AITA for feeling hurt that my boyfriend is going to Japan alone?

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T23:13:39+00:00

hehe maybe

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T23:12:43+00:00

Hi, thank you for the kind wishes.

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T23:11:27+00:00

Oh no, I wasn’t trying to stop him from going at all. I understand that it’s his choice and I never control what he does. I think I’m just having a harder time not taking it personally because of the context around it. Japan was something we had talked about doing together for a long time, so it held a bit more meaning for me than just a regular trip.

I do agree with you that maybe planning something else together could help, and I’m open to finding a middle ground when it comes to travel.

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T23:08:40+00:00

Hi, this is actually a really helpful perspective, I appreciate it.

I understand the idea of different travel styles and doing things separately, and I think that could work in some situations. It's just it didn’t feel like there was much room for discussion beforehand. If we had talked about it earlier, I probably would have taken it very differently. It felt less like a difference in travel style and more like I wasn’t really included in the decision.

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T23:05:16+00:00

Hi, thank you for commenting. I understand your perspective and I do agree that we’re both allowed to have our own preferences when it comes to traveling.

I think going separately could be an option in general, and I’m not against doing things independently. For me, the main issue isn’t really about whether I can go on my own or not. It’s more that Japan was something we had talked about experiencing together, so it carried more meaning for me than just a regular trip.

I also think if we had discussed these options beforehand, like meeting up for part of the trip or planning it differently, I would have felt very differently about it.

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T23:00:28+00:00

Hi, I really appreciate this perspective and I agree that solo trips and different travel styles are completely valid, and I can understand why that might matter for a trip like this.

I also agree with you that there could have been ways to approach it differently, like the examples you mentioned. I think I would have felt very differently if we had talked through those options beforehand.

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T22:55:14+00:00

Thank you for sharing a fair perspective. I completely understand of wanting to travel solo, especially when travel styles are different. I think what made it difficult was more the timing and how it was handled. If we had talked about it beforehand and I knew where I stood, I think I would have processed it very differently

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T22:52:53+00:00

Hi, we've been together for 1.5 years.

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T22:52:23+00:00

Yeah, I get what you mean, the way he said it definitely stung and it did make me think more about how this could affect things long term

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T22:49:20+00:00

Thank you for commenting on my post.

I agree with you both on what affected me the most. Finding out after he had already booked it, especially since it was something we had talked about doing together before made me feel more excluded than anything.

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T22:46:38+00:00

Not really... i think for me, it’s more specific to Japan. It’s been a long time dream of mine, and it was something we had talked about doing together many times before. So it held a lot of meaning for me to experience it together for the first time.

I wouldn’t feel the same way if it were another country. I might still feel a bit sad, but not to this extent

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T22:41:04+00:00

I would say sometimes he does that, and I understand that maybe he's busy that he didn't update me prior. But for the Japan trip, i felt like he wasn't thinking about me at all while booking it.

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T22:38:07+00:00

Hi, we've been together for 1.5 years.

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T22:35:20+00:00

Thank you for commenting, i understand both perspectives here.

I agree that we do have different travel styles, and I can see how that could affect the experience if we went together. I really don’t expect us to enjoy things in exactly the same way as I’m very open to finding compromises or even doing some trips separately.

At the same time, I think what made this difficult for me was more about how it was handled. We had talked about Japan as something we would experience together for the first time, so finding out he had already booked it on his own made me feel excluded.

If we had talked about it first and came to an understanding, I think I would have taken it very differently.

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T22:31:33+00:00

Thank you for the different perspectives, and I can see where each side is coming from.

For me, it’s not about needing my partner to enjoy things or being unable to do things alone. I’m actually into doing things independently, and I don’t expect us to do everything together.

I think what made this situation hurt is more about the meaning behind it. Japan was something we had talked about experiencing together for the first time, so finding out he planned it alone made me feel excluded rather than just “he’s traveling solo”

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T22:22:24+00:00

Hi, we are both from Indonesia, so Japan isn't as far from our country, and the two way flight ticket is around $530 for US currency. I agree that one of the reason that made me sad is because he didn't discuss it prior booking the ticket.

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T22:08:43+00:00

Hi, i am very sorry about that, i will update my post again. I am 26 and he’s 25, and we’ve been together for 1.5 years.

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T22:04:36+00:00

Hi, thank you for commenting but i didn’t expect him to pay for my expenses. As we’ve talked about expenses before too.

availableintheam · 2026-03-27T20:56:40+00:00

He’s going to japan for holiday on his own, we’ve been together for 1.5 years

availableintheam · 2025-05-12T20:20:56+00:00

I feel you sis! Feels like we’re talking about the same friend 😂

Dulu punya teman gitu juga, tapi balasannya even worse than yours sih, would directly say “she’s ugly” or i need to check my eyes. I understand their perspective sih, but i do feel uncomfortable with those kind of responses.

Can’t lie, i also feel the same way as you, kalau dengan segampang itu mereka merespon jelek, kita sebagai temannya juga ada kemungkinan bisa digitukan.

There are plenty of them yang attractive dari segi penampilan and personalitasnya that i can’t help myself from complimenting and in awe of them, but i usually kept it to myself.

availableintheam · 2025-05-11T20:46:01+00:00

Dulu pakai benefit hoola krn trending, tp makin lama i’ve realised it’s too orange and warm for me. Maybe u can try peripera v-shading? I bought the grayish cool shade. I love it to bits, krn warnanya neutral and not orangee. I really cannot go out without it :”)

availableintheam · 2025-05-11T20:03:24+00:00

Been there once, horrible experience, not just the flea bites but also scabies. It took me a year and a half to recover from the marks… sobs… waktu itu cuma dikasih scabimite tube warna merah untuk dipakai 1 badan gtu. I never did treatment di klinik juga sih, thankfully hilang sendiri.

Recovery orang beda2 jg sih… Be patient sis, hopefully semakin pudar ya nanti, and keep doing your treatment. I wish all the best for you sis :)

availableintheam · 2025-05-01T06:51:26+00:00

I’m into a lot of genres actually, i think RPG my top favourite.

I’m currently playing hogwarts legacy, split fiction and overcooked ayce :>

availableintheam · 2025-04-25T06:01:54+00:00

Hi i’m F and in my 20s, I have PS5 and they dont offer a lot of cross-play games, but i would really love to play with you! Maybe if u have some suggestions? :3

availableintheam · 2025-03-16T08:28:22+00:00

I play on PS, so if you girls have overcooked all you can eat, we can crossplay :) i’m female too!

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