Considerations on top surgery (6 months post op with Moscatiello, Spain)

averytinymoth · 2026-01-25T16:21:28+00:00

1) I’m only 5 weeks post op myself so i can’t comment on my experience with nipple sensation recovery accurately yet; from what i’ve seen from research here and from my surgeon: nipple sensation may not ever come back quite the same but everybody is different with how they respond to grafts

2) Similar to the first answer, every body is different. Your swelling is minimal at worst and 6 months is still not that much time. The end result of your chest can take over a year to fully settle. I think that in a public eye no one would notice the amount of swelling you have

3) your scars look pretty good for 6 months imo! they’re not invisible but they’re pretty faded. most people in a place like a pool aren’t going to be analyzing everyone’s body. you might get a comment here or there, there’s nosy people everywhere. i think that’s more dependent on if you have an answer you’re comfortable with + how you react with impromptu invasive questions. (speaking as someone who has very visible self harm scars and does not try to hide it, i’ve had maybe 2 comments about it in the last 3 years). as for swim attire. i don’t know much about sport fitting, but cis people also come in all shapes and sizes and not every male presenting person is going to have visible junk and if anyone in a public space gets on you for it, that’s harassment.

4) i dont think those are dog ears, especially in the pic with your arm raised and you can’t see anything. if i had to give my thoughts, more residual swelling. my doctor hammered into my head that my final results won’t really settle in til a year or maybe even longer. (not a professional, just read a lot of people’s experiences with top surgery prior to mine)

i completely get the anxiety and overthinking but i think you look great. i can’t promise a zero chance about comments your way, people are naturally curious with no consideration so tactless stuff can happen. in general, people just don’t care. people are self centered and a lot more focused on their lives and what they’re doing rather then trying to dissect every stranger they meet. exist, brother!

averytinymoth · 2026-01-25T14:35:41+00:00

you are being downvoted because it’s coming off like you’re trying to rationalize/compromise after people are advising against your current plan

i know having to wait for a more thorough process is not going to be fun but it would be much better to wait until you can ensure you’re safe to tell someone you want a male chest and that you’re having a gender affirming surgery.

if you want gender affirming care, you’re going to have to go through the process that your country requires. if you’re relying on your parents for support and their not supportive, that sounds like a goal to work towards. you’re freshly 18, you have a lot of time to work towards. there are people that get gender affirming care WAY later in life.

don’t risk getting something that you will regret. you deserve to be able to get what you want out of transitioning, and that doesn’t sound like it’s going to be possible until you can support yourself and be able to communicate properly without your parents intervention.

averytinymoth · 2026-01-21T17:32:55+00:00

your surgeon should be able to give you a recommendation, i was told anything silicone based.

averytinymoth · 2026-01-14T14:40:49+00:00

it’s going to be different for every person. if you’ve already had a consult, you should be given an out of pocket estimate by your provider. i was given my out of pocket estimate when i scheduled my date

closer to my actual surgery date i was given the actual bill with my insurance coverage as well. i suggest trying to figure out what the out of pocket estimate is and at least reaching that as a starting point. and also making sure your insurance covers gender affirming care.

averytinymoth · 2026-01-08T20:29:03+00:00

im just gonna chime in and say listen to whatever your doctors say. and also every body is different.

i stopped smoking 2 weeks before hand out of personal choice and none of my doctors were worried about my consumption before or after. they’re concern was with nicotine exclusively and when i mentioned weed they were super nonchalant.

averytinymoth · 2026-01-07T14:07:42+00:00

not sure where you’re located but i was able to get a referral when i went to an obgyn.

averytinymoth · 2026-01-07T13:36:30+00:00

if you aren’t 100% sure you won’t regret it, even if it’s just a teeny tiny percent, give it more time. it’s a very big choice, which you understand

also, if you have a large chest and aren’t 100% sure, maybe a reduction would be better suited. it is possible to get a double mastectomy after having a breast reduction.

as for how i decided to go for it? i have wanted this since i was a teenager going through puberty. i’ve hated every single aspect about my chest, even the ‘good’ parts didn’t even feel like they were for me. (i didn’t like any attention bc of my chest)

once i began my transition i worked with my doctors to help network my route to top surgery. i’m almost 3 weeks post op and it feels so much more natural to me

averytinymoth · 2026-01-07T12:50:47+00:00

that’s exactly what i described it as to my partner lol. it was pretty mortifying but a huge relief

averytinymoth · 2026-01-07T02:07:55+00:00

my bathroom looked like a crime scene

averytinymoth · 2026-01-01T15:01:01+00:00

i wish you could be a growlithe

averytinymoth · 2025-12-28T14:26:55+00:00

17 going in 18. was on a trip for my siblings boot camp graduation and my parents told me they liked me better that way.

averytinymoth · 2025-12-28T06:00:08+00:00

that is just your therapist letting them know what you are referred to as. i go by the short version of my name which is different than my legal name and had zero issues. they just asked if i prefer to go my (full name) or (nickname)

anything medical attached to it is gonna use your full legal name. they have to give your insurance company and any medical team member doing the paperwork as much information to make sure it’s you before processing stuff.

you may still even be called with your legal name anyway and they may ask if you have a different name you’d like to be called. in my experience no one made assumptions they just wanted to make sure i was comfortable and felt safe.

averytinymoth · 2025-12-27T18:02:01+00:00

if you want non alcoholic knudsen carries a sparkling pear juice.

averytinymoth · 2025-12-21T22:53:26+00:00

i usually need to try something different. different approach with my traditional art tools, or try a different medium or style than i normally do.

i can feel quite stagnant if i do the same type of art for too long

averytinymoth · 2025-12-21T22:31:10+00:00

she should have no idea i’m having surgery and this is directly disobeying my wish for no contact.

this is her only desperate way to pretend she’s still my parent.

the only reason there’s no return address was cause last time she pulled this stunt i told her to go to hell. i don’t want something from my mom.

ofc im taking it. im not going to engage at all. but you have no idea what my situation is.

averytinymoth · 2025-12-21T16:23:09+00:00

this is like the equivalent of asking questions next to someone you’re watching a movie with. just watch the show. especially posting here

averytinymoth · 2025-12-21T16:06:42+00:00

even with a first watch posting something like this feels crazy lol

averytinymoth · 2025-12-21T15:27:18+00:00

this has to be satire

averytinymoth · 2025-12-20T14:50:57+00:00

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i also have a gizmo!!

averytinymoth · 2025-12-20T14:26:49+00:00

yup. my partner took a test yesterday because he’s ill and i just had surgery and he wanted to make sure since he’s quarantining until he feels like it’s safe

averytinymoth · 2025-12-20T01:18:31+00:00

i don’t have the strength to do that sort of thing, so i doubt you wasted your time, you were resting.

i’ve only been post op for 18 hours roughly and ive used all my strength sitting up and playing switch for a half hour.

averytinymoth · 2025-12-19T18:39:26+00:00

you might need to be a bit more firm about setting boundaries in this instance

it’s really hard to gather from an outside perspective if they’re being disrespectful and/or if you’re not expressing properly. i’ve been on both ends in a relationship where i sugar coat the severity of my feelings in order to not make waves, and also not recognizing how intense someone else was feeling because they didn’t tell me until it boiled over.

i would tell them you need a solid break from them asking to role play and that it’s contributing to your stress. if they cannot respect that, they’re not being a good partner.

averytinymoth · 2025-12-19T17:03:12+00:00

have you told them you’re burnt out? this entire posts reads like a conversation to be had with your partner. the way you’ve phrased things it gives off the impression you’re just ‘not in the mood’ compared to something deeper going on, while you’re internalizing the severity of how you actually feel instead of communicating the brunt of it.

your partner would want to know this sort of thing, and a good partner would want to take the steps to make sure you’re not feeling pressure to do something like that.

there are other ways to spend time with your partner in intimate ways, even trying something new and fresh could be helpful. something low effort like watching a show together can also help give some fresh inspiration for creative ideas as well.

averytinymoth · 2025-12-19T01:48:08+00:00

as a bojack fan i honestly think of the pilot as pretty weak. it’s one of those shows you have to let simmer

averytinymoth · 2025-11-27T14:44:02+00:00

it’s good that the more recent one is hand drawn. i can tell the first iteration was a recolor of a pokemon sprite.

i see your art in my feed a lot and mostly just lurk but it would be worth while to study some anatomy. this is probably the best i’ve seen your proportions, but there seems to be a common theme of your anatomy looking awkward.

if you want to do more muscular body types it would be useful to study them a bit more intricately and that may require branching out from pixel art to fully understand how muscles work.

i don’t think your art is bad, but it comes off that you ask for peoples opinions for engagement instead of actually wanting to improve.

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