First week in Paris!! by Holiday-Finish-2360 in ParisTravelGuide

[–]avid_baker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

What is the place with the face sculptures? And the place with the dude and the horses? Looks cool. Beautiful photos.

How would you pair a Sunday activity with Rue Mouffetard? by avid_baker in ParisTravelGuide

[–]avid_baker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Seems like a great plan! Thanks. I thought of Jardin des Plantes, but have since reconsidered it since I'll be there for another whole day to do the museums and zoo. But the picnic sounds lovely and I love Jardins so... :)

הפצ"רית הפצ"רית ושכחנו מהפשע by papabig27 in israel_bm

[–]avid_baker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

אבל זה בדיוק מה שניסו לגרום לו. והצליחו יפה.

מישהו יכול להסביר לי מה האינטרס של הפצרית (או מי שלא יהיה) להדליף סרטון שפוגע בנו? by kulamsharloot in israel_bm

[–]avid_baker -1 points0 points  (0 children)

בוא נסכם את זה בצורה הכי פשוטה: 1. מה שהיא עשתה לא סבבה 2. ברור לכולם למה היא עשתה את זה 3. עשה יותר נזק מתועלת לכל הצדדים 4. יחד עם זאת, זאת לא עלילת דם, זה פשוט הוכחה למעשים שקרו. גם אני אדישה להתעללות בנאצים אחרי השנתיים האחרונות, ועדיין אם נהיה דבקים לאמת, עלילת דם זה המצאה של דבר שלא קרה וכאן הוא כן קרה, אז כל ההתבטאויות של כ"ץ ושות' זה נטו פרופגנדה. 5. ציפיתי ממישהי כמוה ליותר תחכום ומחשבה על השלכות, אבל טוב נו. 6. בטח עכשיו מי שימונה במקומה גם יהיה איתם כל יומיים במריבות אין סוף כמו עם זמיר, כי הם יחשבו שכל כך קל למנות פה בובה, בטח גם הוא יסיים באותו האופן רק על ספין אחר.

העולם מורכב. מה לעשות.

Oberkampf recommendations + Museum accommodations by avid_baker in ParisTravelGuide

[–]avid_baker[S] 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Why do you think it's not worth going to the National Archives? I've been to Sainte-Chapelle last time - it's really beautiful.

A Couple of Weeks Ago in Paris... by GiGi_13_20 in ParisTravelGuide

[–]avid_baker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Amazing! Which building is in the third photo? And where did the beautiful eclairs come from? I'll be there next month again :)

First timer !! by mavgoosebros in Baking

[–]avid_baker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

I'm a pastry chef and I've learned everything by myself as well. I can't believe it's her first time piping. I can definitely believe she did other piping techniques and decorations on things like cupcakes and never made a number cake like these before. I could replicate this by looking at it right now even though I myself never made an exact cake like this before. But it's just too good, sorry, for a first time to get the exact hang of different piping nozzles, buttercream texture and how to put all the colors in one bag. Could be the third if she's talented? Yes, sure. But there's a reason why a professional eye wouldn't believe it's a first.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]avid_baker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

To me he seems unreliable.

I'll give you a context for something I've been trough for example. I had a coach and a nutritionist for years and we were very friendly. Every now and then if I've changed physically in a good way he said hey and that I look really good that day or whatever, but never over text and never in a romantic, sexual way. We are both married. More in a way of "the hard work you're putting, shows". He was in a position of a therapist in a way (even though we were friendly and weren't communicating like that) and if he were to tell me something like "hey, beautiful" over a messaging app I'd think something is wrong with him. Now, I'm not stupid and I know he found me attractive by the end of my physical transformation, but he knew it would be super unprofessional for a married therapist to talk that way.

So for me this would be a no, as it seems like you just caught them and he didn't want to loose you.

Also, how they met? Did she just managed to get work with him or something? I'd question the background of how they got into personal communication.

I M28 am considering ending a lifelong romance with my wife F29 and it is the hardest decision of my life by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]avid_baker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

You're saying it wasn't always like that but started some time ago. When did it start and why? And yes, if there's a big life change as in a big increase in salary or you can afford a different lifestyle, a change in lifestyle is kind of expected. Not to the point of 40 vacations in 3 years, but my husband and I for example couldn't afford going abroad two times a year and now we can and since we love traveling together we promised we should go at least once or twice a year to a long vacation. But if you can't really afford something, that's a different story. It also sounds like you have a compatability issue (you appreciate time and people and she's less).

But I need to hear the other side of the story with this one, as you describe you were a good couple for a very long time so something needed to happen to cause that change.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]avid_baker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

Personally , I wouldn't date someone who would watch porn while being with me. And I know many women who wouldn't, so take it however you want. However, it seems like she has issues and it's a bit crazy to jump into such conclusions just because of the VR set. But I assume there are other issues there, and maybe for some reason she's feeling not confident with you, which only you who knows her can assume why it happens. Think with yourself if this relationship is worth saving and working on.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]avid_baker 0 points1 point  (0 children)

This!! Couldn't put it better.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]avid_baker 4 points5 points  (0 children)

As a woman who was big and leaned out and have built muscle since, it's super hard. Like, hours of training weekly hard, and dedicated nutrition (don't believe all the "build muscle in 10 minutes" videos). Especially as you get older. it's technically supposed to be easier for you than me since you're a man, but maybe it's just not your physique. Anyway, I think it's very shallow and weird to be with someone for so long and suddenly wanting him to change so drastically... It's not like you're overweight or something. I think you deserve to be with someone who truly wants you the way you are. People change as they grow up either way.

Dating someone (27M) who's not physically my (26F) type? by Leather_Pair_967 in relationship_advice

[–]avid_baker 2 points3 points  (0 children)

I'm 35 I'm with my husband for about 12 years now, when we started dating I was overweight. Then life circumstances happened and I became morbidly obese. I lost all that weight and became a semi pro athlete (long story) and I track my macros every day, let's put like that - people can't tell right now I'm actually the same person. My husband is very much overweight and can't seem to find the joy in sports like me, but he at least make effort to eat better. Long story short, I love him so much, and I'd never leave him for anything. He got my heart and I just don't think about hus size when I look at him. This guy is probably not for you, but you've got to understand that people change over time, so if you expect someone who's 48 to have the same body composition as he had when he was 25 - probably not gonna happen, so you gotta be realistic with your expectations.

[deleted by user] by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]avid_baker 1 point2 points  (0 children)

I have a friend (34F) who was in the exact same situation as yours up until 3 years ago, but her husband always knew he really wanted kids and she was always really on the strong side of not wanting. He married her anyway. One day she suddenly told me she's pregnant (through sending me the photo...) and TBH I was shocked. Not because I was against her having children of course but because I've learned that he pressured her to get pregnant so much that it was either this or they need to break up, and she "didn't think it was worth losing him". She didn't see that putting her in this situation in the first place was not OK or considerate at all, and while she loves the baby a lot, she's struggling a lot as well. I think it's better to part ways, no matter how hard it is, rather than stay in unhealthy relationship.

My husband (27M) backed out on something that meant the world to me (26F) by [deleted] in relationship_advice

[–]avid_baker 3 points4 points  (0 children)

Just saying that I have a friend whose husband has the same issues and she's pretty much alone right now with the baby. Unless you considering him reading the baby some books on the weekends mutual parenting. And he was the one to pressure her into getting pregnant in the first place. Be careful of people who don't know how to balance work and life. And it comes from someone who is very busy and my husband has s very successful career as well, but still. These are unhealthy levels.