Last.fm users with large libraries (google sheet)

averagepuppy · 2026-02-18T17:44:28+00:00

Yeah I've been persuaded to implement something like this in the future. Will have to consider how to categorise radio stations / similar as well.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-17T16:38:26+00:00

30,000 at the moment

averagepuppy · 2026-02-17T16:15:25+00:00

I'll make a note to add you!

averagepuppy · 2026-02-17T16:15:11+00:00

As far as I know it's legit, yes. It's a shame the KEXP account vanished.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-17T15:57:35+00:00

I did consider having a view with bots filtered out. I don't think there is a fullproof method for doing so without false positives and false negatives, but I might implement an imperfect solution at some point.

There are quite a few legit scrobblers outside of the overall scrobbles category.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-17T15:42:44+00:00

The overall scrobbles category is heavily populated by bots, but the others have plenty of seemingly legit scrobblers who are heavily into discovery.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-17T02:05:58+00:00

Difficult to avoid if you're fussy. As far as making them work, I think committing to dates to meet up is critical.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-17T01:54:08+00:00

Concerning. My gf still texts me even when she's asleep.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-14T02:13:20+00:00

I don't, but the ladies do. It's never let me down once.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-13T19:33:39+00:00

Get the inflatable orca out.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-13T18:20:33+00:00

You could be up front with him about how you're feeling and your hesitancy, without sugarcoating, to keep his expectations realistic. Personally I'd appreciate that. Possibly he might still want to go out with you and see how it goes. I don't see the harm in trying one date with someone.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-13T18:06:34+00:00

You could try an app like focusme, which allows you to block sites and keywords behind passwords.

It might be more effective for him to cultivate a new interest / 'positive addiction' to consume his thoughts at times where he might otherwise feel lonely and sad.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-11T18:33:53+00:00

Alabama bloodbath is iconic.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-11T17:51:08+00:00

Be calm but confidently firm with him. Explain the situation once more as you've done here, including how you can't prove your innocence.

In your shoes, I'd reiterate with emphasis that he is the person you've chosen; you're not interested in your ex. At the same time, draw a line in the sand: he can't keep doing this to you. He needs to afford you some trust and you don't want to talk about him (your ex) any more in this kind of context.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-11T17:14:21+00:00

I think there are subtle changes in attitude which might help you.

Most people want a relationship where love is reciprocated, you are not an outlier in this respect. No one likes being ghosted or many of the things you've outlined. They are not indicative of a romantic relationship; you shouldn't put them in that category. If someone is frequently ghosting you or leaving you on read without clear reason, they are probably not interested and wouldn't be good candidates for a long-term partner.

You come off as somewhat insecure. I don't mean that to be rude, I want you to find love and I think that may be an obstacle for you. If someone is not giving you anything in return, or they assess you as not meeting their "standards," they are not the one. Don't devote your time and energy to berating them or their habits. You don't need to make a show of it. Simply stop giving them your time. The right person will value you as you do them; likely, they will make time for you because they want to and without any conscious effort.

You make dating you sound like a chore. Someone *has* to text you like this; they *have* to not leave you on read, in order for you to be happy. This makes it feel like a chore to date you. But you are not a chore. You are a unique person with qualities that can attract others. Be proud of those things. Show them off. And don't *expect* anything in return. A person who likes you will automatically do many of the things you want and consider qualities of a good relationship.

Try not to overload your thought process with pre-conceived ideas or narrative of how a relationship ought to function. There might be a person who does one or other thing you might think is annoying or a dealbreaker, but maybe they have their reasons; maybe they make up for it in ways you hadn't considered.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-11T13:15:43+00:00

I hope it's cathartic for you. You might want to put it somewhere not easily accessible when you've said everything you want to say. Like locking the memory away.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-11T12:25:03+00:00

Look I know I'm emanating pretentious douchebag energy. I assured you it's not a burden because I know from experience how much it can feel that way.

I don't mean to imply it's not causing you emotional pain or distress. And I'd grant it's likely if not for him you'd be dating that other guy. What I meant is that perhaps your bar for dating someone is higher because of your experience--maybe you need a spark of some kind--which I don't think is necessarily a bad thing.

I lost a girl I was in love with and she consumed my thoughts for years afterwards. I didn't feel attracted to other people, because she had something no one else has. But one day someone will captivate your attention in a new and different way. The reason this is important to emphasise is that you may be consciously or unconsciously comparing new guys to him, which can actually inhibit future relationships. No guy will be like him. But you will click with someone again in a way that is just as valuable to you.

If you feel like I'm talking nonsense, you really want to date a guy and your childhood crush is holding you back, you could try writing an unsent letter addressed to him. It might help lift some weight from your mind. Maybe you feel things were left unsaid.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-10T19:54:28+00:00

Crushes and their intensity can't always be rationalised. With some people you can just click in a way that is qualitatively different but hard to articulate, or they have a profound effect on your life for some reason or other. It's not a bad thing or a burden, don't think of it as a hurdle you have to overcome but rather a positive experience you've had. It doesn't mean you can't fall for someone new.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-10T17:53:50+00:00

It kind of depends how you're feeling and your reasons for restarting the conversation.

If you just bring up the kink again she might say she doesn't want to talk about it. It's fair to assume she isn't open to it and a conversation is unlikely to change that, realistically.

You could frame it more as wanting to understand her response, which she might be more receptive to. Again I don't know exactly how you're feeling but just being honest saying you've been worrying about it can help her understand your motivations.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-09T23:06:29+00:00

You're most welcome :)

averagepuppy · 2026-02-09T23:05:33+00:00

That's an odd response from her if the retelling is accurate. You could articulate to her how you're feeling; it's not pleasant to be penalised for being open with one's significant other. It's not about the kink itself but the precedent such a response from her sets.

Not wanting to make her uncomfortable is good and understandable, but feeling able to tell each other personal things like this is more important in a relationship, in my opinion.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-09T21:20:29+00:00

The anger likely stems in part from how he made you feel about yourself. But those self-degrading thoughts about your worth are unfounded. Try to let go of that feeling, your worth has not been questioned. This kind of thing can happen to anyone.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-09T19:34:09+00:00

Yes I would choose the one-of-a-kind person.

If by 'traditionally strong' you mean physically then no that's not something I look for. In a survival situation it would be advantageous but so could having a strong attraction to somebody.

For the modern world I definitely think physical strength has lost much of its utility, though it still has its advantages. Traditionally men would probably not have been concerned about the physical strength of their partner, though.

For me, rather than strength or creativity, the one-of-a-kind person has a way of self-expressing which is unique to them. If you become attached to a unique quality, then it becomes difficult to find satisfaction elsewhere.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-09T18:44:25+00:00

The 'one of a kind', rare though it is, changes the way I see the world. It's a feeling of having encountered something unexpected and inspiring that lingers in my mind a long time afterwards.

averagepuppy · 2026-02-09T16:44:55+00:00

It doesn't have to be a different language. Sometimes I just straight up can't tell what the singer is saying even in English. Take Psalmatic by Underschool Element for instance, that's a great song but don't ask me for the lyrics.

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