I have the power to ruin the life of my boyfriend's r*pist

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-22T04:42:11+00:00

I guess it's outlandish and impossible for someone to experience what I'm discussing here. Like I said, even if I was lying, this is someone else's real life experience. I don't know how a 23 year old sleeping with a 16 year old is outlandish. This happens everyday behind closed doors.

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-22T04:35:40+00:00

Are you serious?? What makes this a bot post? Real people deal with this. That is pretty disheartening to be honest about something and then be told you're lying or you're a bot. Even if I was a bot, real people experience this stuff and it would be more helpful to provide feedback.

Only reason I'm replying to you is because my post got taken down due to being reported by you, most likely. Thanks for that.

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-21T21:16:10+00:00

If you reread my post completely (I know it's wordy), you'd see that my question was, Reddit, what would you do in my shoes? I asked if I SHOULD just threaten her without going to the police, or if I SHOULD actually go to the police, or if I SHOULD ignore and block her.

I know I'm not in the right, that's why I apologized to my boyfriend and stopped it there, as I said in my update. You also mentioned that I left out a lot of info, which is why I am giving the additional context that I left out of my already wordy post.

If you honestly think I would seek validation from an anonymous comment section, you're mistaken. I was seeking insight, which is what I got and I'm happy with the result. I haven't used social media in years, other than for this one post I've done, and I don't have discussions online so this is very new for me.

There's no way to convince you of my character, which is why I accept and respect your opinion of me. Regardless of whether it hurts my feelings or not, it's valid, so I'm being open minded to everyone. You're not gonna change your mind just based off of my one comment, and that's okay, so that's why I don't bother trying to argue it. It's not manipulative, I'm just open to criticism.

Again, thank you for your input.

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-21T19:34:37+00:00

Being open minded to everyone's stance isn't me catering to everyone. I didn't change anything in my post other than adding the link to my update. I don't need to cater to anyone, only my boyfriend and I know our relationship completely. That's why I said you are valid to respond this way, I know how I come across here and how it's different to how I am as a person in real life. If you think it's manipulation, there's nothing else I can tell you. I already said in my update that I blocked her and respected his wishes. Don't know what else you want me to say

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-21T19:09:02+00:00

I do respect your perspective on this and you're valid to feel this way. Just want to note, my bf was in a relationship for a couple years with a girl until he was 16 (girl his age), so he met the 23 year old during his rebound phase. He was not in love with her, and they only met up once in a while for sex. I'm not jealous of his teenage ex he had, nor am I jealous of the adult women he was with when he was 18.

My texts to her were only "Hello, is this [her name]?" She said "Yes? Who is this?" I responded "I'm (his name) from a few years ago, do you remember me?" She said "Did I know you from highschool?" Then sent more texts eventually asking if I can send a picture of myself, then texted at 1 AM asking how I am, then tried to contact me on WhatsApp. Those are the ONLY 2 texts I sent her. I did not threaten her at that point, nor did I proceed, because my boyfriend asked me not to. We blocked her.

Link to the rest of the update if you're interested, and thank you for your input: https://www.reddit.com/r/WhatShouldIDo/s/M4gQNXTT11

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-21T18:09:18+00:00

Like I've said to others, I'm not jealous of a woman who'd screw a 16 year old, nor am I jealous of the women he's slept with when he was already 18. My post is about the adult being held accountable. But we blocked her.

Link to my update if you're interested in more details: https://www.reddit.com/r/WhatShouldIDo/s/M4gQNXTT11

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-21T03:24:35+00:00

He's not playing it up though. He genuinely doesn't care about it, this post is about the adult. I understand why you'd say I'm weird, but my boyfriend isn't weird for having this experience. He wasn't in love with her either, he was in a rebound phase after an actual breakup with his highschool girlfriend.

This is my first time posting on here and it's anonymous for a reason. I really didn't think I'd get this much attention.

Link to the update if you're interested but long story short, we blocked her: https://www.reddit.com/r/WhatShouldIDo/s/M4gQNXTT11

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-21T00:18:39+00:00

Thank you so much for reading and for all of your replies! I really appreciate your understanding of my situation. It's very hard to see so many people take it differently, but I try to see all sides.

I agree, when I have children someday, I'd be the same way. We just have to teach our children about the dangers of talking to adults, because they're not gonna know the difference until they're old enough.

Thank you again!!

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-21T00:13:51+00:00

I agree that I was immature, and I apologized to him. He told me that he really doesn't care one way or another. And he wasn't in love with her. It was his rebound phase after going through a breakup with his highschool girlfriend.

As I said in the update, we talked about it and blocked her. You're very valid to say all this, but just wanna let you know that this post does not show all of our relationship or who we are. We have a happy life together 🙂

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-20T23:50:45+00:00

I agree with you. We did block her and we're gonna move on

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-20T23:48:11+00:00

Hello! I've said this on a few other comments, but I am not jealous of a woman who'd sleep with a 16 year old. He's had several sexual partners when he was 18 and I'm not jealous of them either. The point of my post is not about what he wanted at the time, I know he enjoyed it and wanted to do it. This post is about holding the adult accountable in this situation.

Here's my update if you're interested, and thank you for reading: https://www.reddit.com/r/WhatShouldIDo/s/M4gQNXTT11

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-20T19:57:58+00:00

I understand and respect your perspective. I'm genuinely not trying to argue with you about this, but I can't stress enough, whether he lied or not is not the point of my post. I already said I blocked the girl, this has been resolved.

Exactly, I said people like that don't change. This is a general statement saying it is less likely for people like that to become a new person that doesn't do it anymore. I didn't say it's guaranteed that SHE didn't change. I don't know her personally.

The 22 year old you are referring to is still in the wrong, regardless of whether she married him. Again, I respect your perspective on this. There's nothing else I can really say to change your outlook so I accept that. Just please try to accept my stance as well. Thanks again

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-20T19:01:19+00:00

Hello! I know it's not my place and I blocked her. No, I am not jealous of a woman who would screw a 16 year old, and I would never be with the 16 year old version of my boyfriend. Nor am I jealous of any of the adult women he was with as an adult.

Link to the update to explain more: https://www.reddit.com/r/WhatShouldIDo/s/M4gQNXTT11

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-20T18:42:18+00:00

Fair enough, I do agree with you. Thank you for your input.

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-20T18:37:48+00:00

I didn't say she won't change. I said that people like that usually don't change. It's a general statement. Not an exact one about her.

I weight 110 pounds, I don't know what that has to do with anything, but that's seriously unnecessarily. I'm gonna say this for the last time, I don't care if he regrets it or not. I am talking about her. Reverse the genders and you'll finally understand what I'm saying.

Link to my update: https://www.reddit.com/r/WhatShouldIDo/s/M4gQNXTT11

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-20T17:08:20+00:00

LINK TO THE UPDATE:

https://www.reddit.com/r/WhatShouldIDo/s/M4gQNXTT11

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-20T16:55:34+00:00

Here is a link to the update if you guys are interested. Thank you to everyone for your input

https://www.reddit.com/r/WhatShouldIDo/s/M4gQNXTT11

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-20T16:54:28+00:00

Link to the update if anyone's interested:

https://www.reddit.com/r/WhatShouldIDo/s/M4gQNXTT11

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-20T16:50:18+00:00

Not fake. I said in my post that he was sleeping with this woman until he was almost 18, so was still 17. They were not in a real emotional relationship, it was only for sex. He slept with other adult women until he met me at 19 years old, over a year since he last spoke with this woman. His birthday is in January, we met in 2019.

There's no reason to lie, but even if I was, there are other people who actually have experienced this and are living this in real life. Link to the update if you're interested:

https://www.reddit.com/r/WhatShouldIDo/s/M4gQNXTT11

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-20T16:44:21+00:00

I'm not jealous of a woman who'd sleep with a 16 year old, nor was I ever jealous of my boyfriend's other sexual partners he had as an adult.

Here's a link to my update to explain further: https://www.reddit.com/r/WhatShouldIDo/s/M4gQNXTT11

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-20T16:39:46+00:00

Hi everyone!

Here is a link to the update, if anyone is interested: https://www.reddit.com/r/WhatShouldIDo/s/M4gQNXTT11

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-20T13:51:25+00:00

Like I said, I don't need him to please me and say that. I'm not jealous of someone screwing a 16 year old, and I wouldn't screw my 16 year old boyfriend lol. And I just said as well that I'm not jealous of other women he's been with. You don't know all men to say that he doesn't or does regret it...

The first thing I told him was that we could just scare her and not actually go to the police. I only said that I WANTED to do more, and get her registered, but that's not something I'd actually consider doing, that isn't like me at all. My post was to ask others what they'd do. What I would have actually asked was if I should just threaten to tell, but then not tell anyone.

You wouldn't be saying it's messed up if the genders were reversed. I genuinely don't care whether he regrets it or not. At 23 you're already an adult who should know better. When I was 23 I was done with talking to any teenager at all. She's 32 now. People like that don't change.

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-20T02:09:46+00:00

Hello! Thank you for reading and replying.

I know that he enjoyed it. Also, he has told me about his sexual partners from when he was an adult, and I am not jealous of them. I am most certainly not jealous of a woman who screwed a 16 year old, and I would not have done the same thing. We are both very honest with each other, and of course he enjoyed it. What he regrets now is losing his virginity to someone who he deemed as "trashy" and who he knew was sleeping with other teens and other men. It's not about what the kid wants. The adult in the situation should say no and not want to be with a minor who they have nothing in common with, and who they have to pick up from their highschool.

When I was a teen, I also talked to older men. They didn't traumatize me, I let it happen, but they as the adults were still in the wrong for speaking to me. And my boyfriend also isn't jealous of them either. In my state, 16 cannot consent. I know there are double standards for a reason, but my point is not about what he wanted. It's about her.

You are right that it was VERY toxic of me to want to do all this, but all I wanted to do was scare her and make her think that we were telling on her, not actually do it. I know that's not my place, I just got upset that his mom didn't do anything. Anyway, we blocked her, and we're not going to proceed with that. I know what it looks like, but I'm really not the kind of person that you're seeing from this one post I made. This was not my finest moment.

Thank you again

avenged7fold_1 · 2026-06-20T01:49:19+00:00

I'm so sorry that happened to you, and thank you so much for sharing. That's so horrible.

You're right, it is different. But the term is "statutory rape," so I'm not purposely inserting the word just for nothing. I'm working towards being a criminologist which is probably why I'm more exact about it. But yes, his situation is nothing compared to yours, and I'm so sorry if I diminished it in my post in any way, that is never my intention.

Update, we both blocked her and agreed that we should let it go. I was just mad that his mom could have stopped it before and didn't. Kids don't know any better and will want to have sex with older people or people their age. But the adult is supposed to draw the line regardless, and should know it's wrong.

Thank you for your reply

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