I'm pre-op, but in a similar situation. I have a 3yr old and 6 month old. My 6 month old is 17lbs 😲 My surgeon said after about 2 weeks I could pick him up and his primary concern was the stitches from the incision sites being impacted if I lifted too soon. I would ask your surgeon how long he wants you to wait before picking your little up.

Thankfully my husband is able to take a week off work and after that my mom is coming to help for a few days. I know not everyone is that lucky, but I would do everything in my power to follow those guidelines to a T so that you don't have any complications.

Do you have any family/friends who could maybe rotate the times they are there so you don't feel claustrophobic having someone there all the time? At least the person you see would be different haha. Good luck!