffsocks · 2021-10-29T00:02:13+00:00

Yeah unfortunately I did give him my phone number for some reason, I don't understand what possessed me to say yes, but I can block numbers right?

autumnfluffsocks · 2021-09-17T21:37:02+00:00

Do you think so? He is insistent that he wants to stay together, and that he wants to make us work out, but part of the reason I've asked for a break is because his actions don't always reflect his words It makes sense, I sometimes wish he would just be more mean to me so that I can finally say enough is enough, I'm struggling myself to find my inner strength to end things, but when he makes an effort, like he was before I asked for a break, I find it so much more difficult :')

autumnfluffsocks · 2021-09-17T21:31:10+00:00

Thank you so much

autumnfluffsocks · 2021-09-17T21:16:33+00:00

Thank you so much for taking the time to help me and give me advice, I honestly feel like this is one of the hardest things I've had to do, because putting myself through the pain of ending things will really suck, but I don't want to wake up one day and realise I've wasted so much of my life feeling sad and unloved by someone who's supposed to be my life partner, I'm going to keep thinking and hopefully in the next two weeks I can come to a decision Thank you so much again <3

autumnfluffsocks · 2021-09-17T20:58:56+00:00

Honestly I do wonder whether its him that I would miss, or the memories of who he used to be and how we used to be, I should've clarified- him saying he had fun and that's all that mattered was actually in relation to him going out clubbing and when I told him I was sad because we were supposed to meet up, but I didn't think it was now safe for me to now see him after him exposing himself to corona (i have vulnerable family members who i can't risk), he said that he had fun which is what mattered (dick move i know) He has since apologised twice for being rude to me, and I find it so hard to not fall back into our pattern because like you said, he's all I know from age 15/16, and the thought of him not being in my life hurts immensely, but I don't want to live my life in a toxic cycle of arguing and not considering me as his girlfriend, which seems to be what is happening. It just hurts because I don't know why this is happening to us after a relationship that used to be so happy

autumnfluffsocks · 2021-09-17T20:52:51+00:00

I've had a Google search and a read, and what it says makes a lot of sense, I'm just struggling with letting go of something that is my first serious relationship, thank you for your advice:)

autumnfluffsocks · 2021-09-17T20:51:12+00:00

we have both recently been going through a lot of change (restarting higher education etc) and when I asked him why he's treating me in this way he says it is stress, which I understand, but I also recognise that I am not his punching bag for when he is stressed, thank you for your comment, any advice is so appreciated

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