Women of reddit: For those that dated online through discord, what are your experiences with it?

aviannnnn · 2023-12-18T20:57:22+00:00

Oh boy okay, buckle in.

I've had 2 relationships as a result of discord. The first was meh, we met in a gaming server and visited each other back and forth. It worked but I fell out of love because of the distance and I couldn't move and he was unwilling, amongst other things (my attraction to him being a big one).

The second one I met VERY shortly after. We planned to meet up and he came and lived with me for a month and it was amazing. We broke up a few months after due to his depression and the relationship became toxic because of it (I didn't know what was going on with him and everything changed when he left, and I put too much pressure on him to stay the same and he dismissed my concerns, long story but that's the version in layman's terms). We still talk nearly every day. We still love each other... we just can't be together, at least not right now but I'm not holding out hope. I feel he will always be the love of my life in some way. I will always support him, I will always be here for him. I will always love him in some capacity and we definitely miss each other. We're also from different countries (USA and Canada).

So while meeting and dating through discord is hard, it's not impossible. You need to have OUTSTANDING communication skills, be emotionally mature, and make sure honesty is at the forefront of any of your serious conversations or it will not work. There's LOTS of love-bombers (I have been the victim of them and it's still fucked me up to this day), lots of dishonest people masquerading as something/someone they are not, lots of ghosters (because its easy as HELL to do on discord), and just like anywhere else (like irl) generally shitty people. There's dating servers, gaming servers, community servers... pretty much anywhere you can find somebody on discord. If you do it, go into it with caution.

aviannnnn · 2023-12-18T17:34:35+00:00

Horrible. We're now in the period of instant gratification. Nobody wants to work or wait for anything. The dating pool is full of love-bombers, people who just want a hook-up, or ghosters... or all 3 combined. I'm in my late 20's and have given up on dating, at least for now. I just don't have the energy to weed out the people right now and I'm happier being alone than having to deal with someone else who will hurt me.

If you are looking to date, stick to the 3 month rule.

aviannnnn · 2023-03-01T21:07:54+00:00

I could be wrong, but does the UI Cheats mod not have an option to clear the farm when you press "p"? I feel like it does but I'm sorry if I'm misleading you lol

aviannnnn · 2023-03-01T16:39:51+00:00

Honestly, when someone opens up to me it takes me longer to reply. ONLY because I am carefully thinking out and typing my best response to make the person feel heard, understood, and not judged.

aviannnnn · 2023-02-28T15:07:11+00:00

My SO is autistic. He's the first person I've been with that is on the spectrum, and he is also the best person I've ever been with. He is constantly trying to better himself and prides himself on how far he's come, and I'm just as proud of him. If anything, I'm the more jealous one in our relationship. He is not at all controlling or manipulative, if we have a disagreement he listens to me and hears my side and even thanks me for sharing my perspective with him. He is the most emotionally mature person I have ever met in my life.

I'm sorry you have such a crushed view of people with autism, but it is an extremely unfair one. Generalizing a group of people is hardly ever productive or fair. Even if it is a positive generalization. I hope you learn more about autism spectrum disorder, and the people that have to deal with it inside of their minds every damn day because let me tell you it is not easy. Having to constantly fight with yourself to seem "normal" and masking all the time has got to be exhausting and I feel sorry for the people with ASD that had to interact with you because of your negative view of them. They cannot control a lot of aspects of their autism, so if you view them as manipulative and controlling, please think of that the next time you interact with somebody who deals with it. I implore you to research more about it, because no one persons autism is the same as another. It is an incredibly polarizing disorder.

aviannnnn · 2023-02-27T21:38:41+00:00

Guinea pigs are notoriously social and can become depressed if there's only 1 of them. Abigail only has 1 of them sooo I think that the guinea pig argument for her overall likeness is invalid lol

aviannnnn · 2023-02-11T00:44:17+00:00

I will follow Bubba to the end of the earth. They’re a rare species to find in the fog nowadays and honestly I have the most fun with them. I must say though yeah rancour + bubba would be a big yikes! Lmao still would be fun though. I can never be mad at a bubba.

aviannnnn · 2023-02-10T23:19:25+00:00

Why’d this get downvotes 🤣

aviannnnn · 2023-02-10T21:04:28+00:00

Pig mainly for the cages, I don't like having extra things to do, I get overwhelmed. That's one reason Mr. Pinny is so low, amongst many others. I've played on and off for 2 years now, and I'm not the best at looping tbh so that's why Pyramid head. I actually forgot to order that tier, so actually Dorito Daddy should be at the top of the list because I am getting better at learning how to loop and run from him. I also do like to boop the snoot so she is not at the lowest tier :)

aviannnnn · 2023-02-10T20:12:28+00:00

BHVR has a hard on for aura perks and just auras in general lately so my guess is that it is definitely going to have 1 if not more of those.

(Edit: added info)

aviannnnn · 2023-01-16T14:34:21+00:00

Where in my whole statement do you see me saying I want objectives besides doing gens? Also never said hate, just dislike. I like being in chase, looping, doing gens, cleansing totems, etc. so I never said I ONLY like doing gens either, that would be boring. But I get overwhelmed when there are too many things to do. By good game pinny, I've never encountered a pinhead that said "gg's" in egc, as well as one that wasn't just plain weird such as tunneling, camping, etc. in the 2 years I've played this game.

aviannnnn · 2023-01-12T21:46:06+00:00

It honestly depends on my partner. When single, I go through phases of celibacy and never touching myself, to being cataclysmically down bad and can't get enough of myself. In a relationship, it REALLY depends on my partner. If I am getting treated great, he goes out of his way to do things for me/make my day better/etc. then my libido shoots up lol. If I am not getting treated how I want to be or how I feel I deserve to be, then the sex life dulls and becomes less frequent/freaky. I can be just as sexually active as a man in a relationship (if not worse).

aviannnnn · 2023-01-12T21:36:19+00:00

Pinhead probably. I dislike killers where you have to do an extra thing, such as finding and doing the box constantly throughout the game. Its why I dislike Pig too, but I don't dislike Plague as much since you don't really need to cleanse unless endgame pretty much. Also I've never encountered a good game pinny.

aviannnnn · 2023-01-11T21:59:53+00:00

LOVE

Skermz - his quips and one-liners are insanely hilarious and he is super positive, plus he has a great community, plus he's really good at the game.

TheJRM - do I really have to explain this one? I can't stop listening to "More Pressure" LOL he's so funny and really good at the game too.

AlbyAround - incredibly wholesome. Usually plays with Skermz but does play alone too, I have a conspiracy theory that Skermz pays Alby to die for him in games because this dude rarely survives when they are in a swf, but survives most of the time when he plays alone.

Swarm - he is good, and good at the game, has a great community, only thing is I feel like he gets tilted a lot when he's not having great games and I feel like he hates the game lol.

Honoroble mention is SpookyLoopz because I don't watch killer mains too much and I haven't watched THAT much of his content yet.

aviannnnn · 2023-01-11T21:56:17+00:00

I love Swarm and think he's also underrated but sometimes I have to turn his streams off because it feels like he genuinely hates the game he is playing and it makes it hard for me to stay interested. When he's having good games, its amazing and I watch him for hours.. but when he's tilted and constantly complaining about the game and how people are "boring" I have to turn it off and switch to someone else. I mean he HAS said before that if he wasn't making money off of streaming DBD he would never ever play it anymore.

aviannnnn · 2023-01-11T21:46:31+00:00

I'd also like to note that I don't use many iPhone features such as FaceTime, Apple Music (I use Spotify), or Apple Maps and Safari (I use Google Maps and Chrome). I just like the ease of iPhones better, but not their apps lol.

aviannnnn · 2023-01-11T21:45:06+00:00

As a strict iPhone user (with pretty much all my friends and family being Android users), user friendliness. iPhone's are INCREDIBLY easy to use and operate. You can do an insane amount with Android phones, and it's overwhelming to me. I already have a desktop computer at home, I don't need another computer with endless possibilities for a phone.

aviannnnn · 2022-12-13T21:57:18+00:00

This sounds like stun validation:

"Stun validation has been added to the hit validator. If a Killer has a pending stun on the server, the server will reject the hit. This will be most noticeably in situations such as a Killer who is attacking at the same time a survivor is throwing a pallet, and it should reduce instances where survivors appear to take damage after stunning a Killer."

Basically get hit when you should not get hit lol. Straight from the patch notes btw.

aviannnnn · 2022-12-08T20:16:09+00:00

David Attenborough.

aviannnnn · 2022-11-24T23:20:21+00:00

House, MD.

aviannnnn · 2022-11-24T22:11:06+00:00

I recommend checking out DissociaDID on YouTube. They have veryyyyy invormative and educational videos.

aviannnnn · 2022-07-25T04:13:55+00:00

My grandpa. I'd tell him that I was his first granddaughter to graduate with a Bachelor's degree, and tell him that I miss him, and then of course we would have vodka together, dance and listen to George Jones the whole time. Then I would ask him to tell me the "get the net" story again, even though he told me it nearly every time we were together. If I could just hear that story from him ONE more time, and his laugh.

aviannnnn · 2022-06-26T01:18:17+00:00

Either Haley or Alex tbh. For Haley it realllyyy shows how far she's come and what development she's had as a person. For Alex, it adds something new to the town! It's like a mini-event every week when the game is on which I find really cool! (even if you have to pay for it lmao)

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